Meditation is a way of bringing clarity, focus and peace to your mind, but...clearing out your cupboards or home is just as effective!
Long lost belongings, clothes or keepsakes that you keep in boxes in an attic or tucked away in a drawer or cupboard can keep you attached to forgotten memories, people or times we don't want to think about for many reasons. Clearing these help to clear yourself of the attachments to these times, emotions or let go of people.
As we declutter we face our attachments with compassion we are driven by consuming emotions, these are emotions that we pour our energy into that don't give us anything back but, they consume and drain us....whether you realise it they also block you from energies such as love, joy, courage, grace, peace, generosity.
As you declutter you transform.
Time to tidy
When you decide it's time to tidy, when you feel ready to clear out the old take notice of your feelings, listen to your internal self and just sit with that feeling, have a conversation with yourself about the emotions or feelings that have been raised. When strong emotions and make you question do you have the strength to go ahead, it's time to take a break.
Decluttering is ultimately self-care and if you aren't practising self-care as you do it then it is not a self-care activity.
As you clear the clutter set your intention for each room, for example a bedroom you might intend that space for relaxation love or joy, a bathroom may be intended for rejuvenation, cleansing and purifying.
Clear the energy
In each space clear the items that don't resonate with the energies you intend for that space, for example old letters or gifts from an ex love might hold the energies of regret, resentment and a form of bitterness which will prevent the flow of love into your bedroom. Bills might make you feel anxious.
To spiritually cleanse a room we have to meet the things that are causing our spiritual energy to drain and instead intend the energy that allows our spiritual life to flourish.
So you've set the intention in your bedroom now how do you do that with clothes or your sock draw??
if you open your drawer and theres something there that makes you go urghh! it's stopping that full flow of love and balance in that room. if it's an item that is well past being well worn or well used, but you think 'i paid good money for that!' its creating a feeling of guilt which is again slowing down or stopping the flow of love and needs to be cleared.
There are items we keep like old photos, a gift a child has made or a gift from a deceased loved one like a parent, when we come across these we open up the feelings and emotions that can stop us in our tracks. These can still make us feel drained that just holding at it or looking at it makes us want to collapse, and you put it back in the drawer. This shows an attachment to that object, whether it's regret, sadness, worry or a fear. This is where compassion comes in, because its compassion as a spiritual energy that transforms suffering.
We have to learn to sit with compassion for ourselves, for the object and the story that brings those emotions forward.
Piles of regret
"That still needs doing" do you hear yourself saying this? paperwork can be a minefield to go through but can be sorted into 'guilt' 'regret' 'anxiety' piles. Old medical records from 10 years ago might bring up guilt or regret and isn't worthy of the space in your head it takes up.
You don't need to be carrying that physical, emotional and spiritual weight.
Sort the remaining papers out, this might not give you joy but it will give you access to what you need, not feeling afraid or anxious about looking into those files because you don't know if you'll find what your looking for (or what else you might find!?)
That's freedom and thats what you're aiming for. to be able to lay your hands on what we need as well as what we love.
Whether its candles, lipsticks, cookbooks or anything else, collections are likely to show your buying habits when your in psychic pain or in a difficult position emotionally.
Once you go through decluttering and see how your purchasing power has been driven by your pain, hopefully you can deals with those habits by recognising and they will change.
Spiritual decluttering is an opportunity to practise letting go of things that no longer serve us (or never did)
Letting go doesnt have to be painful, it can be an act of grace or gratitude.
Pick up an object as if it were an old friend, thank it, forgive it if it never served you then let it go.
Clutter will show up again but it will become easier to see and take care of quickly.
Like a gardener, you'll have learned the difference between weeds and cultivated plants.
Decluttering is less an activity with a start and a finish, more a way of life.
Tips for a pain-free clear out
Surrender what doesn't serve you and create more space in your heart and soul for what you need...
from bad habits to holding grudges to full blown addictions we all have burdens we could do with putting aside.
Letting go or loosening the grip on our negative emotions like fear, anger or even releasing attachment to certain people is often harder than it sounds.
We all stand in our pwn way at times by making excuses to hold on a little longer, sometimes conciously and unconciousnessly. Causing ourselves mental, physical suffering and distress not forgetting the emotional and spiritual pain.
