Elaine has a working class backround, and understands the trials of life. Here she shares some of her thoughts on many different topics
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For a long time i'd wonder how you manifested things into your life? i'd hear people talk about it, i'd ask about it but didn't quite understand it! I'd always hoped for what i'd wanted or worked towards what i wanted but i didn't know you could ASK the universe for what you wanted! Once i understood it, i tried it and found it actually worked, there are a few things you have to remember though. The main thing is BE CAREFUL WHAT YOU ASK FOR! This made me chuckle a few times. I once asked for long hair...my daughter asked me if i wanted her hair extensions :-) i thought my hair would grow faster, another time i asked for help to lose weight..leaflets fell through my door for slimming clinics :-D I just didn't understand it! It took a few (quite a few) attempts, but once i understood it, i seen it worked!
To start with, practise connecting to the universal energy and building your awareness, we often miss the signs that are guidance. When manifesting, it's important to be clear and specific, try to give the universe a helping hand by taking action yourself. I knew someone who wanted to manifest a partner but they didn't go out or like the idea of using dating sites, how was the universe supposed to help? Talk to people, tell them your dreams, visualisation is important. Ask for what you want then spend 10 minutes visualising it daily. Don't tell the universe how it's supposed to deliver your request, because there could be something better than you were expecting coming in the way they choose to deliver. This is also called cosmic ordering.
I'm a big believer in God boxes or wish jars as they work in the same way. Just use a container, i use an old coffee jar which you can decorate if you choose to. W|rite on a piece of paper (big enough to fit what you want to ask for) now be careful with your wording as it matters. A friend of mine wanted her husband to make the bed and maybe wash the dishes before he went to work, so she didn't have to when she got home, I told her about the God box and sure enough it happened. She rang me laughing as she was so surprised. When you write out your note, I use one piece for each thing i ask for, some people make lists but it's each to their own. Pop your note inside, replace the lid and pop the jar or container in a kitchen cupboard, on a shelf, in the wardrobe or somewhere out of sight. You can add to it whenever you want.
It works on the universal law of attraction
Try it out and you will see it works!
Happy ordering guys, good luck!
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It can be the smallest word that's been said to you that's stuck with you, children who have been told they're stupid, worthless or worse can grow up believing it to be true, and because it's an adult that has usually told them they believe it's validated. As adults we can also believe words that's said by others, or we see someone who we deem to be better than us, due to looks or accomplishments and we judge ourselves.
Imagine being a child or adult and not having those words said to you? Imagine ignoring those words and how confident you would be feeling now?
Society has changed over the years, where we all know or have heard the benefits of being positive, giving positive affirmations and not validating the negative. I believe we are going through a phase of change in the world, which has been creeping up over quite a few years with a few more to go. I myself, made a conscious decision when i had my children that i would only give positive affirmations and not fall into the negative judgements. So when they would have, for example, spelling tests at school, and maybe the mark would be 8/10 or 9/10 and they would say "ah i only got this mark or that mark", i'd always tell them well it's left you room to improve your mark next time, or "it's better than less" but i'd always tell them they can only try their best and the important thing is the trying. If you don't try you will never know. If they ever say their stupid, i tell them "no you're not, you just havn't used your brain but you'll know better next time" I've carried out the positive affirmations throughout their life and they both have a "quiet confidence" about them that always surprises me.
Self confidence is a daily affirmation of "you can do this" "you are better than you think" " you got this" and more.
Daily affirmations of self love can be looking in the mirror once a day and, even in your mind telling yourself your a good person, you look lovely, you deserve success etc they really can change your outlook on yourself as the inner self in acknowledged and validated.
Here are a few ways you can show yourself love.
I truly hope some of these techniques work for you.
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No...everyone is different and depending what you have going on in your life or if you havn't accepted or the reality of the loss hasn't sunk in, they can have an effect.
Everyone we meet has an impact on us good and bad. When we lose someone who has been a constant in our lives or been a massive influence on us. Sometimes it can be someone who has been in our lives a short time, who can make that lasting impression that it may hurt the most.
For example...a parent or a sibling, who we've been close to for many years, then maybe a disagreement even moving away and just the distance becoming greater, where both sides don't make an effort. A friend or lover who you've been so close to, spent all your time with maybe married or had plans for the future, then a drifting apart..maybe years in some cases. Some of us hear of them passing and really struggle to get over the loss, but is it their loss we struggle with or is it our own feelings of a guilt? Guilt we feel for losing touch, not making an effort as we expected those to? Resentment towards that person for not making an effort as you had hoped or expected? Also the memories come flooding back, of the good times and how much of an impression they were on you. All of these are factors in grief. If you lose someone that you spent a lot of time with, very close to and who were a constant in your life, that hurt will seem to hurt more as they were part of your life there and then! And that is a hurt like no other as that loss is actually happening to you, whereas someone you've drifted apart from, whether by a fall out or just by these things happen, in a sense that loss has already happened and the moving on has taken place naturally.
Losing someone close, is heart wrenching and can take a long time to grieve, memories always come back in many ways.
