A quick tip to finding your hearts desire.
Our busy lives mean we lose sight on our life's purpose at times, this exercise helps to bring that back.
​​1 ~ Find a quiet space and sit as comfortable as possible, with your back straight, uncrossed legs and hands in your lap
2 ~ Set an intention to relax deeply, remembering everything that happens during the visualisation, to truly benefit from it
3 ~ Close your eyes and take a deep breath, in through your nose and out through your mouth. Take a total of seven breaths and with each exhale, imagine your going deeper and deeper into relaxation, becoming calmer as your thoughts slow
4 ~ Now imagine you're walking in a town centre, along a busy street. Imagine the shops and buildings as you pass by. Notice if it is daytime or night-time. Walk with a spring in your step and watch yourself as though you were watching another person. As you walk, people jostle you as they pass by. You come to a street corner, turn left and ahead of you is a huge advertising billboard
5 ~ Stop and read the billboard, it's promoting and acknowledging what is great about you. Does it show a picture of you with someone else? Have you won an award? Is it a book you have written? What does the text say? Set your intention to recall all your first thoughts about it
6 ~ Now take a deep breath and slowly bring yourself back into the present, breathing normally
7 ~ Take a few moments to write down what came to mind in your visualisation and reflect on any insights. 
​This is a great way to remind yourself about yourself!

Thoughts are living thinds..we are all energy, thoughts included. It is so easy to think angry or unkind thought's about other's and ourself when things don't go the way we think they should but, you'll find when you do that..you'll go through a patch when everything seems to go wrong because you'll see everything through the same eyes, the negative eyes. It will seem that you are attracting negative energy and you are as thats all you see. When this happens, it's an ideal time to sit back and reflect on each occurence and see what they all have in common, that's usually what needs to be looked at and how you can look with a fresh perspective. This can be done by meditation when you meditate on yourself and your willing to look at your flaws openly and honestly and not "hiding" from them. It can be a revelation what you might see, as it also can show your good points and in turn it will help you to release and let go of negative thoughts and feelings about yourself and others. 
You will actually feel the weight of carrying negativity lift, as it takes a lot more effort to ;keep in a negative frame of mind. Generally a negative mindset can result in tiredness, loss of focus in areas that you feel "bore" you or thinking in general that you know better or your thoughts are better. This is the sign of a closed mind, one that isnt open to other's opinions or thoughts.
That being said, we all have life's stresses and worries and if we use them as an excuse or crutch that can also pull our thinking down. It's recognising that we do that as an excuse for behaviours and how we can correct that behaviour to a healthier way of thinking and behaving that will make a difference.
Walks in the fresh air whether on a beach, a forest or anywhere there is nature or the flora and the fauna is ideal, getting away from the humdrum of life can quieten the mind allowing us to lift and seperate the thoughts, prioritising what we need to and freshen our perspective. Basically shifting the focus from in our own minds. If you live in remote places or at the beach, then the mind may be too still and boredom sets in, in which case a visit into a city or crowded area would stimulate your mind which would have a beneficial effect. 
When looking at our own flaws, it can be a very revealing time. We will experience a range of emotions as we deal with what we see. It's healthy and if we're open to personal growth it won't be too bad feeling the emotions as we're able to let them go. We don't criticize our behaviours or flaws, we begin to analyze and learn from them thus helping the personal growth to happen.
When you conciously choose to expand your personal growth, you'll begin to experience a change of energy within, your demeanour changes, you actually carry yourself in a more confident way as you give off positive vibrations and energy, your self esteem is boosted which again boosts your confidence. In realty your creating a healthier circle and not a vicious circle. As you see the positive effects it becomes easier and less effort to actively remain positive. 
You'll find your friends begin to change as your vibrational frequency changes, you'll begin to question the important things in your life, where is your employment going in 5/10 years, where can you see yourself living in 5/10 years, how can you see yourself in 5/10 years etc in reality what you are doing is setting your goals, building your dreams and hopes. Your setting your intentions, forward thinking and building on the now. Your friends begin to change as your ideals change, its not to say you won't be friends but you'll find time spent together or socialising becomes less as your priorities change. Where your priorities go, you'll make friends there too, so not only are you changing friends your actually increasing your circle of friends. 
Work or employment can change, as you've set your dreams, hopes and goals, you'll start to see openings happening. job opportunities, doors opening, contacts being made, sometimes self employment or promotions will come in subtly though it must be noted that sometimes it can happen like a bolt from the blue! 
Finances can change, surroundings and in many many ways the changes can occur. It's even good to realise that recycling and an awareness of the environment can occur as your thoughts and mindsets are changed. 
Becoming more spiritually aware, doesnt mean your going to become a medium over night or even that you will suddenly have an awareness that you didn't have before. It means your becoming more aware of what feeds your soul, what nourishes the soul and more importantly, how joys and blessings can be manifested into your life.
There's a native American parable you might have heard...
which wolf do you feed?
The evil wolf who is hungry for anger, envy, sorrow, regret, arrogance, greed, guilt, self-pity, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority and ego? This wolf is also your inner critic
The good wolf, he is joy, peace, hope, compassion, love, humility, serenity, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth and faith. 
​Which one wins is the one you choose to feed... 