How and why do we cling onto behaviours, feelings and people when they are holding us back? How do we release them?
The answers often lie in our early years, as our past influences us massively. Upbringing, betrayals, traumas, humiliations, neglect wounds all form our thought process which become a template in the mind. When triggered cause us to act and react .
One way offinding out what it actually is we need to let go of is recognising when we feel the need to react or act in a certain way. A way that doesn't feel right, a way that doesn't serve us in a good way, in other words a negative way maybe out of spite, jealousy, but it doesn't move us forward it only serves to hold us back. So we've caused ourselves to be stuck in the same pattern of actions and reactions.
The first step is to have a concious awareness of ourselves and this is usually where we often fall down. We automatically push away what makes us feel uncomfortable and out of our conciousness.
become aware of your habits and what you push away, work out what triggers you or maybe brings up strong emotions. Really notice if you do things repeatedly, talk about yourself in a certain way.
In the beginning don't even ask why, just acknowledge your action or reaction and that you over reacted.
keep a diary so you can see repeated patterns which you may not have even noticed, but once you identify the negative behaviours or habits that are holding you back this gives you your intent for letting go. First just let the issue be for a little while, don't fight it, push it away or instantly try to change it as this can make it worse but just be with it. The acknowledgement will allow it to move naturally without forcing it.
Then you can meditate with intention, to visit the lower levels of your subconcious or conciousness as what holds you back, resides in the lower self. " My intention is to connect to the lower world of myself to find my power place and i ask spirit to help me"
In time you can then set your intention to pin down the specific cause of issues which you want to let go.
"My intention is to visit the lower world to find the cause of my anxiety and what would overcome it"
You will most likely see your inner child at a certain age or scenes from childhood. Acknowledge the scenes you see or scenes you witnessed and talk to your inner child explaining "time has passed and the child doesn't have to hang on to pain or humiliation anymore" bringing that child back to the present with you.
Write down any issue or write a letter to your inner child then burn the paper, this way you are dealing with it in the energy mind but also manifesting letting go in the real world.
Do you live to work or work to live?
We have to do it to pay our bills, put a roof over our heads, food on the table and have a luxury like new clothes, jewellry or a holiday!
On average we work approx 40 hours per week with some professionals doing more, we have mounting pressure to keep our jobs by increasing our efforts. Work can be very stressful and actually fills the majority of our waking time.
We live to work
But...how many of us work to live and actually achieve that work~life balance?
This can be a very difficult task to undertake and accomplish.
The stress of work can actually seriously contribute to mental health and physiological conditions.
It has long been recognised by the spiritual community that the mind influences the body.
Our lifestyles are slowly killing us with stress and we are truly out of balance. There is a need to rediscover the balance and bring harmony between mond, body and soul.
Medical science has caught up and have recognised the valuable concept of 'psyche and soma' which literally means mind and body.
Over the years some philosophers have interpreted the psyche to not only mean the mind or conciousness but also the soul.
In 1964 George Freeman Solomon wrote of the 'emotions, immunity and disease' and first made aware the medical link between the immune system and emotions which studies followed.
Ancient philosophers such as Plato and Hippocrates believed a good balance between the psyche and the soma resulted in good health whilst imbalance created ill health.
So that need for balance has always been there as a belief system to some.
Pressure that some women feel to become pregnant can result in phantom pregnancies, shell shocked soldiers have developed physical illnesses that have been linked to the horrors they witnessed in battle.
Modern medical research has discovered there is a two way communication between the mind and the body.
Our thoughts create a physical response in our bodies.
By altering our breathing we can actually change the feelings of pain. In the early 1990's it was found that cancer patients who controlled their anger or grief did not recover as well as those who expressed their emotions.
Those of us who are of the spiritual nature or working in the world of spiritualism, know how emotions, specially negative ones being kept in can affect us and our abilities.
We are a being of soul and mind encased in a physical body, it's important that we take care of every aspect of this divine trinity and treat them as 'the holy three'
It begins with finding that work-life balance in our life. If we are happy in our jobs we are healthier in ourselves. If we unhappy at work we take time off then feel guilty about it which then adds to our ill health.
