Elaine has a working class backround, and understands the trials of life. Here she shares some of her thoughts on many different topics
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No...everyone is different and depending what you have going on in your life or if you havn't accepted or the reality of the loss hasn't sunk in, they can have an effect.
Everyone we meet has an impact on us good and bad. When we lose someone who has been a constant in our lives or been a massive influence on us. Sometimes it can be someone who has been in our lives a short time, who can make that lasting impression that it may hurt the most.
For example...a parent or a sibling, who we've been close to for many years, then maybe a disagreement even moving away and just the distance becoming greater, where both sides don't make an effort. A friend or lover who you've been so close to, spent all your time with maybe married or had plans for the future, then a drifting apart..maybe years in some cases. Some of us hear of them passing and really struggle to get over the loss, but is it their loss we struggle with or is it our own feelings of a guilt? Guilt we feel for losing touch, not making an effort as we expected those to? Resentment towards that person for not making an effort as you had hoped or expected? Also the memories come flooding back, of the good times and how much of an impression they were on you. All of these are factors in grief. If you lose someone that you spent a lot of time with, very close to and who were a constant in your life, that hurt will seem to hurt more as they were part of your life there and then! And that is a hurt like no other as that loss is actually happening to you, whereas someone you've drifted apart from, whether by a fall out or just by these things happen, in a sense that loss has already happened and the moving on has taken place naturally.
Losing someone close, is heart wrenching and can take a long time to grieve, memories always come back in many ways.
For me, and for many others im sure, it can hit me when i'm walking along a street and it suddenly hits me that i'm walking along a street that a loved one walked down. Eating a particular food or cooking a certain dish and it hits me how i know how to cook that dish...i've watched a loved one cook it, then it hits me all over again that their influence is still there and ongoing. It hits me how much of an influence they've had on me which i've then passed on to my children. So the generations do cross and i really marvel at that.
It's the same when i hear about someone that i've maybe not seen for a long time for whatever reason, like i said previously, i do feel regret but i also feel the love that was once there and again memories come back, sometimes memories that have long been forgotten.
Rekindle old friendships, family ties and let go of the wounds that have kept you apart. Make the time as that's what we all have in common, we all want more time with those we love.
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Well...would you really want to?? I certainly wouldn't!
I was recently told about someone, who had been told the age when they would die. I've heard this more and more lately and i'm horrified by the lack of human sympathy and empathy shown by mediums and psychics who do this. Another lady was given a date, and every year when that date comes round she worries and panics.
It's so wrong on so many levels, a medium wouldn't be made aware of it and a psychic would be reading your energy which also includes your fears, hopes and dreams good and bad. So if you have a fear of dying, have it in your mind to get past a certain age, maybe a few loved ones have passed around the same age and you have that in your thoughts, which is essentially in your aura, a psychic would be reading it in your energy, it's not to say it's correct!
Firstly, my thoughts would be to run a mile from anyone that tells you this, as mediums and psychics can't know. It would show to me that maybe that person hasn't understood fully what they were receiving, they could be transferring their own fears, shock tactics or some even have the thoughts that they can play God! There would be no reason except to feed fear that this is said. We wouldn't be told and we do not know when we are going to pass. It would rob us of good and bad times with everyone in our lives. Unfortunately we all have to go through sad and happy times, which includes the loss of a loved one, grief and grieving.
Imagine being told you were going to pass at say, 25, and you meet the love of your life at 22. You wouldn't get married, have children, make plans for the future and build your hopes and dreams. What would be the point of doing all that when you would only have 3 years!? Can you imagine? You'd be counting down the days and robbing yourself of all the happiness and joy in your life. You would in fact, be stopping the happiness and joy!
Yes some of us have longer lives than others, some seem to have happier lives, some even seem to do more with their lives! But we all have choices, and we can choose to strive for bettering ourselves, have better experiences and do more within our lifetime.
The length of your life all depends on yourself. Health for example, we can be diagnosed with an illness or condition and it's up to us how we handle it. Do we let it affect our enjoyment of life with worry, stress (sometimes any diagnosis or news we can't get our head round) as it can be an initial shock to the system essentially shortening our enjoyment or quality of life. Or we can choose to try to make the most of it, and help ourselves whether that means a lifestyle change, medications etc.
