Spirit guides are real, or  a better way to explain is, some have lived before and some have chose not to live in a physical life. 
A guide won't judge you, tell you what to do or fall out with you as they have evolved spiritually to a higher frequency, they hold none of the traits of the physical life such as any negative feelings. Some will have lived before as friends and family also people you will have known will also help you, giving you guidance for your best outcome in your life, its your choice to follow it or not. Some guides you won't have known, as these will be the ones who chose to be guides once they passed over, but they will resonate with you. 
Their purpose is for guidance and healing in your own life firstly, for those that do open to spirit then your guides will teach and work with you for others.
A lot of people have had imaginary friends when they were children, these would have been guides, as guides are energy, they would have appeared as other children or something that child would have related too, as we are human, our brains need to make sense of things, so they would "fit" to our understanding of the world and surroundings at that time. As our awareness of our world and surroundings grow, so our guides appear to "change".
They guide you from within for your healing, how many times have you noticed old memories that have emotionally hurt or scarred you, start to come to the front of your mind? and you've no idea why?...It's usually because you are going through a similar situation which would cause the same emotional wounds or behaviours, which would again, be stored within. So they help bring memories back for you to release and the choice to change reactions or behaviours which have become a vicious circle for you. This could be situations, people or choices in your life.

Guides will give you feelings and they're usually quite subtle as you begin to trust your "gut" which is the clairsentience, the sensing. As your trust comes, you'll notice pictures appear and you might start to hear too. This can be "foresight for yourself, which comes in with the guidance and healing for yourself too.

Guides and mediumship development
Meditation is the ideal way to connect to your guides, you'll sense them, see them (not always straight away) and you can talk to them. Connecting through meditation helps to build your trust and confidence up as you'll be receiving guidance for yourself.
In mediumship and psychic development, your guides again work with you to open all your senses as there are quite a few, and the more senses you open and become aware of can make a difference to connections and symbols. 
In development there are various exercises that strengthen your blend, as you lift your vibration, spirit lower theirs to make that blend possible as they learn to work with you and your awareness. These exercises would be done in a development class or on a 1 to 1 basis and make a difference to your understanding. 
For more info on workshops and development contact me via email - kerkypa@hotmail.co.uk 

I've been regressed twice and both times helped me immensely, these are my thoughts on it.
I was regressed as i thought it might help me understand myself and it did. Whether i've actually lived those 2 lives or because i'm human and my brain has tried to make sense in a way i would understand i really don't know. 
I do know from regression i understood myself more than i did before, and in some ways helped with my mediumship as i understood myself, for example, i could understand the reasons behind my thinking, see why illnesses appear, understand why i am how i am and who i am. 
It did release a lot of emotions and the first time i was regressed i did cry throughout the experience but felt better afterwards.
You should never go through a passing in regression and to me, whether thats an actual past life passing or again, my brain making sense of a traumatic experience without me actually remembering that experience i don't know. 
The 2 people that regressed me were for me amazing and i could definately say there was no planting seeds in my mind or suggestive thoughts that might have led me to think or feel the way i did, they asked questions like "what year is it" "what clothes was i wearing" , "did i work" and "did i recognise the area" etc and questions along those lines, so nothing that could lead me. In the first regression i was a male in Kentucky in the mid 1800's (I've never been to Kentucky or America), in the second regression again i was a male in London's east end in the late 1800's (i've been to London once, for 2 days to windsor castle and the millenium dome, so definately not the east end of London)
It does involve a hypnosis, which not everyone can be hypnotised, but if you are going to be regressed look into it carefully as there are a lot of people that say it takes hours and many times, but in my opinion it doesn't, it takes approx 20/30 mins as you can't stay "under" for too long, and don't let anyone feed you seeds of suggestions let your own thoughts come through.

NO NO and NO!
A lot of people who don't understand mediumship do say it's mind reading, but it's definately not, how could it be, when some of the things you don't even know yourself and have to go away and ask, you then find out it's right? 
Mental mediums work through the mind via a series of pictures, thoughts, feelings which we call the psychic senses transferred to them via spiritual energy, but we don't read from the mind, otherwise you would know everything we tell you.
A mental medium is a medium who passes messages orally from spiritual connections 

Just like in the physical body, if we've had illness or upset it can deplete our energies and it can take some of us a little while to pull ourselves round and we have friends and family rally round helping and looking after us. Same happens when we pass over, there's an adjustment period where some loved ones pick up their energy and adjust and friends and family in the spirit side of life rally round, helping with the adjustment.
When we're born physically we start to learn from family and friends, we go to school, some will go onto college or university to further their learning. When we passover it's a death, ending or loss to us but, its a birth to the spirit side so the learning and growing begins but this time it's not physically growing but a mind expansion, energy growth. Again some spirits go on to develop further which is where the further education comes in, the shedding of emotional scars, the rising above, the purer energy. So on the spirit side of life there is what we call the halls of learning where this takes place. 
​It is very similar to a parallel universe if you like.
​So there is no death only eternal life

Loved ones over in spirit will be trying in some way to get through to you, but if our grief is too much it can hold them back or we can miss the signs and messages. A lot of people say they can't come through for 6 months but they can and do, depending on your grief. 