It has been known that at the start of an annual holiday from work, you can become sick due to the mind and body relaxing and suddenly feeling tired and drained.
if working lives do not change there is a danger of autoimmune diseases and physical conditions creeping in to become the pague of the young and old as we bow down to stress. Why? Because we are out of balance and have created a society which ignores the soul.
Symptoms of autoimmune illnesses can range from fatigue, fever, joint pain and more. These diseases happen when the bodies own immune system attacks and destroys healthy body tissue, essentially we are killing ourselves.
In times of stress; bereavement, divorce, loss of a job, our immune defences are low and we develop all types of illnesses from depression, aches, breaking out in sores to many others. The psychosomatic effects on our lives can be phenomenal.
Finding that balance between work and life is important by seeking to unite mind and body with a healthy diet and lifestyle before the effects of imbalance take their toll.
if we are to be truly healthy and completely balanced then we must also have a balanced spiritual life too. When we have faith we are strong, as we feel and know we are not alone on our journey.
Bringing the balance into emotions by releasing what is no benefit or which is holding you back, actually boosts your psychic abilities and can move you over to the mediumistic from the psychic.
We all want to hear from one specific person at times, and as a medium i can't guarantee who i will connect to.
Whether you realise it or not your loved ones come in many ways that you forget, don't want to know or they aren't giving the information you want to hear. When that happens it can be for a few different reasons; it can be grief, for yourself and those you lose. It's natural to close off emotionally at times and grief can cause that to happen too. We also close off in our minds where we only focus on certain things, or we only remember certain times or things.
Mediums can't cross the T's or dot the I's.
Sometimes a loved one will come with another, and if your focussed on one person you'll miss the presence of another. If your thinking you only want to hear x, y and z they could be bringing a, b and c as we can't demand what they want to say neither should a medium be just saying what you want to hear. if that happens you won't be getting the true essence of the person and ignoring the spirit person, and eventually they'll leave and the connection is lost.
Best thing to do in a reading or any connection is to relax, allow spirit loved ones to bring their evidence and guidance as they know what they want to say or what guidance is needed.
What exactly is personal growth?
There are different understandings of this but it all comes down to one thing...growth of the person's awareness. That means being more aware of your surroundings and people, how you speak to people, words or phrases you use, how your actions have a reaction, how you treat others and how you speak and act towards others which is reflected by your growth. Kindness sparks kindness
If you're an impatient person who wants or expects everything NOW, that shows traits of selfishness, thoughtlessness and shows a person who seeks attention (not always the best attention, as any attention is better than none..right?) wrong...with personal growth you become more aware that the world doesnt revolve around you and at times patience is needed, thus turning the selfishness to selflessness, thoughtfulness and the good attention. It can be acheieved wien practising mindfulness. Ideally with self-development that feeling of impatience will dissipate as the awareness of how an action causes a reaction.
I've lost count of the times i've had to bite my tongue as someone has started a sentance with "I'm not being funny but..." course they're being "funny" because i havn't done things their way or how they think it should be done, but they've not looked at their behaviour or words they use or how they have viewed their "use" of me at that time. I've had to walk away, delete a message a few times or said i'll call them back, it's usually as i've hoped they've thought of their approach, changed the tone, or at times i've had to change my thoughts and reactions!
If you think you can grow as a person by doing all the looking within exercises and say to yourself "that's it i've done them, now i've grown" without letting it digest, be thought about or wanting to rush into another way of self-development, it's probably not having an effect on you and there will be little to no growth actually happening.
Personal growth does start from inside, by way of thought patterns, mindset and actually putting things into practise with actions.
One of the first things you can do for yourself is declutter and/or organise your home, as you can equate it to your mind. When i was life coaching, the first thing i would do would be to actively help someone declutter their homes (only one room or section!) and explain how our thoughts can turn dark and in on ourselves just like the clutter we have in our homes. It's surprising what an effect decluttering can have, it leaves you feeling energised, refreshed and accomplished! I recommend not holding onto things "just in case". If you have items which are too good to be thrown out, pop along to your local charity shop as they would be grateful, bigger items or when you have lots of items, a charity shop can arrange collection. Get them out as quick as you can to stop yourself from being swayed.
