Elaine has a working class backround, and understands the trials of life. Here she shares some of her thoughts on many different topics
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For a long time i'd wonder how you manifested things into your life? i'd hear people talk about it, i'd ask about it but didn't quite understand it! I'd always hoped for what i'd wanted or worked towards what i wanted but i didn't know you could ASK the universe for what you wanted! Once i understood it, i tried it and found it actually worked, there are a few things you have to remember though. The main thing is BE CAREFUL WHAT YOU ASK FOR! This made me chuckle a few times. I once asked for long hair...my daughter asked me if i wanted her hair extensions :-) i thought my hair would grow faster, another time i asked for help to lose weight..leaflets fell through my door for slimming clinics :-D I just didn't understand it! It took a few (quite a few) attempts, but once i understood it, i seen it worked!
To start with, practise connecting to the universal energy and building your awareness, we often miss the signs that are guidance. When manifesting, it's important to be clear and specific, try to give the universe a helping hand by taking action yourself. I knew someone who wanted to manifest a partner but they didn't go out or like the idea of using dating sites, how was the universe supposed to help? Talk to people, tell them your dreams, visualisation is important. Ask for what you want then spend 10 minutes visualising it daily. Don't tell the universe how it's supposed to deliver your request, because there could be something better than you were expecting coming in the way they choose to deliver. This is also called cosmic ordering.
I'm a big believer in God boxes or wish jars as they work in the same way. Just use a container, i use an old coffee jar which you can decorate if you choose to. W|rite on a piece of paper (big enough to fit what you want to ask for) now be careful with your wording as it matters. A friend of mine wanted her husband to make the bed and maybe wash the dishes before he went to work, so she didn't have to when she got home, I told her about the God box and sure enough it happened. She rang me laughing as she was so surprised. When you write out your note, I use one piece for each thing i ask for, some people make lists but it's each to their own. Pop your note inside, replace the lid and pop the jar or container in a kitchen cupboard, on a shelf, in the wardrobe or somewhere out of sight. You can add to it whenever you want.
It works on the universal law of attraction
Try it out and you will see it works!
Happy ordering guys, good luck!
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We can feel powerless when someone we care for isn't in the best of health or going through a tough time. BUT you're not powerless, physical distance doesn't stop you from sending love and healing. Healing energies aren't limited by distance. With a little technique and lots of good intentions, you can help your loved ones, even from the other side of the world with remote healing.
Every one has the ability to bring solace to others, we are all connected by a cosmic network of divine love, we all have it. The lines are open for you to give and send good vibes, you just need to learn how to focus and have faith in yourself.
To heal a person, you don't need to focus on the illness or injury. Don't imagine tumors shrinking, bones mending etc as that would send some of the energy to the problem itself. Pure intentions will do the very best, keep it simple and visualise the person well, vibrant and smiling.
The power of serenity is a wonderful thing too, so it's important to stay calm before starting on a remote healing session.
A good way to do this is through meditation and by strengthening your contact with the natural world. Some find it helpful to go outside, breathe and fell any stress releasing into the earth. Consciously relax every muscle, so you are a conduit for healing.
Here are some techniques for healing...
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It can be the smallest word that's been said to you that's stuck with you, children who have been told they're stupid, worthless or worse can grow up believing it to be true, and because it's an adult that has usually told them they believe it's validated. As adults we can also believe words that's said by others, or we see someone who we deem to be better than us, due to looks or accomplishments and we judge ourselves.
Imagine being a child or adult and not having those words said to you? Imagine ignoring those words and how confident you would be feeling now?
Society has changed over the years, where we all know or have heard the benefits of being positive, giving positive affirmations and not validating the negative. I believe we are going through a phase of change in the world, which has been creeping up over quite a few years with a few more to go. I myself, made a conscious decision when i had my children that i would only give positive affirmations and not fall into the negative judgements. So when they would have, for example, spelling tests at school, and maybe the mark would be 8/10 or 9/10 and they would say "ah i only got this mark or that mark", i'd always tell them well it's left you room to improve your mark next time, or "it's better than less" but i'd always tell them they can only try their best and the important thing is the trying. If you don't try you will never know. If they ever say their stupid, i tell them "no you're not, you just havn't used your brain but you'll know better next time" I've carried out the positive affirmations throughout their life and they both have a "quiet confidence" about them that always surprises me.
