Meditation is a way of bringing clarity, focus and peace to your mind, but...clearing out your cupboards or home is just as effective!
Long lost belongings, clothes or keepsakes that you keep in boxes in an attic or tucked away in a drawer or cupboard can keep you attached to forgotten memories, people or times we don't want to think about for many reasons. Clearing these help to clear yourself of the attachments to these times, emotions or let go of people.
As we declutter we face our attachments with compassion we are driven by consuming emotions, these are emotions that we pour our energy into that don't give us anything back but, they consume and drain us....whether you realise it they also block you from energies such as love, joy, courage, grace, peace, generosity.
As you declutter you transform.
Time to tidy
When you decide it's time to tidy, when you feel ready to clear out the old take notice of your feelings, listen to your internal self and just sit with that feeling, have a conversation with yourself about the emotions or feelings that have been raised. When strong emotions and make you question do you have the strength to go ahead, it's time to take a break.
Decluttering is ultimately self-care and if you aren't practising self-care as you do it then it is not a self-care activity.
As you clear the clutter set your intention for each room, for example a bedroom you might intend that space for relaxation love or joy, a bathroom may be intended for rejuvenation, cleansing and purifying.
Clear the energy
In each space clear the items that don't resonate with the energies you intend for that space, for example old letters or gifts from an ex love might hold the energies of regret, resentment and a form of bitterness which will prevent the flow of love into your bedroom. Bills might make you feel anxious.
To spiritually cleanse a room we have to meet the things that are causing our spiritual energy to drain and instead intend the energy that allows our spiritual life to flourish.
So you've set the intention in your bedroom now how do you do that with clothes or your sock draw??
if you open your drawer and theres something there that makes you go urghh! it's stopping that full flow of love and balance in that room. if it's an item that is well past being well worn or well used, but you think 'i paid good money for that!' its creating a feeling of guilt which is again slowing down or stopping the flow of love and needs to be cleared.
There are items we keep like old photos, a gift a child has made or a gift from a deceased loved one like a parent, when we come across these we open up the feelings and emotions that can stop us in our tracks. These can still make us feel drained that just holding at it or looking at it makes us want to collapse, and you put it back in the drawer. This shows an attachment to that object, whether it's regret, sadness, worry or a fear. This is where compassion comes in, because its compassion as a spiritual energy that transforms suffering.
We have to learn to sit with compassion for ourselves, for the object and the story that brings those emotions forward.
Piles of regret
"That still needs doing" do you hear yourself saying this? paperwork can be a minefield to go through but can be sorted into 'guilt' 'regret' 'anxiety' piles. Old medical records from 10 years ago might bring up guilt or regret and isn't worthy of the space in your head it takes up.
You don't need to be carrying that physical, emotional and spiritual weight.
Sort the remaining papers out, this might not give you joy but it will give you access to what you need, not feeling afraid or anxious about looking into those files because you don't know if you'll find what your looking for (or what else you might find!?)
That's freedom and thats what you're aiming for. to be able to lay your hands on what we need as well as what we love.
Whether its candles, lipsticks, cookbooks or anything else, collections are likely to show your buying habits when your in psychic pain or in a difficult position emotionally.
Once you go through decluttering and see how your purchasing power has been driven by your pain, hopefully you can deals with those habits by recognising and they will change.
Spiritual decluttering is an opportunity to practise letting go of things that no longer serve us (or never did)
Letting go doesnt have to be painful, it can be an act of grace or gratitude.
Pick up an object as if it were an old friend, thank it, forgive it if it never served you then let it go.
Clutter will show up again but it will become easier to see and take care of quickly.
Like a gardener, you'll have learned the difference between weeds and cultivated plants.
Decluttering is less an activity with a start and a finish, more a way of life.
Tips for a pain-free clear out
Surrender what doesn't serve you and create more space in your heart and soul for what you need...
from bad habits to holding grudges to full blown addictions we all have burdens we could do with putting aside.
Letting go or loosening the grip on our negative emotions like fear, anger or even releasing attachment to certain people is often harder than it sounds.
We all stand in our pwn way at times by making excuses to hold on a little longer, sometimes conciously and unconciousnessly. Causing ourselves mental, physical suffering and distress not forgetting the emotional and spiritual pain.
How and why do we cling onto behaviours, feelings and people when they are holding us back? How do we release them?
The answers often lie in our early years, as our past influences us massively. Upbringing, betrayals, traumas, humiliations, neglect wounds all form our thought process which become a template in the mind. When triggered cause us to act and react .