Work through one room at a time, clear a day so your not interrupted, make a schedule or a note in your diary and STICK TO IT.
As you clear the clutter you will find your mind clears a little as well.
Have you made plans to meet a friend, go for a walk, meditate, have a relaxing time with a hot drink sat in the garden, home improvement, DIY in fact anything! Then chose to not bother as you couldn't be bothered or not feeling upto it...isn't it awful when efforts needed...but effort will be easy and you won't feel the effort if it's something you really want to do. With an awareness of others feelings and reactions, you'll want to make an effort, you'll want to meet a friend or something with others. With an awareness of others you'll stop thinking of yourself but think of maybe, the person you are letting down by cancelling , they might have been looking forward to a different face, different topic of conversation but if you only look at your own wants....
So looking at reactions to your reactions and words are important for your own self-awareness.
It is true what they say, how you treat or speak to someone or surroundings very much says more about you than others. You'll find people make allowances but if the behaviour goes on then you notice people backing off from you or they'll conveniantly "forget about you" This is basically them putting a stop to your behaviour or treatment towards them, this is them recognising their own self worth.
When there is self-development, we start to realise and think about our words, actions and behaviours can affect and the effects. We gain foresight in respect of actions and reactions, we gain a positive mindset and thought process, seeing solutions instead of problems, we overcome obstacles instead of being stopped in our tracks.
So if your embarking on a path of self discovery, take the time to digest, open your mind to thinking outside of yourself and don't be too quick to rush into "i've done it, what can i do now?" you are a work in progress, constantly growing and flowing.
Do we always feel love or see it when it hits us in the face? How many times have you only noticed when it doesn't seem to be there?
Here are a few words i was inspired to write about love being like water...
Love pours out or can dry up, it can shape, mould and define us. How many times through our lives do we change things when we feel we're stagnating? It can be something we love doing, people we love the company of or in relationships.
Water is the same, water can become stale or stagnant and what do we do then? Some people add more water to refresh and add a bit more body or life to it, some people change the water completely not giving the stale stagnating a chance...love is the same. in relationships, whether a romantic, friend or yourself relationship, we can feel stale or stagnant if we don't see it going anywhere, some people put effort into the love they share or freshen it up by taking time to share with others, and some people end relationships cutting everything off...very much like water.
When love flows we feel happy, it's not challenging, its not negative but it's peaceful when everything goes smooth....
water flows down a river and an ocean is so inviting when the weather's calm and the sun is shining, everything is peaceful and tranquil. When the weather changes and there's a storm or rocks in a river, water crashes and bangs and is rough through a storm, anyone out in boats or out beside the water pray and hope the storm passes and they make it through.
Love is the same, there's hard times and experiences we all go through that can challenge us and try to break us.
We do the same as those out in water at rough times, we hope and pray to get through it and learn from that experience, just like on the water they prepare better for the next time.
Love should be unconditional and always there, maybe not always be able to see it but we might hear it in kind words or actions. Just like love, water is always there, whether you know it or not. Walk along any street or town centre and you might think your miles from water but...water runs through pipes under the sidewalks and walkways....
Sometimes we are surprised by where we are shown love. You might not feel it or see it, but it might be just one smile from someone or a selfless act someone will do for you and you feel a glimmer of something but you can't put a finger on it.
How many of us have gone through times when we felt totally abandoned by love and left feeling empty, devoid of any feelings of love wondering when it's going to come along again? when will someone show love by saying or doing something nice?
It's like being in a desert, no signs of water
When the conditions are right, we get further through that hard time and we are ready...we see love has been there all the time.
So what is love?
It's always there, unseen, unheard but always in the background.
You might be surprised of the purpose of crystals or what properties they hold, read on....
Clear Quartz ~ Throughout history, clear quartz has been highly regarded by nearly every civilization, as far back as Atlantis and Lemuria where the suns power was believed to be harnessed through a crystal as a source of solar energy. Scots, Romans, Aztecs, ancient Egyptians, African tribes, Native American Indians and many other cultures used crystal quartz in healing, meditations and spiritual development. It is a master healer and can be used for any condition. Can help to stimulate the immune and circulation system, help to increase energy flow and bring the body into balance. Used for headaches, migraines, vertigo, dizziness and motion sickness, it's also believed to help the metabolism and exhaustion.