You might find yourself in a relationship that you've grown out of or it's maybe a toxic relationship that you've just accepted as "your lot in life" . Again the choice is, do i stay or do i go - staying would be putting up, not full happiness. Going or moving on may usually lead you to better relationships, or at least relationships which should be more fulfilling and rewarding for you. So again it's down to choice.
If you knew when you were going to "die" you wouldn't make choices and you might as well say the word "choice" just doesn't exist and is a stupid word even!
The reality is, none of us know when we will "die" so we can live each day to the fullest, enjoy each emotion or let each emotion touch us and experience the joys in our life.
Each person's joy will be different from someone else's. You will have heard the saying - one person's joy is another person's sorrow, and it's true.
So live your life to the fullest, love people when they're in your life and have hopes, dreams and aspirations.
Do you agree?
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A question i get asked a lot...is everyone psychic? Yes, but, is everyone a medium?..No and in this blog i'll explain why and the differences...
Yes everyone has an inbuilt psychic ability and some develop theirs to a high degree, as a psychic tunes into a living energy ie; a person physically living, an incarnate soul. They vibrate on an energy vibration which is very similar and resonates with their energy field or aura. An incarnate energy is denser and heavier than discarnate energy which would make it easier for psychic's to tune into incarnate energy as they are similar vibrations and also where past, present and future would be picked up.
A medium sets an intention, lifting themself to a higher vibration which is more purer and lighter. They are able to blend easier with discarnate energy as the discarnate energy is light, purer. It can be draining for a medium and for the discarnate spirit as it can take a lot of energy on both sides.
Can a psychic be a medium?...no as their vibration wouldn't be raised enough, whereas a medium can also be a psychic as a medium can drop their vibration to blend on the psychic.
Mediumistic is seen as a higher purer way of working and widely accepted as being a higher level of working than a psychic and why now, a lot of psychics use the term medium without actually being able to make mediumistic connections.
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Courage is a word i don't think about that often...lately i've had that word going round in my mind a lot, which led me to thinking..
How many times do we recognise our own courage? not a lot! but we've all got courage and it shows itself in many ways. Courage can be something that might seem trivial to many but is a massive thing to others. I'm going to share my thoughts on what ive thought lately about "courage"..
For a lot of people, waking up in the morning is just the "norm" but if you think about it, this can be a very courageous thing for someone that doesn't want to be here anymore, whether thats been caused by illness, mental health or just how they've seen their life at that time and thought life would be better off without them. They've decided to make that choice of waking up and facing another day.
There are lots of times we would all like to sit back and let life pass us by, not take care of "routine", housework, deadlines, caring for others, finance's, and some people do sit back and let things pile up, BUT then they gain the courage by whichever way, to decide to pick themselves up and they find the courage to battle through whatever is pulling or holding them back.
You hear of people who have took that "leap of faith" and changed their life completely by moving to a different country, changing their careers or even changing their life path because it felt the right thing to do, it felt right or sometimes because of a life threatening health reason people have chose to have a better life or be a better person...it all took courage to take that "leap of faith".
Each choice we make takes courage, in 2015 i took a leap of faith and chose to become a full time medium. At the time i was working in the care sector, regular income, regular set hours, fellow workers i could rely on in a job i loved, but due to health issues i couldn't do that work in a reliable manner and was put in a position to either move to a job i could do or not work. I thought things through over a few months and the only thing that felt right to me, was something that i'd been doing outside of my working life, something i loved and still love doing, what i feel is my calling....MEDIUMSHIP! I spoke to my kids, my daughter said "Mom if it's what you want to do, then go for it! My son said "How will you pay bills? You're making a mistake! It's not a job it's just something you do! He even said at one point.."You've lost the plot!" I still spent a little time thinking it through, trying to weigh up my options and decided i didn't want to spend the rest of my life creating more wear and tear on my body, being tied to other people's routine's etc and realised i lived to work, my working life was leading my personal life and what i could and couldn't do, due to work hours which led to, yes, a regular income but an income that would only change by a few pence to a couple of pounds a year. I realised if i became a full time medium it would be more hours (much more haha) for possibly less money but i had the choice of more variation, though i only have myself to rely on and it's all good. I can honestly say, having the courage to make that decision, was one of the best ive made.
