Meditation is a way of bringing clarity, focus and peace to your mind, but...clearing out your cupboards or home is just as effective!
Long lost belongings, clothes or keepsakes that you keep in boxes in an attic or tucked away in a drawer or cupboard can keep you attached to forgotten memories, people or times we don't want to think about for many reasons. Clearing these help to clear yourself of the attachments to these times, emotions or let go of people.
As we declutter we face our attachments with compassion we are driven by consuming emotions, these are emotions that we pour our energy into that don't give us anything back but, they consume and drain us....whether you realise it they also block you from energies such as love, joy, courage, grace, peace, generosity.
As you declutter you transform.
Time to tidy
When you decide it's time to tidy, when you feel ready to clear out the old take notice of your feelings, listen to your internal self and just sit with that feeling, have a conversation with yourself about the emotions or feelings that have been raised. When strong emotions and make you question do you have the strength to go ahead, it's time to take a break.
Decluttering is ultimately self-care and if you aren't practising self-care as you do it then it is not a self-care activity.
As you clear the clutter set your intention for each room, for example a bedroom you might intend that space for relaxation love or joy, a bathroom may be intended for rejuvenation, cleansing and purifying.
Clear the energy
In each space clear the items that don't resonate with the energies you intend for that space, for example old letters or gifts from an ex love might hold the energies of regret, resentment and a form of bitterness which will prevent the flow of love into your bedroom. Bills might make you feel anxious.
To spiritually cleanse a room we have to meet the things that are causing our spiritual energy to drain and instead intend the energy that allows our spiritual life to flourish.
So you've set the intention in your bedroom now how do you do that with clothes or your sock draw??
if you open your drawer and theres something there that makes you go urghh! it's stopping that full flow of love and balance in that room. if it's an item that is well past being well worn or well used, but you think 'i paid good money for that!' its creating a feeling of guilt which is again slowing down or stopping the flow of love and needs to be cleared.
There are items we keep like old photos, a gift a child has made or a gift from a deceased loved one like a parent, when we come across these we open up the feelings and emotions that can stop us in our tracks. These can still make us feel drained that just holding at it or looking at it makes us want to collapse, and you put it back in the drawer. This shows an attachment to that object, whether it's regret, sadness, worry or a fear. This is where compassion comes in, because its compassion as a spiritual energy that transforms suffering.
We have to learn to sit with compassion for ourselves, for the object and the story that brings those emotions forward.
Piles of regret
"That still needs doing" do you hear yourself saying this? paperwork can be a minefield to go through but can be sorted into 'guilt' 'regret' 'anxiety' piles. Old medical records from 10 years ago might bring up guilt or regret and isn't worthy of the space in your head it takes up.
You don't need to be carrying that physical, emotional and spiritual weight.
Sort the remaining papers out, this might not give you joy but it will give you access to what you need, not feeling afraid or anxious about looking into those files because you don't know if you'll find what your looking for (or what else you might find!?)
That's freedom and thats what you're aiming for. to be able to lay your hands on what we need as well as what we love.
Whether its candles, lipsticks, cookbooks or anything else, collections are likely to show your buying habits when your in psychic pain or in a difficult position emotionally.
Once you go through decluttering and see how your purchasing power has been driven by your pain, hopefully you can deals with those habits by recognising and they will change.
Spiritual decluttering is an opportunity to practise letting go of things that no longer serve us (or never did)
Letting go doesnt have to be painful, it can be an act of grace or gratitude.
Pick up an object as if it were an old friend, thank it, forgive it if it never served you then let it go.
Clutter will show up again but it will become easier to see and take care of quickly.
Like a gardener, you'll have learned the difference between weeds and cultivated plants.
Decluttering is less an activity with a start and a finish, more a way of life.
Tips for a pain-free clear out
Do you struggle with the term God? Think of an old man sitting behind the pearly gates? maybe it makes you think of religion and you had enough of that at school or maybe too much of the use of the word God?
I know how you feel....I've spoke to a lot of people lately who have those thoughts and more. As i was growing up i associated the word God with religion and conformity, i'd hear people say "God is watching you" and i associated it with a "fear" which is what a lot of people do without realising. I also couldn't get my head around "him" watching but i could never see "him"
At school and still, i enjoy religious studies, learning about different religions and how a faith can unite and reunite people, all diversities but seperate beliefs, only a slight difference in some cases but a difference all the same. All have spirituality running through them, but also a dogma which a lot of us hold onto and others push it away. Which is where usually, the reluctance to accept God or even understand God comes in.