Clear quartz acts as a deep soul cleanser, purifying and enhancing the body's internal structure and surrounding subtle energy bodies connecting the physical dimension of the mind.
It also amplifies healing properties of any crystal, the most versatile crystal in the mineral kingdom for healing, meditation, opening the conciousness, communication with guides, past life memory, attracting love or prosperity basically any purpose.
Amethyst ~ Amethyst is known for its ability to still the mind. It's high frequency purifies the aura of any negative energy or attachments and creates a protective shield of light around the body, allowing you to remain clear and centered. Stimulating the third eye, crown and etheric chakras enhancing cognitive perception as well as accelerating the development of intuitive and psychic ability. It can initiate wisdom and greater understanding and is the stone of comfort to those grieving the loss of a loved one. Often call the "all healer" amethyst is one of the most effective crystals for healing people, animal and plants. Amethyst protects against psychic attack, paranormal harm or ill,- wishing and returns the energy back to the universe after being transformed into positive, loving energy.
Sometimes called "natures tranquiliser" Amethyst calms and soothes, assisting the transmissions of signals through the brain. It relieves obsessive-compulsive disorders and hyperactivity in children and animals. It is especially effective for childrens recurring nightmares and a fear of the dark.
Blue Tiger Eye ~ also called Hawk's Eye, is a very soothing stone as it aids in reducing stress, increasing calm and easing anxiety. Blue Tiger Eye helps to open, clear and align the mind to the higher chakras, which will assist in speaking with clarity and acting from a place of integrity. Blue Tiger Eye is also a very protective and grounding stone. This crystal works very well with the throat and third eye chakras, providing insight into internal conflicts and emotional or mental issues, bringing a "go with the flow" attitude, aiding in relief from fears and phobias. Blue Tiger Eye also balances the Yin/Yang energies and increases all forms of psychic abilities, especially clairvoyance, astral travel and remote viewing. Physically Blue Tiger Eye encourages emotional balance, aids with fatigue and depression and is also helpful with stomach issues and crohns disease. On a metabolic level, this crystal can also alleviate eye problems.
Unakite ~ This crystal balances the emotional and spiritual bodies and provides gentle release of energetic blockages. It helps us move on from outdated beliefs from the past. Unakite is also used for help with past life regression therapy and facilitates the understanding of previous events and their roles in the current incarnation. A stone of vision, Unakite can open and activate the third eye to recieve spiritual insights from guides and the higher realms. Unakite's grounding effect can bring a very calming influence to any environment and is great for the workplace or home sending out peaceful, positive vibes to all those nearby. Physically Unakite can also protect against electromagnetic pollution from computers or mobile/cell phones. This crystal is also used for recovery from trauma or major illnesses, helping cells "remember" the state of perfect health, thus helping to promote renewal of cells too.
Red Tiger Eye ~ Red Tiger Eye connects you to your physical self, inner strength, courage and health. This crystal is known as a grounding stone, it can also aid clear perception, and its energy properties can help when going through hardships. It also helps to boost confidence, vitality and balance.
Carnelian ~ The crystal associated with fun, happiness and joy. Connecting you to your emotional self, enabling intimate feelings and ease in relationships. It can aid in removing inhibitions and strengthens your zest for life. Used widely in auric healing as it can help restore and broken links between the physical and spiritual body. Helping you enjoy and revitalise the power of now!
Citrine ~ Citrine helps you to connect to your "self", helping to improve clarity of thought, focus, learning, self-esteem, mental fatigue and memory. This crystal is also an ideal crystal to help people find their true path in life as it promotes the connection between the concious and sub-concious minds, optimism and life happiness. Citrine is also know for uplifting people's spirits and can be ideal for in the workplace or in front of a computer or home.
Aventurine ~ Aventurine connects you to unconditional love, helping to bring you good health, well being, harmony and balance. Also known for its properties which help with forgiveness, sincerity and compassion. It can be used to cleanse your energy giving you that feeling of peace, balance and renewal. Aventurine is said to purify and strengthen the body, mind and spirit. It also symbolizes prosperity, abundance and wealth and can help attract money and financial security.