I'm not suggesting that anyone should make a life changing decision, what i am saying, is, when you reflect back over the past week, month, year or your life at decisions you've made willingly and knowingly and sometimes decisions you've been in a position that you had to, acknowledge the courage you have inside yourself, acknowledge that something you may not see as having courage, even what may seem as minor things like making an effort with yourself, all take courage, the courage to make a decision.
So "courage was going round and round in my head, i thought it through and for me, courage comes with decisions that some of us take for granted and others find hard, courage is in all of us and how we show courage is sometimes not seen by others but recognised by ourselves. Courage isn't always dangerous pastimes like lion taming, mountain climbing
(though i might add, those that do lion taming etc are extremely courageous!)
Courage for a lot of people, can be simply having the courage to get through each day.
If you would like to add your thoughts, be brave and have the courage to make a comment
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Sometimes it can seem as though you come to a stop or maybe not furthering your mediumship, but there's a few reasons it can be happening.
Mediumship development helps you move forward and unlocks any"blocks" you might have.
It helps you think outside the box and opens your awareness more.
if you have any questions about development or would like to book, do get in touch and i'm sure i can help you.
Mediumship is as easy as you want to make it or you can make it hard...it's your choice.
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This is a question that will always be out there, as everyone has their own thoughts about it.
A psychic connects with your energy but doesnt know who is telling them this or they recognise that it's their guides working with them.
A medium connects to spirits energy and gives evidence of them, they recognise who they are connecting to.
A medium can work mediumistically and psychically but a psychic can't work upwards.
Hence the saying "All mediums are psychic but not all psychics are mediums"
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All through our lives we're conditioned to feel guilt in some form, whether it's letting parents down with school grades or ourselves with our behaviours or reactions, we don't forgive ourselves and guilt then forms and we start a vicious circle which then makes it harder to forgive etc etc
When we begin to forgive, the ideal place is to start with ourselves, maybe we don't live upto other's or our own expectations, and it's fine.
When we think back over situations or events that we hold in and numb our emotions to, the best way we can look is, did we have any control over events? maybe we were children or someone else made us feel inferior with our decision making? Maybe we made the right choice at the time or a decision that was the only choice we had at that time? Many different factors come into our minds as we think, hindsight is a wonderful thing and hindsight can help you with forgiving yourself. Maybe we don't like who we are as a person or some of our traits, usually we can look back at parents and see ourselves in them, sometimes the parts of our parents we disliked or try to not be can be the part of us we don't like and that can be a thin line.
When we broaden our thinking and try to understand why things happen or maybe why people are how they are, maybe because of their learnt behaviour, we start to see patterns we can break or change, this is when you can start to forgive yourself, situations, choices etc and you will find acceptance is a part of forgiveness too. In time you may be able to forgive more than yourself
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You'll often hear people refer to a medium as a “clairvoyant”. Some might even use the word “clairvoyant” instead of the word medium. However, these are two separate things. And when working with mediumship it is important to know the difference between the two.
A clairvoyant medium is able to communicate with the spirit world by using the sense of seeing. This does not necessarily mean that the clairvoyant medium sees the spirits with his or her physical eyes. Instead, a clairvoyant medium sees the spirit world with his or her “inner eye” or “third eye”. It can occur in many ways. It’s important to remember that all mediums are different. And it is rare for two mediums to work or develop in the exact same way.
A medium is a person that is able to communicate with the spirit world. Clairvoyance is one of many ways in which the medium can communicate with the spirits. The word means “clear seeing”. If the medium is clairvoyant, it means that he or she talks to the spirit world by using sight, in one way or the other. Not all mediums use their clairvoyance. In fact, all mediums have their own ways of communicating, and it does not have to be through the clairvoyant sense. Some mediums use their clairaudience, which means that they “hear” the spirit world. Others are clairgustient, which means that they “taste” the spirit world. In this blog we will look closer at clairvoyance.