One way offinding out what it actually is we need to let go of is recognising when we feel the need to react or act in a certain way. A way that doesn't feel right, a way that doesn't serve us in a good way, in other words a negative way maybe out of spite, jealousy, but it doesn't move us forward it only serves to hold us back. So we've caused ourselves to be stuck in the same pattern of actions and reactions.
The first step is to have a concious awareness of ourselves and this is usually where we often fall down. We automatically push away what makes us feel uncomfortable and out of our conciousness.
become aware of your habits and what you push away, work out what triggers you or maybe brings up strong emotions. Really notice if you do things repeatedly, talk about yourself in a certain way.
In the beginning don't even ask why, just acknowledge your action or reaction and that you over reacted.
keep a diary so you can see repeated patterns which you may not have even noticed, but once you identify the negative behaviours or habits that are holding you back this gives you your intent for letting go. First just let the issue be for a little while, don't fight it, push it away or instantly try to change it as this can make it worse but just be with it. The acknowledgement will allow it to move naturally without forcing it.
Then you can meditate with intention, to visit the lower levels of your subconcious or conciousness as what holds you back, resides in the lower self. " My intention is to connect to the lower world of myself to find my power place and i ask spirit to help me"
In time you can then set your intention to pin down the specific cause of issues which you want to let go.
"My intention is to visit the lower world to find the cause of my anxiety and what would overcome it"
You will most likely see your inner child at a certain age or scenes from childhood. Acknowledge the scenes you see or scenes you witnessed and talk to your inner child explaining "time has passed and the child doesn't have to hang on to pain or humiliation anymore" bringing that child back to the present with you.
Write down any issue or write a letter to your inner child then burn the paper, this way you are dealing with it in the energy mind but also manifesting letting go in the real world.
Do you live to work or work to live?
We have to do it to pay our bills, put a roof over our heads, food on the table and have a luxury like new clothes, jewellry or a holiday!
On average we work approx 40 hours per week with some professionals doing more, we have mounting pressure to keep our jobs by increasing our efforts. Work can be very stressful and actually fills the majority of our waking time.
We live to work
But...how many of us work to live and actually achieve that work~life balance?
This can be a very difficult task to undertake and accomplish.
The stress of work can actually seriously contribute to mental health and physiological conditions.
It has long been recognised by the spiritual community that the mind influences the body.
Our lifestyles are slowly killing us with stress and we are truly out of balance. There is a need to rediscover the balance and bring harmony between mond, body and soul.
Medical science has caught up and have recognised the valuable concept of 'psyche and soma' which literally means mind and body.
Over the years some philosophers have interpreted the psyche to not only mean the mind or conciousness but also the soul.
In 1964 George Freeman Solomon wrote of the 'emotions, immunity and disease' and first made aware the medical link between the immune system and emotions which studies followed.
Ancient philosophers such as Plato and Hippocrates believed a good balance between the psyche and the soma resulted in good health whilst imbalance created ill health.
So that need for balance has always been there as a belief system to some.
Pressure that some women feel to become pregnant can result in phantom pregnancies, shell shocked soldiers have developed physical illnesses that have been linked to the horrors they witnessed in battle.
Modern medical research has discovered there is a two way communication between the mind and the body.
Our thoughts create a physical response in our bodies.
By altering our breathing we can actually change the feelings of pain. In the early 1990's it was found that cancer patients who controlled their anger or grief did not recover as well as those who expressed their emotions.
Those of us who are of the spiritual nature or working in the world of spiritualism, know how emotions, specially negative ones being kept in can affect us and our abilities.
We are a being of soul and mind encased in a physical body, it's important that we take care of every aspect of this divine trinity and treat them as 'the holy three'
It begins with finding that work-life balance in our life. If we are happy in our jobs we are healthier in ourselves. If we unhappy at work we take time off then feel guilty about it which then adds to our ill health.
It has been known that at the start of an annual holiday from work, you can become sick due to the mind and body relaxing and suddenly feeling tired and drained.
if working lives do not change there is a danger of autoimmune diseases and physical conditions creeping in to become the pague of the young and old as we bow down to stress. Why? Because we are out of balance and have created a society which ignores the soul.
Symptoms of autoimmune illnesses can range from fatigue, fever, joint pain and more. These diseases happen when the bodies own immune system attacks and destroys healthy body tissue, essentially we are killing ourselves.
In times of stress; bereavement, divorce, loss of a job, our immune defences are low and we develop all types of illnesses from depression, aches, breaking out in sores to many others. The psychosomatic effects on our lives can be phenomenal.