Sodalite ~ A crystal with stress reducing properties. This crystal helps with throat problems, public speaking confidence or situations you need to speak up. Sodalite connects us to the universal truth, wisdom, aiding communication, speech and healing. Ideal for reducing tension and aids the hormonal system. Sodalite is useful for nervous or anxiety as it's properties can help balance the mind.
Amazonite ~ Amazonite is a crystal which assists in universal love, (what you give out you recieve back) It balances your male/feminine energies, the Yin/Yang and so helps you see both sides of a problem and different points of view. It can also soothe emotional trauma, worry, doubt and fear. This stone is often used to dispel negative energy protecting against electromagnetic pollution and absorbs microwaves
Hematite ~ Another grounding crystal, it also connects you to the earth balancing out your Yin/Yang energies for body, mind and spirit balance, uniting you to your true spirit self. Hematite is also noted for its protective shield lessening the absorption of negative energies.
Pink Rose Quartz ~ Pink Rose Quartz opens the heart to the beauty within and all around us. It's nurturing energy helps to reduce fear, anger, resentment by enhancing all forms of love, including self-love and forgiveness. Rose Quartz is a good crystal for dealing with issues on an emotional level and aids in releasing traumas. It also helps boost your esteem and self-worth. It is believed washing your face in water charged with Rose Quartz can help fade wrinkles and keeping a piece under the pillow can add more sparkle into a relationship.
Black Tourmaline ~ A very powerful crystal, as it releases negative energies and far infrared radiation - these are beneficial for health. This incredible stone is associated with protection, grounding, health, happiness, luck and positivity. Black Tourmaline has been used since ancient times by shamens and healers for protection, it is considered by many to be the most powerful protective stone and it is one of the only stones that protects and heals on all levels, physical, emotional, mental and spiritual.
Some of it's many incredible benefits
Jade ~ A crystal symbolizing purity and serenity, signifying wisdom gathered within tranquility making an ideal crystal to meditate with. Associated with the heart chakra encourages an increase in love and nurturing. It is a protective stone believed to keep the wearer from harm, drawing in good luck and friendship. jade also releases negative thoughts as it soothes the mind. Jade removes toxins, can aid in healing stitches, promotes rebinding or the coming back together of the skeletol and cell systems, it also has properties which help with fertility and childbirth.
Green jade calms the nervous system and can be used to bring harmony into dysfunctional relationships.
Cacoxenite ~ a mineral stone of ascension, used by many during the myriad of planetary alignments, world meditations and during the full and new moons. Also used in order to increase spiritual awareness on all levels, to transfer healing to the earth and to provide a loving and ethereal connection between all of the universe. It can also help reawaken memories of a past life.
Its properties are ideal also for use in holistic therapies as it allows you to recognise all of the relationships between each integral part of the body, mind, spirit and emotions.
Lepidocrocite ~ Grounding with intellectual stimulation, strengthening the structures of enhanced equilibrium between all energy centres in the body and auric bodies. Used alongside quartz and amethyst it can enhance perception, intuition, and instinct. The crystal energy is integrated with healing, memory and storing information, communication and teaching or giving guidance to others. It can also act as a bridge between the conciousness and the practical, bringing practicality to your insight and powers of manifestation. It has also been used to enhance communication with the angelic realm, to advance astral travel and to maintain the connection between the self and astral body.
Smoky Quartz ~ Smoky quartz helps to relieve barriers mentally, clear the channel in the mind which promotes problem solving. This crystal has prolonged energy, but intense and gentle on the higher levels such as meditation. It tends to refine your vibrations whilst in a meditative state of mind, allowing the clarity of thought and allowing the willfulness to ignore what is right for you to eleviate. It can be used for a powerful forcefield, which will absorb many forms of negativity, both from within and outside the mind. It is an excellent grounding stone with a calming effect.
There are many more crystals and stones that have properties that can hold a purpose at different times, whichever feels right for you.
When purchasing crystals, i've found what works for me is to hold each one seperately just for a moment, this helps to feel the energy in the crystal and if it "sits with me"
When meditating with crystals i also, feel the different crystals to "feel" the energy i'm drawn to sit with, a different crystal usually every time and sometimes i find i will use one crystal with another.