Self confidence is a daily affirmation of "you can do this" "you are better than you think" " you got this" and more.
Daily affirmations of self love can be looking in the mirror once a day and, even in your mind telling yourself your a good person, you look lovely, you deserve success etc they really can change your outlook on yourself as the inner self in acknowledged and validated.
Here are a few ways you can show yourself love.
I truly hope some of these techniques work for you.
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Well...would you really want to?? I certainly wouldn't!
I was recently told about someone, who had been told the age when they would die. I've heard this more and more lately and i'm horrified by the lack of human sympathy and empathy shown by mediums and psychics who do this. Another lady was given a date, and every year when that date comes round she worries and panics.
It's so wrong on so many levels, a medium wouldn't be made aware of it and a psychic would be reading your energy which also includes your fears, hopes and dreams good and bad. So if you have a fear of dying, have it in your mind to get past a certain age, maybe a few loved ones have passed around the same age and you have that in your thoughts, which is essentially in your aura, a psychic would be reading it in your energy, it's not to say it's correct!
Firstly, my thoughts would be to run a mile from anyone that tells you this, as mediums and psychics can't know. It would show to me that maybe that person hasn't understood fully what they were receiving, they could be transferring their own fears, shock tactics or some even have the thoughts that they can play God! There would be no reason except to feed fear that this is said. We wouldn't be told and we do not know when we are going to pass. It would rob us of good and bad times with everyone in our lives. Unfortunately we all have to go through sad and happy times, which includes the loss of a loved one, grief and grieving.
Imagine being told you were going to pass at say, 25, and you meet the love of your life at 22. You wouldn't get married, have children, make plans for the future and build your hopes and dreams. What would be the point of doing all that when you would only have 3 years!? Can you imagine? You'd be counting down the days and robbing yourself of all the happiness and joy in your life. You would in fact, be stopping the happiness and joy!
Yes some of us have longer lives than others, some seem to have happier lives, some even seem to do more with their lives! But we all have choices, and we can choose to strive for bettering ourselves, have better experiences and do more within our lifetime.
The length of your life all depends on yourself. Health for example, we can be diagnosed with an illness or condition and it's up to us how we handle it. Do we let it affect our enjoyment of life with worry, stress (sometimes any diagnosis or news we can't get our head round) as it can be an initial shock to the system essentially shortening our enjoyment or quality of life. Or we can choose to try to make the most of it, and help ourselves whether that means a lifestyle change, medications etc.
You might find yourself in a relationship that you've grown out of or it's maybe a toxic relationship that you've just accepted as "your lot in life" . Again the choice is, do i stay or do i go - staying would be putting up, not full happiness. Going or moving on may usually lead you to better relationships, or at least relationships which should be more fulfilling and rewarding for you. So again it's down to choice.
If you knew when you were going to "die" you wouldn't make choices and you might as well say the word "choice" just doesn't exist and is a stupid word even!
The reality is, none of us know when we will "die" so we can live each day to the fullest, enjoy each emotion or let each emotion touch us and experience the joys in our life.
Each person's joy will be different from someone else's. You will have heard the saying - one person's joy is another person's sorrow, and it's true.
So live your life to the fullest, love people when they're in your life and have hopes, dreams and aspirations.
Do you agree?
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Courage is a word i don't think about that often...lately i've had that word going round in my mind a lot, which led me to thinking..
How many times do we recognise our own courage? not a lot! but we've all got courage and it shows itself in many ways. Courage can be something that might seem trivial to many but is a massive thing to others. I'm going to share my thoughts on what ive thought lately about "courage"..
For a lot of people, waking up in the morning is just the "norm" but if you think about it, this can be a very courageous thing for someone that doesn't want to be here anymore, whether thats been caused by illness, mental health or just how they've seen their life at that time and thought life would be better off without them. They've decided to make that choice of waking up and facing another day.
