There's a fine line between being confident and being overly confident.
I suffered with a lack of confidence when i was younger, i thought other's knew better, who was interested in what i had to say, took more notice of other people's achievements and measured myself up against them. Even silly things like people might like me more if i had curlier hair, my smile was different, i wore different clothes, even thought if my parents decorated the house in a different colour or style, the list goes on and on. Those things were a big thing to me when i was younger in my early teens, and my self esteem was low, even though my parents owned their own home, i wanted for nothing within reason, I still felt i didn't match up to others and my expectations of myself were high and when i failed, my confidence and esteem would slide further down. I tried many things over the years and couldn't see my successes, i'd had a saturday job at 14, went straight into full time work, had a good circle of friends, parents that loved me and a nice home.
Every now and again i'd tell myself it only mattered to me how i was, i didn't realise i was the only one bothered by me "thoughts" and "how i should be"
It took me a long time to realise that, as i picked myself up trying to better myself, people around me seemed to change and pull away. I didn't realise like drew like, so when i was feeling negative about myself i'd be attracting people with the same thoughts and as i tried to better myself i was always pulling myself back over as it felt comfortable. I had family members say i'd changed and i wasn't their sort anymore, i was fine with that and still am, as i've found there's always a positive outcome for everyone involved when there's a break.
From a young age, i read magazine's, watched tv shows and read books on confidence and esteem, i've found through trial and error that not everything will work for everyone, but here's some tips that do work
I Hope these tips help you if you struggle with low self esteem or lack of confidence.
I welcome any comments or feedback and be grateful if you could share to help others.
Based on the law of attraction, a universal law, which applies to anyone.
Our thoughts are powerful and creative. Cosmic ordering is about harnessing that positive energy and using it to help realize your dreams and goals.
Visualize in as much detail as you can, you have to be precise what it is you want and hold that request in your mind with no worry but setting your intention, release it to the universe. The universe should then be left to its own creative way. It's important to not worry or think about how it will happen, as the universe can often manifest for you in the most unexpected and surprising way.
Think of it like this, if you placed an order from a catalogue you wouldn’t worry about how the goods would be delivered, you would just wait for them to arrive, so do the same here and forget about it, let the universe do it’s magical work and sort out all the details for you.
Is there certain things i can ask for?
Always be positive and open when asking. It can be anything from a new home, a soul mate, money, healing, health, a new car – be as creative in your desires as you wish, it can be small things or large things, it’s your list to update and amend as you want to. Start by asking for small things for example a parking space, or a seat on the train in the rush hour. It is best not to ask for too many things at once and to be thankful and grateful whenever it comes your way. Don't let worries come in the way or you might block the universe from helping you.
After Peter passed, i was in need of a table and chairs and couldn't afford one, i sent out my thoughts and a couple of weeks later someone mentioned they had one they were giving away, it was immaculate and done the job until i could afford one.
“Be careful what you wish for… you just might get it!” This needs to be considered, as the universe is indeed very powerful. Make lists and really think things through. You can cancel and change orders but don’t confuse the universe with too many differing requests, be very clear. Be specific.
It is important to be positive, make it personal to you. Make sure theycome from an open and loving heart. It does not work to wish for things for others that are vengeful or negative.
I would definately have to agree with this!
I'd not really thought about life cycles until a few years ago, and i can now actually sit back and see where a cycle has begun and ended in my life.
The one that really stuck out to me was...in 2004 i was working as a carer in a nursing home, at the end of Oct 2004 my husband was diagnosed with a rare cancer and doctors gave him a month to build his strength up before starting chemo and radio therapy for 8 weeks. The care home manager was great, moving me to diversional therapist (i'd done that before) so i could reduce my hours and fit it with Peter's daily treatments which i went to with him and my kids. As his treatment started to take it's toll it was clear he needed my support, so i finished my last shift at the care home on Dec 31st 2004 and my life changed. Peter had been a builder and we both had a good income, a nice lifestyle and kids were well looked after. But now it seemed to all fade away and i went through massive changes, we all did. We'd always hoped he would be the first one to survive this rare cancer but in Aug 2008 he passed over. Because Peter had known this he decided we had to learn to live without him and he started to put things into place that would devastate me and my kids and start a ball of lies and deceit that benefitted him as it made it easier to come to terms with not being with us. I know he regretted his decisions.
My life as i'd known it had ended Dec 31st 2004 but at the end of 2013, i had a call from a friend who i'd known since the age of 19 and who i'd worked with in the home, to say my job had come open, though it had on many occasions over the years but for some reason i came to his mind then, he'd spoke to the manager and she'd asked me to go in..it was Dec 2013 and i restarted my job Jan 2014..i remember thoughts coming into my mind "10 years virtually to the day" , " I was back living my life", and "my life had continued in the exact same spot" as it had seemed to come apart. So the 10 year cycle had started Dec 2004 and ended Jan 2014..I wouldn't change anything about those 10 years as i found a lot out about myself, my strength and how people can see things in a totally different perspective to how they actually are. It made me see how negative people will make anything fit to how they want it to look so it suits them, and how people's misconceptions can be twisted due to what's going on around them and how to some people 2 + 2 make 39, 42, 75 etc anything rather than 2 + 2 actually making 4. I remember going through the worst of that time and hearing the words "the truth will out" and not realising yes the truth does come out eventually! But more on that in future blogs...
So life definately comes in life cycles, if you look back over events and happenings in your life, you'll see your cycles