In my thoughts, i feel it's because some of us aren't ready to love ourselves or be open to our emotional side, the positive love side of us.
A man in a flowing gown has never sat with me, because how could it be a man or a human form if "God " had never been in physical form? So it didn't make sense to me, what does sit with me is this, God is an energy, a creative force that flows and as energy is never ending so is the flow of God. As energy has no boundaries unless harnessed so is God, an abundance of limitless boundaries. Because God is seen as a faith, hope and a trust, a creative force which is a positive, God is ultimately love which is the purest form of emotion.
I went through periods of not liking myself for whatever reason, i let the negative thoughts in, saw my flaws or what percieved were my flaws based on what other people had to say went on on the self sabotage and had a pity party..."why me?" "things went wrong because of something i did" and i ended up doing the "falling out with God" if there was a God why would these things happen, if there was a God why would he give me more misery, if there was a gOd why would he take people out my life, I became a negative person and envious towards other's who i percieved to have what i'd had. I was thinking with my lower self which is the jealousy, bitterness, envy and all the negative traits that are in us all and and maybe even think religion doesn't fit right, which it might not but only when you don't realise that religion is simply a belief and it can all be changed.
Thinking of God as seperate to religion for those who religion doesn't sit right , God is love which is in us all. The creative driving force which propels us on a daily basis to strive for better, be good people, be nice to our loved ones, those closest to us, but also to smile at strangers we pass in the street, think good thoughts when we hear of good deeds. This is the higher self, the God spark that fills us with love, confidence, boosts our self esteem, happiness and all the positive traits.
God is hope.
Religion is the belief in a controlling power which God is or can be for many, a trust, a way of life, a thought process.
As a child at school i had a healthy attitude to religion, for me it was unlimiting, it was one religion covered all, i'd join clubs held by different religions and i loved the mix. I'm very much the same today, i'm a spiritualist as i believe and know we live on, death doesn't end us. But i freely accept each religions and love to learn more about many religions, the different gods in religions and culture in general. I'm all for a melting pot of people, backrounds and religions. What doesn't sit well with me is when a religion rules your life and changes you, so if God is love and basically an energy we all carry, religion is a man made organisation it can only be a human that puts the dogma there and it is a physical human being setting the rules and regulations that are thrust upon us. This for me, is where the confusion happens, its actually not God we go against, its the religious rules and regulations we go against. My thoughts have always varied on this but ultimately i always come back to God is love and kindness in ourselves and when we "fall out with God" or "God doesnt sit right with me" we're actually not liking parts of ourselves or our life isn't going how we think it should.
It used to make me cringe when i heard people say the word "God" back years ago when i'd "fell out" and went through a phase that God didn't exist, i'd still go to church but would keep my head up and eyes open, when someone said "let's bow our heads and pray" i'd have my phone inside a hymn book and play a game when it came to hymns or songs and i'd mouth blah, blah, blah or just move my mouth to make it look like i was singing. These were my acts of defiance against a God that i'd fell out with. When i look back at those times, i chuckle to myself and think i must have still believed in something to be in the church in the first place, and ive went to church all my life!
My Mom would have to take me as a child because i wanted to go, then a sunday school teacher would pick me up as i grew a little older until finally i was old enough to go along with different clubs i was in...The Girls Brigade, Brownies, Girl Guides. At church youth clubs i'd always be drawn to the people who were interested in the God side of things and we'd find we'd talk to those running the clubs about God etc. I'd attend a baptist church, pentecostal, united reformed, catholic, protestant, methodist, brethren (can't remember the denomination) and would take part in regular bible studies, scripture searches and once a week would go with a few friends, to the home of one who would play guitar and his wife would sing and we'd all join in then enjoy pop and biscuits or cakes then chat about God, they were great times! One of my Sunday school teachers from my childhood, a lovely purely spiritual lady called Theresa, i visited her weekly until a few days before she passed in 2013, i'd help her in her home, i'd talk "god" and took my 2 children to visit her and she'd tell them bible stories, which they enjoyed and still remember her very fondly now. She hadn't believed in life eternal the way i do, but a week before she took ill, she told me she'd seen her beloved husband who was the pastor of the church and a lovely lovely man, she asked me if she had been dreaming but i'd assured her he was there to be with her through her illness and when the time came he would "take her home" this gave her great peace, and i was pleased she was happy to be reunited with her beloved Jimmy.