Crystals have many properties, so try them and fell the difference
Do you struggle with the term God? Think of an old man sitting behind the pearly gates? maybe it makes you think of religion and you had enough of that at school or maybe too much of the use of the word God?
I know how you feel....I've spoke to a lot of people lately who have those thoughts and more. As i was growing up i associated the word God with religion and conformity, i'd hear people say "God is watching you" and i associated it with a "fear" which is what a lot of people do without realising. I also couldn't get my head around "him" watching but i could never see "him"
At school and still, i enjoy religious studies, learning about different religions and how a faith can unite and reunite people, all diversities but seperate beliefs, only a slight difference in some cases but a difference all the same. All have spirituality running through them, but also a dogma which a lot of us hold onto and others push it away. Which is where usually, the reluctance to accept God or even understand God comes in.
In my thoughts, i feel it's because some of us aren't ready to love ourselves or be open to our emotional side, the positive love side of us.
A man in a flowing gown has never sat with me, because how could it be a man or a human form if "God " had never been in physical form? So it didn't make sense to me, what does sit with me is this, God is an energy, a creative force that flows and as energy is never ending so is the flow of God. As energy has no boundaries unless harnessed so is God, an abundance of limitless boundaries. Because God is seen as a faith, hope and a trust, a creative force which is a positive, God is ultimately love which is the purest form of emotion.
I went through periods of not liking myself for whatever reason, i let the negative thoughts in, saw my flaws or what percieved were my flaws based on what other people had to say went on on the self sabotage and had a pity party..."why me?" "things went wrong because of something i did" and i ended up doing the "falling out with God" if there was a God why would these things happen, if there was a God why would he give me more misery, if there was a gOd why would he take people out my life, I became a negative person and envious towards other's who i percieved to have what i'd had. I was thinking with my lower self which is the jealousy, bitterness, envy and all the negative traits that are in us all and and maybe even think religion doesn't fit right, which it might not but only when you don't realise that religion is simply a belief and it can all be changed.
Thinking of God as seperate to religion for those who religion doesn't sit right , God is love which is in us all. The creative driving force which propels us on a daily basis to strive for better, be good people, be nice to our loved ones, those closest to us, but also to smile at strangers we pass in the street, think good thoughts when we hear of good deeds. This is the higher self, the God spark that fills us with love, confidence, boosts our self esteem, happiness and all the positive traits.
God is hope.
Religion is the belief in a controlling power which God is or can be for many, a trust, a way of life, a thought process.
As a child at school i had a healthy attitude to religion, for me it was unlimiting, it was one religion covered all, i'd join clubs held by different religions and i loved the mix. I'm very much the same today, i'm a spiritualist as i believe and know we live on, death doesn't end us. But i freely accept each religions and love to learn more about many religions, the different gods in religions and culture in general. I'm all for a melting pot of people, backrounds and religions. What doesn't sit well with me is when a religion rules your life and changes you, so if God is love and basically an energy we all carry, religion is a man made organisation it can only be a human that puts the dogma there and it is a physical human being setting the rules and regulations that are thrust upon us. This for me, is where the confusion happens, its actually not God we go against, its the religious rules and regulations we go against. My thoughts have always varied on this but ultimately i always come back to God is love and kindness in ourselves and when we "fall out with God" or "God doesnt sit right with me" we're actually not liking parts of ourselves or our life isn't going how we think it should.
It used to make me cringe when i heard people say the word "God" back years ago when i'd "fell out" and went through a phase that God didn't exist, i'd still go to church but would keep my head up and eyes open, when someone said "let's bow our heads and pray" i'd have my phone inside a hymn book and play a game when it came to hymns or songs and i'd mouth blah, blah, blah or just move my mouth to make it look like i was singing. These were my acts of defiance against a God that i'd fell out with. When i look back at those times, i chuckle to myself and think i must have still believed in something to be in the church in the first place, and ive went to church all my life!