There are lots of times we would all like to sit back and let life pass us by, not take care of "routine", housework, deadlines, caring for others, finance's, and some people do sit back and let things pile up, BUT then they gain the courage by whichever way, to decide to pick themselves up and they find the courage to battle through whatever is pulling or holding them back.
You hear of people who have took that "leap of faith" and changed their life completely by moving to a different country, changing their careers or even changing their life path because it felt the right thing to do, it felt right or sometimes because of a life threatening health reason people have chose to have a better life or be a better person...it all took courage to take that "leap of faith".
Each choice we make takes courage, in 2015 i took a leap of faith and chose to become a full time medium. At the time i was working in the care sector, regular income, regular set hours, fellow workers i could rely on in a job i loved, but due to health issues i couldn't do that work in a reliable manner and was put in a position to either move to a job i could do or not work. I thought things through over a few months and the only thing that felt right to me, was something that i'd been doing outside of my working life, something i loved and still love doing, what i feel is my calling....MEDIUMSHIP! I spoke to my kids, my daughter said "Mom if it's what you want to do, then go for it! My son said "How will you pay bills? You're making a mistake! It's not a job it's just something you do! He even said at one point.."You've lost the plot!" I still spent a little time thinking it through, trying to weigh up my options and decided i didn't want to spend the rest of my life creating more wear and tear on my body, being tied to other people's routine's etc and realised i lived to work, my working life was leading my personal life and what i could and couldn't do, due to work hours which led to, yes, a regular income but an income that would only change by a few pence to a couple of pounds a year. I realised if i became a full time medium it would be more hours (much more haha) for possibly less money but i had the choice of more variation, though i only have myself to rely on and it's all good. I can honestly say, having the courage to make that decision, was one of the best ive made.
I'm not suggesting that anyone should make a life changing decision, what i am saying, is, when you reflect back over the past week, month, year or your life at decisions you've made willingly and knowingly and sometimes decisions you've been in a position that you had to, acknowledge the courage you have inside yourself, acknowledge that something you may not see as having courage, even what may seem as minor things like making an effort with yourself, all take courage, the courage to make a decision.
So "courage was going round and round in my head, i thought it through and for me, courage comes with decisions that some of us take for granted and others find hard, courage is in all of us and how we show courage is sometimes not seen by others but recognised by ourselves. Courage isn't always dangerous pastimes like lion taming, mountain climbing
(though i might add, those that do lion taming etc are extremely courageous!)
Courage for a lot of people, can be simply having the courage to get through each day.
If you would like to add your thoughts, be brave and have the courage to make a comment
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There's a fine line between being confident and being overly confident.
I suffered with a lack of confidence when i was younger, i thought other's knew better, who was interested in what i had to say, took more notice of other people's achievements and measured myself up against them. Even silly things like people might like me more if i had curlier hair, my smile was different, i wore different clothes, even thought if my parents decorated the house in a different colour or style, the list goes on and on. Those things were a big thing to me when i was younger in my early teens, and my self esteem was low, even though my parents owned their own home, i wanted for nothing within reason, I still felt i didn't match up to others and my expectations of myself were high and when i failed, my confidence and esteem would slide further down. I tried many things over the years and couldn't see my successes, i'd had a saturday job at 14, went straight into full time work, had a good circle of friends, parents that loved me and a nice home.
Every now and again i'd tell myself it only mattered to me how i was, i didn't realise i was the only one bothered by me "thoughts" and "how i should be"
It took me a long time to realise that, as i picked myself up trying to better myself, people around me seemed to change and pull away. I didn't realise like drew like, so when i was feeling negative about myself i'd be attracting people with the same thoughts and as i tried to better myself i was always pulling myself back over as it felt comfortable. I had family members say i'd changed and i wasn't their sort anymore, i was fine with that and still am, as i've found there's always a positive outcome for everyone involved when there's a break.
From a young age, i read magazine's, watched tv shows and read books on confidence and esteem, i've found through trial and error that not everything will work for everyone, but here's some tips that do work
I Hope these tips help you if you struggle with low self esteem or lack of confidence.