I enjoyed the coming together, the community spirit, even though i was a child and teenager but thats always carried forward with me, so GOD has always been in me which i do understand to be LOVE.
I can also recognise i've always been a positive person but have had my times of negativity and when i look back on those, i recognise those are the times ive "fell out with God" basically fell out of love with myself, not liked myself. Instead of recognising that at the time i'd blame God, because i didn't want to take the blame myself! why would i! it wasn't my fault! In reality it was my thought process and understanding that God was an almighty being who watched and saw all, he would have seen the times i "did bad" or "sad bad things" or "wished bad to others" so of course he was going to fall out with me, BUT he couldn't if i fell out with him first!
I'm not a "bible basher" nor a "religious freak" nor do i live my life by a religious rules or regulations, but i live my life as me, by me but with God by my side and within me, that is love.
The universe is energy and a greater power, a cosmic power that has it's own universal laws which are natural laws, i prefer to live my life by natural laws and the universe.
So if it helps you to understand what God is and how you can build that relationship with God, think of love and letting love in, allow yourself to let love into your heart.
It genuinely gives you a lift and puts a smile on your heart.
So let God in and watch the changes for the better within and in your life. When you hear anyone say God bless, remember they are saying be blessed with love.
People join in live sessions on social media receiving messages, but still don't understand they don't need to be in the same room as a medium.
Energy is energy, and over the past few weeks have you seen there is no difference? Whether for a psychic reading or mediumistic reading over the telephone or video, the connection is the same. In fact it can be a better connection.
It is a common misconception that the majority of people think this, but with the power of social media, zoom and many internet conferencing facilities now, hopefully it will help to break that myth, even angel and tarot cards can be read via video.
With the covid19 lockdown happening globally, it's helping to reunite more people than ever via the internet. Spiritual churches are now holding services, mediums are going live and readings are via telephone and video and hopefully more and more people are realising mediums and psychics do not need that face to face connection.
Energy is all around us, and how i connect is to the energy, it may be your voice vibration which could enable me to connect to your energy, it may be from the spirit side of life which attracts my attention. As a genuine psychic medium i can work both ways, so you do not need to be in the same room as me for readings or connectionsas energy is energy.
Energy is a wonderful thing in the ways it can connect us, not only by utilities ie;electric, gas, hydro, turbo, etc etc but by the power of spirit energy.
A medium's role primarily, is to prove life exists after the physical death. Giving evidence of a loved one's existance by character, description, shared memories, hobbies and being the voice for spirit.
A medium's role is also to help with healing grief, which can be gained by the evidence and proving that life does, in fact go on. When a loved one passes over, we tend to focus on the passing, an illness or the reasons why someone has passed. In fact virtually everyone that passes has had a lifetime or their lifetime of more than illness or sadness, when a loved one makes contact, they like to recognise their life and maybe the happy times, taking you to happier times to remember them by.
Remembering loved ones at happier times can help with grief immensly.
A medium is essentially the voice for the spirit side, and as a medium i look at it this way...if i can try my best for the spirit side, to connect to them in the best way for them, to let their loved ones know they live on and are around them, then ive done my bit.
Personal responsibility is a large part of connections, as a medium moves their mind and allows spirits mind to come in, we have a responsibility to them to not distort or change their messages or evidence, this can happen if we, as mediums don't allow that shift to take place but allow our own judgements and opinions to cloud the connection. Every connection will be different and i believe it's a mediums reponsibility to allow a natural shift in energy to take place. Allowing this to take place takes dedication and development with the spiritual and personal growth.
How can we be the voice of spirit?
We can open as many ways as possible, abilities, recognising from the sensing, seeing and hearing, knowing what is our own thoughts and what is spirits.