My Mom would have to take me as a child because i wanted to go, then a sunday school teacher would pick me up as i grew a little older until finally i was old enough to go along with different clubs i was in...The Girls Brigade, Brownies, Girl Guides. At church youth clubs i'd always be drawn to the people who were interested in the God side of things and we'd find we'd talk to those running the clubs about God etc. I'd attend a baptist church, pentecostal, united reformed, catholic, protestant, methodist, brethren (can't remember the denomination) and would take part in regular bible studies, scripture searches and once a week would go with a few friends, to the home of one who would play guitar and his wife would sing and we'd all join in then enjoy pop and biscuits or cakes then chat about God, they were great times! One of my Sunday school teachers from my childhood, a lovely purely spiritual lady called Theresa, i visited her weekly until a few days before she passed in 2013, i'd help her in her home, i'd talk "god" and took my 2 children to visit her and she'd tell them bible stories, which they enjoyed and still remember her very fondly now. She hadn't believed in life eternal the way i do, but a week before she took ill, she told me she'd seen her beloved husband who was the pastor of the church and a lovely lovely man, she asked me if she had been dreaming but i'd assured her he was there to be with her through her illness and when the time came he would "take her home" this gave her great peace, and i was pleased she was happy to be reunited with her beloved Jimmy.
I enjoyed the coming together, the community spirit, even though i was a child and teenager but thats always carried forward with me, so GOD has always been in me which i do understand to be LOVE.
I can also recognise i've always been a positive person but have had my times of negativity and when i look back on those, i recognise those are the times ive "fell out with God" basically fell out of love with myself, not liked myself. Instead of recognising that at the time i'd blame God, because i didn't want to take the blame myself! why would i! it wasn't my fault! In reality it was my thought process and understanding that God was an almighty being who watched and saw all, he would have seen the times i "did bad" or "sad bad things" or "wished bad to others" so of course he was going to fall out with me, BUT he couldn't if i fell out with him first!
I'm not a "bible basher" nor a "religious freak" nor do i live my life by a religious rules or regulations, but i live my life as me, by me but with God by my side and within me, that is love.
The universe is energy and a greater power, a cosmic power that has it's own universal laws which are natural laws, i prefer to live my life by natural laws and the universe.
So if it helps you to understand what God is and how you can build that relationship with God, think of love and letting love in, allow yourself to let love into your heart.
It genuinely gives you a lift and puts a smile on your heart.
So let God in and watch the changes for the better within and in your life. When you hear anyone say God bless, remember they are saying be blessed with love.
Dreams are mostly forgotten but have you noticed how many you remember?
They can be the most bizarre, peculiar sights and how many times do we just brush them to one side?
I know unless a dream really stands out or "bothers" me enough to think about it over the day, i brush it off. But imagine how much our dreams are telling us to help us? and just imagine if we look into those dreams and take the guidance, how much richer our lives could be?!
Over the years ive had very vivid dreams, the ones i've really looked into have done just that, helped me. For example, a few years ago i had a dream of being in a shopping mall , i was just shopping and minding my own business and a terrorist attack broke out, i carried on shopping while people were running and trying to hide but it stopped me from shopping. I started running trying to hide, under stairwells, behind doors etc my dream wasn't telling me there was going to be a terrorist attack, my dream was telling me i needed to have more confidence if i wanted to get to where i wanted to go.
When in a dreamt state, your mind and body are at the most relaxed, it can be the time your loved ones and guides take the chance to connect with you.
Because we are in a constant state of 'busy', our minds are on the go and often, many of us go to sleep with our minds still racing and we aren't aware of the 'stillness' but we may wake thinking 'that was a funny dream' or 'i remember a loved ones face in my dream' then we think no more about it. If you were to think it through a little more, you would find it makes sense or you were visited.
Dreams happen when you are in REM sleep state, a very deep sleep when you are at your most relaxed and when you have the most vividest dreams.
A very common dream is teeth, whether falling out, having a mouthful of loose teeth or at the dentist, teeth is a very prevalent dream when you look into it.
Next time you remember your dreams, keep a book by your bed to write them down or what stands out in your memory and then look into it. It can be something relating to your waking life.
Hope this helps make sense of yours
Vision boards, dream boards have been shown to work in many ways. Celebrities and business people use them and i've used them a few times.
What your actually doing is physically creating a vision of what you want to manifest, and it's one of the simplest ways.
I'm going to explain the easiest way to make one, that will work for you
Elaine has a working class backround, and understands the trials of life. Here she shares some of her thoughts on many different topics