Next time you notice your thinking has become a bit clouded or judgemental, check your thoughts and think of which wolf is being fed
Hope you enjoyed this blog and hopefully it might have made sense to you and answered some questions that have been running in your mind. 
You might have 

Elaine xx

A question i get asked a lot...is everyone psychic? Yes, but, is everyone a medium?..No and in this blog i'll explain why and the differences...
Yes everyone has an inbuilt psychic ability and some develop theirs to a high degree, as a psychic tunes into a living energy ie; a person physically living, an incarnate soul. They vibrate on an energy vibration which is very similar and resonates with their energy field or aura. An incarnate energy is denser and heavier than discarnate energy which would make it easier for psychic's to tune into incarnate energy as they are similar vibrations and also where past, present and future would be picked up.
A medium sets an intention, lifting themself to a higher vibration which is more purer and lighter. They are able to blend easier with discarnate energy as the discarnate energy is light, purer. It can be draining for a medium and for the discarnate spirit as it can take a lot of energy on both sides.
Can a psychic be a medium?...no as their vibration wouldn't be raised enough, whereas a medium can also be a psychic as a medium can drop their vibration to blend on the psychic.
Mediumistic is seen as a higher purer way of working and widely accepted as being a higher level of working than a psychic and why now, a lot of psychics use the term medium without actually being able to make mediumistic connections. 

NO NO and NO!
A lot of people who don't understand mediumship do say it's mind reading, but it's definately not, how could it be, when some of the things you don't even know yourself and have to go away and ask, you then find out it's right? 
Mental mediums work through the mind via a series of pictures, thoughts, feelings which we call the psychic senses transferred to them via spiritual energy, but we don't read from the mind, otherwise you would know everything we tell you.
A mental medium is a medium who passes messages orally from spiritual connections 

Just like in the physical body, if we've had illness or upset it can deplete our energies and it can take some of us a little while to pull ourselves round and we have friends and family rally round helping and looking after us. Same happens when we pass over, there's an adjustment period where some loved ones pick up their energy and adjust and friends and family in the spirit side of life rally round, helping with the adjustment.
When we're born physically we start to learn from family and friends, we go to school, some will go onto college or university to further their learning. When we passover it's a death, ending or loss to us but, its a birth to the spirit side so the learning and growing begins but this time it's not physically growing but a mind expansion, energy growth. Again some spirits go on to develop further which is where the further education comes in, the shedding of emotional scars, the rising above, the purer energy. So on the spirit side of life there is what we call the halls of learning where this takes place. 
​It is very similar to a parallel universe if you like.
​So there is no death only eternal life

Loved ones over in spirit will be trying in some way to get through to you, but if our grief is too much it can hold them back or we can miss the signs and messages. A lot of people say they can't come through for 6 months but they can and do, depending on your grief. 

It means different things to different people, to me it means reflecting on the not so good memories that can overwhelm us because we still carry a mixed bag of emotions. As each emotion opens or we go deeper into our memories, perhaps specific situations, times or to do with certain people and we feel the emotion, a lot of us close the door but in fact, we should be opening the door as much as we can bear and as we do, confront our emotions and allow them to come through but start to look at the not so good memory in a different way to allow the healing to take place, which then allows ourselves to rid ourselves of the hurt or pain we feel. As we contemplate or rethink our emotions we're opening up the possibilities of changing our understanding, maybe seeing things in a different way and understanding reasons, heightened emotions and others thinking and we therefore can rationalise things that decrase pain we hold. It may take a few days or longer to deal with each step forward or opening that door more, but at each step our own healing takes place to move us forward to a new understanding of our own reactions. Maybe we blame ourselves too much instead of proportioning blame or maybe we blame others instead of taking blame ourselves when in fact the reality is, once you contemplate and rethink things turning them this way and that, you might actually find there's no blame just reactions which can become distorted and we can sometimes cause our own emotional distress which we hold onto. Our minds are the strongest muscle we have and at times can cause a vicious circle of reactions which can be easy to fall into. For some people, carrying a burden or issue since childhood can start to weigh heavy as we bury it with other issues due to the original issue and so on and so on, then they get so far buried it can be so hard to uravel or they feel so worn down it can feel like too much of an effort so they don't deal with it and carry on burying. 
When opening the door to look within ourselves can be hard, a lot of people feel emotionally drained which can make us feel physically tired. It's scientifically proven our body stores emotional scars which can weigh us down and cause illnesses, I'm not saying you'll become illness free as you look within, but you will feel better and illnesses may start to relieve. 
If there are emotional issues you can't face fully, the best thing you can do is not lay blame, but forgive yourself or the situation if you can't forgive a person and accept whatever happened was your only route or way of coping at that time. 
​When a weight is lifted you feel a release and actually do feel better for it, the secret is not allowing yourself to slip back down again but keep going. 
Looking within also means looking at your flaws and weaknesses and working on those, maybe looking at yourself through someone else's eyes. We never see ourself as other's see us, have you been selfish lately, maybe too wrapped in yourself to notice what's going on with others? Have you noticed friends seeming to back off for seemingly no reason? try taking a moment to look within and look at your actions, behaviour etc 
​Spiritual growth as a person starts within.
Nearly 11 years ago i lost my husband and due to horrific accusations that i wouldn't subject anyone to, i spent a time in a suicidal, depressed state, seen councellors and everything that goes with it, cutting people off etc for a long time. Then the thoughts kept coming in and i started to reflect, turning everything round and understanding how those ex family members could make accusations, with the help of a fantastic councellor i started to look within and realised that they were trying to transfer what they had done, thought or felt guilty about over onto me to ease their own feelings but they still carry those emotions. Though i still can't forgive them i have forgiven the situation and myself and accepted my choices were the best i could make in the situation. I really did feel a weight lift from me and started to see things in a clearer way. The councellor suggested i write all my thoughts and events at that time down, which i did over a few years as i opened up the emotions. It was then suggested i turn it into a book which i have been writing or putting it into order i should say. As yet my book remains unpublished and without a title as i still continue to look within on a daily basis and add to it, also checking things legally.
I'm hoping to have it published by the end of 2019/2020.