For a long time i'd wonder how you manifested things into your life? i'd hear people talk about it, i'd ask about it but didn't quite understand it! I'd always hoped for what i'd wanted or worked towards what i wanted but i didn't know you could ASK the universe for what you wanted! Once i understood it, i tried it and found it actually worked, there are a few things you have to remember though. The main thing is BE CAREFUL WHAT YOU ASK FOR! This made me chuckle a few times. I once asked for long hair...my daughter asked me if i wanted her hair extensions :-) i thought my hair would grow faster, another time i asked for help to lose weight..leaflets fell through my door for slimming clinics :-D I just didn't understand it! It took a few (quite a few) attempts, but once i understood it, i seen it worked!
To start with, practise connecting to the universal energy and building your awareness, we often miss the signs that are guidance. When manifesting, it's important to be clear and specific, try to give the universe a helping hand by taking action yourself. I knew someone who wanted to manifest a partner but they didn't go out or like the idea of using dating sites, how was the universe supposed to help? Talk to people, tell them your dreams, visualisation is important. Ask for what you want then spend 10 minutes visualising it daily. Don't tell the universe how it's supposed to deliver your request, because there could be something better than you were expecting coming in the way they choose to deliver. This is also called cosmic ordering.
I'm a big believer in God boxes or wish jars as they work in the same way. Just use a container, i use an old coffee jar which you can decorate if you choose to. W|rite on a piece of paper (big enough to fit what you want to ask for) now be careful with your wording as it matters. A friend of mine wanted her husband to make the bed and maybe wash the dishes before he went to work, so she didn't have to when she got home, I told her about the God box and sure enough it happened. She rang me laughing as she was so surprised. When you write out your note, I use one piece for each thing i ask for, some people make lists but it's each to their own. Pop your note inside, replace the lid and pop the jar or container in a kitchen cupboard, on a shelf, in the wardrobe or somewhere out of sight. You can add to it whenever you want.
It works on the universal law of attraction
Try it out and you will see it works!
Happy ordering guys, good luck!
A question i get asked a lot...is everyone psychic? Yes, but, is everyone a medium?..No and in this blog i'll explain why and the differences...
Yes everyone has an inbuilt psychic ability and some develop theirs to a high degree, as a psychic tunes into a living energy ie; a person physically living, an incarnate soul. They vibrate on an energy vibration which is very similar and resonates with their energy field or aura. An incarnate energy is denser and heavier than discarnate energy which would make it easier for psychic's to tune into incarnate energy as they are similar vibrations and also where past, present and future would be picked up.
A medium sets an intention, lifting themself to a higher vibration which is more purer and lighter. They are able to blend easier with discarnate energy as the discarnate energy is light, purer. It can be draining for a medium and for the discarnate spirit as it can take a lot of energy on both sides.
Can a psychic be a medium?...no as their vibration wouldn't be raised enough, whereas a medium can also be a psychic as a medium can drop their vibration to blend on the psychic.
Mediumistic is seen as a higher purer way of working and widely accepted as being a higher level of working than a psychic and why now, a lot of psychics use the term medium without actually being able to make mediumistic connections.
You'll often hear people refer to a medium as a “clairvoyant”. Some might even use the word “clairvoyant” instead of the word medium. However, these are two separate things. And when working with mediumship it is important to know the difference between the two.
A clairvoyant medium is able to communicate with the spirit world by using the sense of seeing. This does not necessarily mean that the clairvoyant medium sees the spirits with his or her physical eyes. Instead, a clairvoyant medium sees the spirit world with his or her “inner eye” or “third eye”. It can occur in many ways. It’s important to remember that all mediums are different. And it is rare for two mediums to work or develop in the exact same way.
A medium is a person that is able to communicate with the spirit world. Clairvoyance is one of many ways in which the medium can communicate with the spirits. The word means “clear seeing”. If the medium is clairvoyant, it means that he or she talks to the spirit world by using sight, in one way or the other. Not all mediums use their clairvoyance. In fact, all mediums have their own ways of communicating, and it does not have to be through the clairvoyant sense. Some mediums use their clairaudience, which means that they “hear” the spirit world. Others are clairgustient, which means that they “taste” the spirit world. In this blog we will look closer at clairvoyance.