Some mediums use colours when they are connecting for a reading. They might, for instance, see the colour blue while communicating with a spirit. Colors can mean different things for different mediums. The colour blue might mean calmness for some, indicating that the spirit coming through might have been a very calm person or it might stand for communication for some, meaning that the spirit was a calm person.
Some mediums are able to see short movies in their mind. They might be able to see whole memories from the spirit being played in their mind. As with pictures, movies are also put together by the clairvoyant mediums own mental images and memories.
Like all types of mediums, a clairvoyant does not automatically mean that you are spiritually enlightened. Some people expect all mediums to be kind, loving, and joyful people, all with a loving intention. This is not the case. Clairvoyants, as with all mediums, are able to do what they do, without being spiritually enlightened.
Most good mediumship teachers will teach their students that they will need to work on themselves, before they start to help others. A medium that is not in contact with themselves will easily become subjective in a reading, drawing conclusions from their own experience and issues. This can sometimes have serious consequences as they mislead their sitters. A medium that is spiritually developed and balanced will find it easier to do readings that are accurate. They will not have to hesitate when it comes to what is true and not. They will simply know, or feel it. They will often also have the ability to “feel” what their clients need.
The way different clairvoyant mediums “see” things can vary greatly. Some clairvoyants read. They might get a word, or many words, spelled out in their mind. Others just see parts of images, and are then able to paste these together, in order for it to make sense.
For people that are working on developing themselves spiritually, clairvoyance and many other types of mediumship often come with it as these skills are a part of who we truly are. Most spiritually developed mediumship teachers will agree that this is the best way of developing, as it will lead to more accurate readings made out of love and truth. Giving a good reading means enlightment, love, respect and experience.
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Spirit guides are real, or a better way to explain is, some have lived before and some have chose not to live in a physical life.
A guide won't judge you, tell you what to do or fall out with you as they have evolved spiritually to a higher frequency, they hold none of the traits of the physical life such as any negative feelings. Some will have lived before as friends and family also people you will have known will also help you, giving you guidance for your best outcome in your life, its your choice to follow it or not. Some guides you won't have known, as these will be the ones who chose to be guides once they passed over, but they will resonate with you.
Their purpose is for guidance and healing in your own life firstly, for those that do open to spirit then your guides will teach and work with you for others.
A lot of people have had imaginary friends when they were children, these would have been guides, as guides are energy, they would have appeared as other children or something that child would have related too, as we are human, our brains need to make sense of things, so they would "fit" to our understanding of the world and surroundings at that time. As our awareness of our world and surroundings grow, so our guides appear to "change".
They guide you from within for your healing, how many times have you noticed old memories that have emotionally hurt or scarred you, start to come to the front of your mind? and you've no idea why?...It's usually because you are going through a similar situation which would cause the same emotional wounds or behaviours, which would again, be stored within. So they help bring memories back for you to release and the choice to change reactions or behaviours which have become a vicious circle for you. This could be situations, people or choices in your life.
Guides will give you feelings and they're usually quite subtle as you begin to trust your "gut" which is the clairsentience, the sensing. As your trust comes, you'll notice pictures appear and you might start to hear too. This can be "foresight for yourself, which comes in with the guidance and healing for yourself too.
Guides and mediumship development
Meditation is the ideal way to connect to your guides, you'll sense them, see them (not always straight away) and you can talk to them. Connecting through meditation helps to build your trust and confidence up as you'll be receiving guidance for yourself.
In mediumship and psychic development, your guides again work with you to open all your senses as there are quite a few, and the more senses you open and become aware of can make a difference to connections and symbols.
In development there are various exercises that strengthen your blend, as you lift your vibration, spirit lower theirs to make that blend possible as they learn to work with you and your awareness. These exercises would be done in a development class or on a 1 to 1 basis and make a difference to your understanding.
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This is very much misunderstood, NO we don't, they're more alive than we are, it's the physical body that expires but the soul is eternal.
In case you didn't know it, they're are around you more than you realise and it's love that brings them closer.
They come back because they want to, and a medium can't force them, some don't come back at all if they don't want to. They come with love and concern for their family, for support and help with grief.
They ultimately choose to come back