Finding that balance between work and life is important by seeking to unite mind and body with a healthy diet and lifestyle before the effects of imbalance take their toll.
if we are to be truly healthy and completely balanced then we must also have a balanced spiritual life too. When we have faith we are strong, as we feel and know we are not alone on our journey.
Bringing the balance into emotions by releasing what is no benefit or which is holding you back, actually boosts your psychic abilities and can move you over to the mediumistic from the psychic.
Do you struggle with the term God? Think of an old man sitting behind the pearly gates? maybe it makes you think of religion and you had enough of that at school or maybe too much of the use of the word God?
I know how you feel....I've spoke to a lot of people lately who have those thoughts and more. As i was growing up i associated the word God with religion and conformity, i'd hear people say "God is watching you" and i associated it with a "fear" which is what a lot of people do without realising. I also couldn't get my head around "him" watching but i could never see "him"
At school and still, i enjoy religious studies, learning about different religions and how a faith can unite and reunite people, all diversities but seperate beliefs, only a slight difference in some cases but a difference all the same. All have spirituality running through them, but also a dogma which a lot of us hold onto and others push it away. Which is where usually, the reluctance to accept God or even understand God comes in.
In my thoughts, i feel it's because some of us aren't ready to love ourselves or be open to our emotional side, the positive love side of us.
A man in a flowing gown has never sat with me, because how could it be a man or a human form if "God " had never been in physical form? So it didn't make sense to me, what does sit with me is this, God is an energy, a creative force that flows and as energy is never ending so is the flow of God. As energy has no boundaries unless harnessed so is God, an abundance of limitless boundaries. Because God is seen as a faith, hope and a trust, a creative force which is a positive, God is ultimately love which is the purest form of emotion.
I went through periods of not liking myself for whatever reason, i let the negative thoughts in, saw my flaws or what percieved were my flaws based on what other people had to say went on on the self sabotage and had a pity party..."why me?" "things went wrong because of something i did" and i ended up doing the "falling out with God" if there was a God why would these things happen, if there was a God why would he give me more misery, if there was a gOd why would he take people out my life, I became a negative person and envious towards other's who i percieved to have what i'd had. I was thinking with my lower self which is the jealousy, bitterness, envy and all the negative traits that are in us all and and maybe even think religion doesn't fit right, which it might not but only when you don't realise that religion is simply a belief and it can all be changed.
Thinking of God as seperate to religion for those who religion doesn't sit right , God is love which is in us all. The creative driving force which propels us on a daily basis to strive for better, be good people, be nice to our loved ones, those closest to us, but also to smile at strangers we pass in the street, think good thoughts when we hear of good deeds. This is the higher self, the God spark that fills us with love, confidence, boosts our self esteem, happiness and all the positive traits.
God is hope.
Religion is the belief in a controlling power which God is or can be for many, a trust, a way of life, a thought process.
As a child at school i had a healthy attitude to religion, for me it was unlimiting, it was one religion covered all, i'd join clubs held by different religions and i loved the mix. I'm very much the same today, i'm a spiritualist as i believe and know we live on, death doesn't end us. But i freely accept each religions and love to learn more about many religions, the different gods in religions and culture in general. I'm all for a melting pot of people, backrounds and religions. What doesn't sit well with me is when a religion rules your life and changes you, so if God is love and basically an energy we all carry, religion is a man made organisation it can only be a human that puts the dogma there and it is a physical human being setting the rules and regulations that are thrust upon us. This for me, is where the confusion happens, its actually not God we go against, its the religious rules and regulations we go against. My thoughts have always varied on this but ultimately i always come back to God is love and kindness in ourselves and when we "fall out with God" or "God doesnt sit right with me" we're actually not liking parts of ourselves or our life isn't going how we think it should.
It used to make me cringe when i heard people say the word "God" back years ago when i'd "fell out" and went through a phase that God didn't exist, i'd still go to church but would keep my head up and eyes open, when someone said "let's bow our heads and pray" i'd have my phone inside a hymn book and play a game when it came to hymns or songs and i'd mouth blah, blah, blah or just move my mouth to make it look like i was singing. These were my acts of defiance against a God that i'd fell out with. When i look back at those times, i chuckle to myself and think i must have still believed in something to be in the church in the first place, and ive went to church all my life!