Some mediums use colours when they are connecting for a reading. They might, for instance, see the colour blue while communicating with a spirit. Colors can mean different things for different mediums. The colour blue might mean calmness for some, indicating that the spirit coming through might have been a very calm person or it might stand for communication for some, meaning that the spirit was a calm person.
Some mediums are able to see short movies in their mind. They might be able to see whole memories from the spirit being played in their mind. As with pictures, movies are also put together by the clairvoyant mediums own mental images and memories.
Like all types of mediums, a clairvoyant does not automatically mean that you are spiritually enlightened. Some people expect all mediums to be kind, loving, and joyful people, all with a loving intention. This is not the case. Clairvoyants, as with all mediums, are able to do what they do, without being spiritually enlightened.
Most good mediumship teachers will teach their students that they will need to work on themselves, before they start to help others. A medium that is not in contact with themselves will easily become subjective in a reading, drawing conclusions from their own experience and issues. This can sometimes have serious consequences as they mislead their sitters. A medium that is spiritually developed and balanced will find it easier to do readings that are accurate. They will not have to hesitate when it comes to what is true and not. They will simply know, or feel it. They will often also have the ability to “feel” what their clients need.
The way different clairvoyant mediums “see” things can vary greatly. Some clairvoyants read. They might get a word, or many words, spelled out in their mind. Others just see parts of images, and are then able to paste these together, in order for it to make sense.
For people that are working on developing themselves spiritually, clairvoyance and many other types of mediumship often come with it as these skills are a part of who we truly are. Most spiritually developed mediumship teachers will agree that this is the best way of developing, as it will lead to more accurate readings made out of love and truth. Giving a good reading means enlightment, love, respect and experience.
Spirit guides are real, or a better way to explain is, some have lived before and some have chose not to live in a physical life.
A guide won't judge you, tell you what to do or fall out with you as they have evolved spiritually to a higher frequency, they hold none of the traits of the physical life such as any negative feelings. Some will have lived before as friends and family also people you will have known will also help you, giving you guidance for your best outcome in your life, its your choice to follow it or not. Some guides you won't have known, as these will be the ones who chose to be guides once they passed over, but they will resonate with you.
Their purpose is for guidance and healing in your own life firstly, for those that do open to spirit then your guides will teach and work with you for others.
A lot of people have had imaginary friends when they were children, these would have been guides, as guides are energy, they would have appeared as other children or something that child would have related too, as we are human, our brains need to make sense of things, so they would "fit" to our understanding of the world and surroundings at that time. As our awareness of our world and surroundings grow, so our guides appear to "change".
They guide you from within for your healing, how many times have you noticed old memories that have emotionally hurt or scarred you, start to come to the front of your mind? and you've no idea why?...It's usually because you are going through a similar situation which would cause the same emotional wounds or behaviours, which would again, be stored within. So they help bring memories back for you to release and the choice to change reactions or behaviours which have become a vicious circle for you. This could be situations, people or choices in your life.
Guides will give you feelings and they're usually quite subtle as you begin to trust your "gut" which is the clairsentience, the sensing. As your trust comes, you'll notice pictures appear and you might start to hear too. This can be "foresight for yourself, which comes in with the guidance and healing for yourself too.
Guides and mediumship development
Meditation is the ideal way to connect to your guides, you'll sense them, see them (not always straight away) and you can talk to them. Connecting through meditation helps to build your trust and confidence up as you'll be receiving guidance for yourself.
In mediumship and psychic development, your guides again work with you to open all your senses as there are quite a few, and the more senses you open and become aware of can make a difference to connections and symbols.
In development there are various exercises that strengthen your blend, as you lift your vibration, spirit lower theirs to make that blend possible as they learn to work with you and your awareness. These exercises would be done in a development class or on a 1 to 1 basis and make a difference to your understanding.
For more info on workshops and development contact me via email - firstname.lastname@example.org
This is very much misunderstood, NO we don't, they're more alive than we are, it's the physical body that expires but the soul is eternal.
In case you didn't know it, they're are around you more than you realise and it's love that brings them closer.
They come back because they want to, and a medium can't force them, some don't come back at all if they don't want to. They come with love and concern for their family, for support and help with grief.
They ultimately choose to come back
Elaine has a working class backround, and understands the trials of life. Here she shares some of her thoughts on many different topics