It means different things to different people, to me it means reflecting on the not so good memories that can overwhelm us because we still carry a mixed bag of emotions. As each emotion opens or we go deeper into our memories, perhaps specific situations, times or to do with certain people and we feel the emotion, a lot of us close the door but in fact, we should be opening the door as much as we can bear and as we do, confront our emotions and allow them to come through but start to look at the not so good memory in a different way to allow the healing to take place, which then allows ourselves to rid ourselves of the hurt or pain we feel. As we contemplate or rethink our emotions we're opening up the possibilities of changing our understanding, maybe seeing things in a different way and understanding reasons, heightened emotions and others thinking and we therefore can rationalise things that decrase pain we hold. It may take a few days or longer to deal with each step forward or opening that door more, but at each step our own healing takes place to move us forward to a new understanding of our own reactions. Maybe we blame ourselves too much instead of proportioning blame or maybe we blame others instead of taking blame ourselves when in fact the reality is, once you contemplate and rethink things turning them this way and that, you might actually find there's no blame just reactions which can become distorted and we can sometimes cause our own emotional distress which we hold onto. Our minds are the strongest muscle we have and at times can cause a vicious circle of reactions which can be easy to fall into. For some people, carrying a burden or issue since childhood can start to weigh heavy as we bury it with other issues due to the original issue and so on and so on, then they get so far buried it can be so hard to uravel or they feel so worn down it can feel like too much of an effort so they don't deal with it and carry on burying. 
When opening the door to look within ourselves can be hard, a lot of people feel emotionally drained which can make us feel physically tired. It's scientifically proven our body stores emotional scars which can weigh us down and cause illnesses, I'm not saying you'll become illness free as you look within, but you will feel better and illnesses may start to relieve. 
If there are emotional issues you can't face fully, the best thing you can do is not lay blame, but forgive yourself or the situation if you can't forgive a person and accept whatever happened was your only route or way of coping at that time. 
​When a weight is lifted you feel a release and actually do feel better for it, the secret is not allowing yourself to slip back down again but keep going. 
Looking within also means looking at your flaws and weaknesses and working on those, maybe looking at yourself through someone else's eyes. We never see ourself as other's see us, have you been selfish lately, maybe too wrapped in yourself to notice what's going on with others? Have you noticed friends seeming to back off for seemingly no reason? try taking a moment to look within and look at your actions, behaviour etc 
​Spiritual growth as a person starts within.
Nearly 11 years ago i lost my husband and due to horrific accusations that i wouldn't subject anyone to, i spent a time in a suicidal, depressed state, seen councellors and everything that goes with it, cutting people off etc for a long time. Then the thoughts kept coming in and i started to reflect, turning everything round and understanding how those ex family members could make accusations, with the help of a fantastic councellor i started to look within and realised that they were trying to transfer what they had done, thought or felt guilty about over onto me to ease their own feelings but they still carry those emotions. Though i still can't forgive them i have forgiven the situation and myself and accepted my choices were the best i could make in the situation. I really did feel a weight lift from me and started to see things in a clearer way. The councellor suggested i write all my thoughts and events at that time down, which i did over a few years as i opened up the emotions. It was then suggested i turn it into a book which i have been writing or putting it into order i should say. As yet my book remains unpublished and without a title as i still continue to look within on a daily basis and add to it, also checking things legally.
I'm hoping to have it published by the end of 2019/2020. 

MOST DEFINATELY!
The difference between someone who's been developed and someone undeveloped is very significant. When your developed you will have a better understanding of how you receive communications via your psychic senses and also which senses your working with, if undeveloped you won't understand as much and you may even misunderstand and miss some of the communication or if you misunderstand you may give the total wrong information. Also if undeveloped you may mistakenly claim to be a medium when really working psychically. 
​personal development is also an integral part of becoming a "better you" or opening to spirit
So for me, development is important for mediums, psychics and all lightworkers. 

Peter Somerville, gone but not forgotten xx
​23/9/55 - 02/08/2008

My thoughts on this have differed over the years. When our loved ones pass over to the spirit side they are able to contact us straight away IF the conditions are right. If there is so much grief that we think we want to only hear certain things, when we don't get to hear what we think we want to hear or we dismiss the evidence they give, then we normally think they havn't been in touch. I've realised this is just ourselves that's closed off a bit? it's usually because it's the actual physical person we are missing and probably not in the right frame of mind to accept the physical has gone. It's hard but when we are ready for someone to pass, either we don't want to see them in pain any longer or they don't have the energy to stay and we can see it's their time. It doesn't mean we don't grieve, it means we're ready to let them go and be in peace and pain free knowing it's out of love, it's putting that person first. When my husband Peter passed, i didn't want him to obviously, the same as anyone, but i was ready and prepared for his passing and accepted nothing, no amount of praying, sending out thoughts, new treatment, meds etc was going to make that difference. I rang at 9.30pm nightly to the hospice to speak to him, say goodnight from me and our kids and tell him how much we loved him. The night he passed 2/8/2008 i'd fell asleep and missed calling him, at 1.22am i felt as though i was shook by the shoulder and i woke up, reached for the phone and something instinctively told me i wasn't going to get an answer, i felt the love from him and heard him say "I love you and the kids, tell them and look after them" . He'd came to me as he took his transition, he passed at 1.25am..my kids obviously took it really hard and i had to be strong for them, the most heartbreaking thing in my life was to tell my kids their dad had passed and they wouldn't  be able to see him, touch him or talk to him again, but he left signs all over for them. My daughter would wake up to find feathers on her pillow (not feather pillows) in her books, amongst toys and special songs would play, my son would get feathers or he'd want to go somewhere and miraculously he'd get opportunities and he'd smell his dad too. It's nearly 11 years and he still gives us signs he's about. Our loved ones are always drawn where there's love and there's lots here for him! 
On the other side of things, i've known people lose someone and want them through so much,it's took a long time in some cases years for them to know they've been through but hadn't been ready to accept them as the grief has been so overwhelming and they've not been ready to let go. 
Before you think letting go means forgetting someone, it definately doesn't, it simply means your ready to let go of the hurt. Grief is love with nowhere to go, it comes out in tears and many ways. And grief definately comes in stages, not many people like to admit but anger at the person that passed is one of the stages, and how you overcome it depends on yourself.