I welcome any comments or feedback and be grateful if you could share to help others.
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Based on the law of attraction, a universal law, which applies to anyone.
Our thoughts are powerful and creative. Cosmic ordering is about harnessing that positive energy and using it to help realize your dreams and goals.
Visualize in as much detail as you can, you have to be precise what it is you want and hold that request in your mind with no worry but setting your intention, release it to the universe. The universe should then be left to its own creative way. It's important to not worry or think about how it will happen, as the universe can often manifest for you in the most unexpected and surprising way.
Think of it like this, if you placed an order from a catalogue you wouldn’t worry about how the goods would be delivered, you would just wait for them to arrive, so do the same here and forget about it, let the universe do it’s magical work and sort out all the details for you.
Is there certain things i can ask for?
Always be positive and open when asking. It can be anything from a new home, a soul mate, money, healing, health, a new car – be as creative in your desires as you wish, it can be small things or large things, it’s your list to update and amend as you want to. Start by asking for small things for example a parking space, or a seat on the train in the rush hour. It is best not to ask for too many things at once and to be thankful and grateful whenever it comes your way. Don't let worries come in the way or you might block the universe from helping you.
After Peter passed, i was in need of a table and chairs and couldn't afford one, i sent out my thoughts and a couple of weeks later someone mentioned they had one they were giving away, it was immaculate and done the job until i could afford one.
“Be careful what you wish for… you just might get it!” This needs to be considered, as the universe is indeed very powerful. Make lists and really think things through. You can cancel and change orders but don’t confuse the universe with too many differing requests, be very clear. Be specific.
It is important to be positive, make it personal to you. Make sure theycome from an open and loving heart. It does not work to wish for things for others that are vengeful or negative.
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I would definately have to agree with this!
I'd not really thought about life cycles until a few years ago, and i can now actually sit back and see where a cycle has begun and ended in my life.
The one that really stuck out to me was...in 2004 i was working as a carer in a nursing home, at the end of Oct 2004 my husband was diagnosed with a rare cancer and doctors gave him a month to build his strength up before starting chemo and radio therapy for 8 weeks. The care home manager was great, moving me to diversional therapist (i'd done that before) so i could reduce my hours and fit it with Peter's daily treatments which i went to with him and my kids. As his treatment started to take it's toll it was clear he needed my support, so i finished my last shift at the care home on Dec 31st 2004 and my life changed. Peter had been a builder and we both had a good income, a nice lifestyle and kids were well looked after. But now it seemed to all fade away and i went through massive changes, we all did. We'd always hoped he would be the first one to survive this rare cancer but in Aug 2008 he passed over. Because Peter had known this he decided we had to learn to live without him and he started to put things into place that would devastate me and my kids and start a ball of lies and deceit that benefitted him as it made it easier to come to terms with not being with us. I know he regretted his decisions.
My life as i'd known it had ended Dec 31st 2004 but at the end of 2013, i had a call from a friend who i'd known since the age of 19 and who i'd worked with in the home, to say my job had come open, though it had on many occasions over the years but for some reason i came to his mind then, he'd spoke to the manager and she'd asked me to go in..it was Dec 2013 and i restarted my job Jan 2014..i remember thoughts coming into my mind "10 years virtually to the day" , " I was back living my life", and "my life had continued in the exact same spot" as it had seemed to come apart. So the 10 year cycle had started Dec 2004 and ended Jan 2014..I wouldn't change anything about those 10 years as i found a lot out about myself, my strength and how people can see things in a totally different perspective to how they actually are. It made me see how negative people will make anything fit to how they want it to look so it suits them, and how people's misconceptions can be twisted due to what's going on around them and how to some people 2 + 2 make 39, 42, 75 etc anything rather than 2 + 2 actually making 4. I remember going through the worst of that time and hearing the words "the truth will out" and not realising yes the truth does come out eventually! But more on that in future blogs...
So life definately comes in life cycles, if you look back over events and happenings in your life, you'll see your cycles