My Mom would have to take me as a child because i wanted to go, then a sunday school teacher would pick me up as i grew a little older until finally i was old enough to go along with different clubs i was in...The Girls Brigade, Brownies, Girl Guides. At church youth clubs i'd always be drawn to the people who were interested in the God side of things and we'd find we'd talk to those running the clubs about God etc. I'd attend a baptist church, pentecostal, united reformed, catholic, protestant, methodist, brethren (can't remember the denomination) and would take part in regular bible studies, scripture searches and once a week would go with a few friends, to the home of one who would play guitar and his wife would sing and we'd all join in then enjoy pop and biscuits or cakes then chat about God, they were great times! One of my Sunday school teachers from my childhood, a lovely purely spiritual lady called Theresa, i visited her weekly until a few days before she passed in 2013, i'd help her in her home, i'd talk "god" and took my 2 children to visit her and she'd tell them bible stories, which they enjoyed and still remember her very fondly now. She hadn't believed in life eternal the way i do, but a week before she took ill, she told me she'd seen her beloved husband who was the pastor of the church and a lovely lovely man, she asked me if she had been dreaming but i'd assured her he was there to be with her through her illness and when the time came he would "take her home" this gave her great peace, and i was pleased she was happy to be reunited with her beloved Jimmy.
I enjoyed the coming together, the community spirit, even though i was a child and teenager but thats always carried forward with me, so GOD has always been in me which i do understand to be LOVE.
I can also recognise i've always been a positive person but have had my times of negativity and when i look back on those, i recognise those are the times ive "fell out with God" basically fell out of love with myself, not liked myself. Instead of recognising that at the time i'd blame God, because i didn't want to take the blame myself! why would i! it wasn't my fault! In reality it was my thought process and understanding that God was an almighty being who watched and saw all, he would have seen the times i "did bad" or "sad bad things" or "wished bad to others" so of course he was going to fall out with me, BUT he couldn't if i fell out with him first!
I'm not a "bible basher" nor a "religious freak" nor do i live my life by a religious rules or regulations, but i live my life as me, by me but with God by my side and within me, that is love.
The universe is energy and a greater power, a cosmic power that has it's own universal laws which are natural laws, i prefer to live my life by natural laws and the universe.
So if it helps you to understand what God is and how you can build that relationship with God, think of love and letting love in, allow yourself to let love into your heart.
It genuinely gives you a lift and puts a smile on your heart.
So let God in and watch the changes for the better within and in your life. When you hear anyone say God bless, remember they are saying be blessed with love.
Vision boards, dream boards have been shown to work in many ways. Celebrities and business people use them and i've used them a few times.
What your actually doing is physically creating a vision of what you want to manifest, and it's one of the simplest ways.
I'm going to explain the easiest way to make one, that will work for you
A quick tip to finding your hearts desire.
Our busy lives mean we lose sight on our life's purpose at times, this exercise helps to bring that back.
1 ~ Find a quiet space and sit as comfortable as possible, with your back straight, uncrossed legs and hands in your lap
2 ~ Set an intention to relax deeply, remembering everything that happens during the visualisation, to truly benefit from it
3 ~ Close your eyes and take a deep breath, in through your nose and out through your mouth. Take a total of seven breaths and with each exhale, imagine your going deeper and deeper into relaxation, becoming calmer as your thoughts slow
4 ~ Now imagine you're walking in a town centre, along a busy street. Imagine the shops and buildings as you pass by. Notice if it is daytime or night-time. Walk with a spring in your step and watch yourself as though you were watching another person. As you walk, people jostle you as they pass by. You come to a street corner, turn left and ahead of you is a huge advertising billboard
5 ~ Stop and read the billboard, it's promoting and acknowledging what is great about you. Does it show a picture of you with someone else? Have you won an award? Is it a book you have written? What does the text say? Set your intention to recall all your first thoughts about it
6 ~ Now take a deep breath and slowly bring yourself back into the present, breathing normally
7 ~ Take a few moments to write down what came to mind in your visualisation and reflect on any insights.
This is a great way to remind yourself about yourself!
A few years ago after my husband had passed, i wasn't feeling in the best of places, i realised i had turned into someone i didn't like.
I'd had a lot of negativity around me, people, gossip, rumours and influences, the activity leading upto and surrounding Peter's passing had finally pulled me down and turned me into a person who just didn't like or love themselves. Everything i seemed to do turned to mush, felt everything was karma coming back to me, though my intention was pure (or so i thought, not realising i was carrying the negative energies i had soaked up) I, like many, thought i needed love to make me feel "whole" or "better".