For me, and for many others im sure, it can hit me when i'm walking along a street and it suddenly hits me that i'm walking along a street that a loved one walked down. Eating a particular food or cooking a certain dish and it hits me how i know how to cook that dish...i've watched a loved one cook it, then it hits me all over again that their influence is still there and ongoing. It hits me how much of an influence they've had on me which i've then passed on to my children. So the generations do cross and i really marvel at that.
It's the same when i hear about someone that i've maybe not seen for a long time for whatever reason, like i said previously, i do feel regret but i also feel the love that was once there and again memories come back, sometimes memories that have long been forgotten.
Rekindle old friendships, family ties and let go of the wounds that have kept you apart. Make the time as that's what we all have in common, we all want more time with those we love.
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Well...would you really want to?? I certainly wouldn't!
I was recently told about someone, who had been told the age when they would die. I've heard this more and more lately and i'm horrified by the lack of human sympathy and empathy shown by mediums and psychics who do this. Another lady was given a date, and every year when that date comes round she worries and panics.
It's so wrong on so many levels, a medium wouldn't be made aware of it and a psychic would be reading your energy which also includes your fears, hopes and dreams good and bad. So if you have a fear of dying, have it in your mind to get past a certain age, maybe a few loved ones have passed around the same age and you have that in your thoughts, which is essentially in your aura, a psychic would be reading it in your energy, it's not to say it's correct!
Firstly, my thoughts would be to run a mile from anyone that tells you this, as mediums and psychics can't know. It would show to me that maybe that person hasn't understood fully what they were receiving, they could be transferring their own fears, shock tactics or some even have the thoughts that they can play God! There would be no reason except to feed fear that this is said. We wouldn't be told and we do not know when we are going to pass. It would rob us of good and bad times with everyone in our lives. Unfortunately we all have to go through sad and happy times, which includes the loss of a loved one, grief and grieving.
Imagine being told you were going to pass at say, 25, and you meet the love of your life at 22. You wouldn't get married, have children, make plans for the future and build your hopes and dreams. What would be the point of doing all that when you would only have 3 years!? Can you imagine? You'd be counting down the days and robbing yourself of all the happiness and joy in your life. You would in fact, be stopping the happiness and joy!
Yes some of us have longer lives than others, some seem to have happier lives, some even seem to do more with their lives! But we all have choices, and we can choose to strive for bettering ourselves, have better experiences and do more within our lifetime.
The length of your life all depends on yourself. Health for example, we can be diagnosed with an illness or condition and it's up to us how we handle it. Do we let it affect our enjoyment of life with worry, stress (sometimes any diagnosis or news we can't get our head round) as it can be an initial shock to the system essentially shortening our enjoyment or quality of life. Or we can choose to try to make the most of it, and help ourselves whether that means a lifestyle change, medications etc.
You might find yourself in a relationship that you've grown out of or it's maybe a toxic relationship that you've just accepted as "your lot in life" . Again the choice is, do i stay or do i go - staying would be putting up, not full happiness. Going or moving on may usually lead you to better relationships, or at least relationships which should be more fulfilling and rewarding for you. So again it's down to choice.
If you knew when you were going to "die" you wouldn't make choices and you might as well say the word "choice" just doesn't exist and is a stupid word even!
The reality is, none of us know when we will "die" so we can live each day to the fullest, enjoy each emotion or let each emotion touch us and experience the joys in our life.
Each person's joy will be different from someone else's. You will have heard the saying - one person's joy is another person's sorrow, and it's true.
So live your life to the fullest, love people when they're in your life and have hopes, dreams and aspirations.
Do you agree?
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Courage is a word i don't think about that often...lately i've had that word going round in my mind a lot, which led me to thinking..
How many times do we recognise our own courage? not a lot! but we've all got courage and it shows itself in many ways. Courage can be something that might seem trivial to many but is a massive thing to others. I'm going to share my thoughts on what ive thought lately about "courage"..
For a lot of people, waking up in the morning is just the "norm" but if you think about it, this can be a very courageous thing for someone that doesn't want to be here anymore, whether thats been caused by illness, mental health or just how they've seen their life at that time and thought life would be better off without them. They've decided to make that choice of waking up and facing another day.
There are lots of times we would all like to sit back and let life pass us by, not take care of "routine", housework, deadlines, caring for others, finance's, and some people do sit back and let things pile up, BUT then they gain the courage by whichever way, to decide to pick themselves up and they find the courage to battle through whatever is pulling or holding them back.
You hear of people who have took that "leap of faith" and changed their life completely by moving to a different country, changing their careers or even changing their life path because it felt the right thing to do, it felt right or sometimes because of a life threatening health reason people have chose to have a better life or be a better person...it all took courage to take that "leap of faith".