I was talking to a friend who is a white witch and asked her about spells or anything that could help bring love into my life. She told me a couple of ways, reciting daily affirmations (i didn't try it then, as i wanted FAST results!) and setting an altar, which i thought was a bit much or a bit too witchy but thought i'll try it...it worked in a way i definately didn't see coming!
It worked for me so i KNOW it CAN work for you!
A lesser known secret...
You can empower yourself by calling on one of your idols in the spirit world to help you follow your dreams.
Celebrities in the spirit world are keen to share their gifts too, act almost as a mentor to help you with your dreams, hopes and aspirations, all you have to do is ask for their help!
A few years ago i'd been wondering about it for a little while, thoughts of it would just randomly pop into my head and decided to try. I'd actually not heard about it before, so i visualised the person i was asking, i was kind of blown away and didn't quite trust if i'd saw right. But after a short while i was sat in trance in front of an audience, sure enough as the audience were saying who they could see, the name Cleopatra came out...yes i'd asked Cleopatra queen of the Nile to help in a particular way, and she had!
Give this a try and find out for yourself.
Hold a picture of the person you would like to connect to or write their name down. Gazing at the picture or their name, imagine them coming to life, take notice of the clothes they wear, how do they sound and how do they smell.
Sitting quietly, close your eyes, imagine your celebrity helper coming towards you, taking their hand when they offer it, ask for their help, be clear and detailed in how you would like their help. Take some deep breaths and visualise your celebrity helper bathing you in a golden light. You feel light, bright and ready to take on the world and move forward.
Be open to signs they will give you to let you know they're around you and helping you. This could be a few days or a few weeks, but watch and listen as signs come in the strangest of ways and unexpected places.
It's important to feed and nourish your inner self, to take time out, a breather, a rest and relaxation, to treat yourself.
There's so many people who don't realise how easy it can be. Meals or cooking for yourself can be so rewarding when you take the time to prepare and present it with love. So often we just think of the actual act of "just eat" but if it's presented nicely and its appealing to the eye it actually tastes better and we enjoy more.
As you prepare or even while shopping for your ingredients, you can visualise it nicely presented and how fulfilling and tasty it will be. It makes a difference to your dining experience. We aren't always in a position to have someone else cook for us, but it's nice when it happens!
Think of how you feel when visiting a restaurant and how mouthwateringly good your meal looks when served!
Noticing the "little" things
It doesn't have to be "big" things that make you happy, it could be making that call to a friend you've not spoke to for a while not realising how fast time flies. If you go to a park or sitting in the open air, notice how you feel. It can often make you feel "clearheaded" and lighter, you will also start to notice the colours around you starting to stand out more to you, for example sitting in a park, you'll notice the different shades in leaves and you will also notice the sounds as you sit.
As you start noticing the small things and the joy they make you feel, you'll start to become aware of more and you'll notice more too. Doing these often will build a momentum and create more joy.
Facing your fears
Take the time to sit in the quiet and call up your fears, in other words think about what you are afraid of. It may be loneliness, it may be emotional hurt or many fears. Choose to experience it fully. Cry, howl, whimper or whatever sound you want to make to allow it to come out. Ask your inner child what he/she needs, once you know..give in and allow your body to feel your own love.
Start your day in a wonderful way
Each day we have a fresh start, a new opportunity. You choose which side of the bed to get out of. The positive way is to start your day with gratitude, start with "I'm grateful that i woke up today, i'm grateful for a supercomfy, warm bed, i'm grateful for the sun shining today" you'll notice a difference the more days you follow this through.
Create a "sacred space" or "your space"
Be more receptive to subtle energies by physically clearing away clutter, opening the windows and letting fresh air blow through, this allows old stagnant air to leave. Then you can sit and visualise the area filled with peace, love, harmony or use a sage stick to waft through.
Tune in and connect to earth and source
In your cleared space, sit with your back straight so your chakras are aligned, take 3 deep breaths, set your intention to ground yourself. Visualise your own roots going down into and through the layers of the earth into the core, you can then ask Mother Earth to drain all energy that is not for your highest good and instead replace it with revitalising light and energy which will benefit your highest good to fill you.
Alternatively place your left hand on your heart, relaxing your shoulders and your arms, allowing your belly to soften. Take three slow deep breaths, each for a count of four and out for a count of four, bring your attention to your heart, noticing any physical or emotional sensations.
Its amazing how treating yourself in a kinder way can really bring peace, harmony and nourish your soul, if done regularly
Elaine has a working class backround, and understands the trials of life. Here she shares some of her thoughts on many different topics