Each choice we make takes courage, in 2015 i took a leap of faith and chose to become a full time medium. At the time i was working in the care sector, regular income, regular set hours, fellow workers i could rely on in a job i loved, but due to health issues i couldn't do that work in a reliable manner and was put in a position to either move to a job i could do or not work. I thought things through over a few months and the only thing that felt right to me, was something that i'd been doing outside of my working life, something i loved and still love doing, what i feel is my calling....MEDIUMSHIP! I spoke to my kids, my daughter said "Mom if it's what you want to do, then go for it! My son said "How will you pay bills? You're making a mistake! It's not a job it's just something you do! He even said at one point.."You've lost the plot!" I still spent a little time thinking it through, trying to weigh up my options and decided i didn't want to spend the rest of my life creating more wear and tear on my body, being tied to other people's routine's etc and realised i lived to work, my working life was leading my personal life and what i could and couldn't do, due to work hours which led to, yes, a regular income but an income that would only change by a few pence to a couple of pounds a year. I realised if i became a full time medium it would be more hours (much more haha) for possibly less money but i had the choice of more variation, though i only have myself to rely on and it's all good. I can honestly say, having the courage to make that decision, was one of the best ive made.
I'm not suggesting that anyone should make a life changing decision, what i am saying, is, when you reflect back over the past week, month, year or your life at decisions you've made willingly and knowingly and sometimes decisions you've been in a position that you had to, acknowledge the courage you have inside yourself, acknowledge that something you may not see as having courage, even what may seem as minor things like making an effort with yourself, all take courage, the courage to make a decision.
So "courage was going round and round in my head, i thought it through and for me, courage comes with decisions that some of us take for granted and others find hard, courage is in all of us and how we show courage is sometimes not seen by others but recognised by ourselves. Courage isn't always dangerous pastimes like lion taming, mountain climbing
(though i might add, those that do lion taming etc are extremely courageous!)
Courage for a lot of people, can be simply having the courage to get through each day.
If you would like to add your thoughts, be brave and have the courage to make a comment
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It means different things to different people, to me it means reflecting on the not so good memories that can overwhelm us because we still carry a mixed bag of emotions. As each emotion opens or we go deeper into our memories, perhaps specific situations, times or to do with certain people and we feel the emotion, a lot of us close the door but in fact, we should be opening the door as much as we can bear and as we do, confront our emotions and allow them to come through but start to look at the not so good memory in a different way to allow the healing to take place, which then allows ourselves to rid ourselves of the hurt or pain we feel. As we contemplate or rethink our emotions we're opening up the possibilities of changing our understanding, maybe seeing things in a different way and understanding reasons, heightened emotions and others thinking and we therefore can rationalise things that decrase pain we hold. It may take a few days or longer to deal with each step forward or opening that door more, but at each step our own healing takes place to move us forward to a new understanding of our own reactions. Maybe we blame ourselves too much instead of proportioning blame or maybe we blame others instead of taking blame ourselves when in fact the reality is, once you contemplate and rethink things turning them this way and that, you might actually find there's no blame just reactions which can become distorted and we can sometimes cause our own emotional distress which we hold onto. Our minds are the strongest muscle we have and at times can cause a vicious circle of reactions which can be easy to fall into. For some people, carrying a burden or issue since childhood can start to weigh heavy as we bury it with other issues due to the original issue and so on and so on, then they get so far buried it can be so hard to uravel or they feel so worn down it can feel like too much of an effort so they don't deal with it and carry on burying.
When opening the door to look within ourselves can be hard, a lot of people feel emotionally drained which can make us feel physically tired. It's scientifically proven our body stores emotional scars which can weigh us down and cause illnesses, I'm not saying you'll become illness free as you look within, but you will feel better and illnesses may start to relieve.
If there are emotional issues you can't face fully, the best thing you can do is not lay blame, but forgive yourself or the situation if you can't forgive a person and accept whatever happened was your only route or way of coping at that time.
When a weight is lifted you feel a release and actually do feel better for it, the secret is not allowing yourself to slip back down again but keep going.
Looking within also means looking at your flaws and weaknesses and working on those, maybe looking at yourself through someone else's eyes. We never see ourself as other's see us, have you been selfish lately, maybe too wrapped in yourself to notice what's going on with others? Have you noticed friends seeming to back off for seemingly no reason? try taking a moment to look within and look at your actions, behaviour etc
Spiritual growth as a person starts within.
Nearly 11 years ago i lost my husband and due to horrific accusations that i wouldn't subject anyone to, i spent a time in a suicidal, depressed state, seen councellors and everything that goes with it, cutting people off etc for a long time. Then the thoughts kept coming in and i started to reflect, turning everything round and understanding how those ex family members could make accusations, with the help of a fantastic councellor i started to look within and realised that they were trying to transfer what they had done, thought or felt guilty about over onto me to ease their own feelings but they still carry those emotions. Though i still can't forgive them i have forgiven the situation and myself and accepted my choices were the best i could make in the situation. I really did feel a weight lift from me and started to see things in a clearer way. The councellor suggested i write all my thoughts and events at that time down, which i did over a few years as i opened up the emotions. It was then suggested i turn it into a book which i have been writing or putting it into order i should say. As yet my book remains unpublished and without a title as i still continue to look within on a daily basis and add to it, also checking things legally.
I'm hoping to have it published by the end of 2019/2020.