You might be surprised of the purpose of crystals or what properties they hold, read on....
Clear Quartz ~ Throughout history, clear quartz has been highly regarded by nearly every civilization, as far back as Atlantis and Lemuria where the suns power was believed to be harnessed through a crystal as a source of solar energy. Scots, Romans, Aztecs, ancient Egyptians, African tribes, Native American Indians and many other cultures used crystal quartz in healing, meditations and spiritual development. It is a master healer and can be used for any condition. Can help to stimulate the immune and circulation system, help to increase energy flow and bring the body into balance. Used for headaches, migraines, vertigo, dizziness and motion sickness, it's also believed to help the metabolism and exhaustion. 
Clear quartz acts as a deep soul cleanser, purifying and enhancing the body's internal structure and surrounding subtle energy bodies connecting the physical dimension of the mind. 
It also amplifies healing properties of any crystal, the most versatile crystal in the mineral kingdom for healing, meditation, opening the conciousness, communication with guides, past life memory, attracting love or prosperity basically any purpose.
Amethyst ~ Amethyst is known for its ability to still the mind. It's high frequency purifies the aura of any negative energy or attachments and creates a protective shield of light around the body, allowing you to remain clear and centered. Stimulating the third eye, crown and etheric chakras enhancing cognitive perception as well as accelerating the development of intuitive and psychic ability. It can initiate wisdom and greater understanding and is the stone of comfort to those grieving the loss of a loved one. Often call the "all healer" amethyst is one of the most effective crystals for healing people, animal and plants. Amethyst protects against psychic attack, paranormal harm or ill,- wishing and returns the energy back to the universe after being transformed into positive, loving energy. 
Sometimes called "natures tranquiliser" Amethyst calms and soothes, assisting the transmissions of signals through the brain. It relieves obsessive-compulsive disorders and hyperactivity in children and animals. It is especially effective for childrens recurring nightmares and a fear of the dark.
Blue Tiger Eye ~ also called Hawk's Eye, is a very soothing stone as it aids in reducing stress, increasing calm and easing anxiety. Blue Tiger Eye helps to open, clear and align the mind to the higher chakras, which will assist in speaking  with clarity and acting from a place of integrity. Blue Tiger Eye is also a very protective and grounding stone. This crystal works very well with the throat and third eye chakras, providing insight into internal conflicts and emotional or mental issues, bringing a "go with the flow" attitude, aiding in relief from fears and phobias. Blue Tiger Eye also balances the Yin/Yang energies and increases all forms of psychic abilities, especially clairvoyance, astral travel and remote viewing. Physically Blue Tiger Eye encourages emotional balance, aids with fatigue and depression and is also helpful with stomach issues and crohns disease. On a metabolic level, this crystal can also alleviate eye problems.
Unakite ~ This crystal balances the emotional and spiritual bodies and provides gentle release of energetic blockages. It helps us move on from outdated beliefs from the past. Unakite is also used for help with past life regression therapy and facilitates the understanding of previous events and their roles in the current incarnation. A stone of vision, Unakite can open and activate the third eye to recieve spiritual insights from guides and the higher realms. Unakite's grounding effect can bring a very calming influence to any environment and is great for the workplace or home sending out peaceful, positive vibes to all those nearby. Physically Unakite can also protect against electromagnetic pollution from computers or mobile/cell phones. This crystal is also used for recovery from trauma or major illnesses, helping cells "remember" the state of perfect health, thus helping to promote renewal of cells too.
Red Tiger Eye ~ Red Tiger Eye connects you to your physical self, inner strength, courage and health. This crystal is known as a grounding stone, it can also aid clear perception, and its energy properties can help when going through hardships. It also helps to boost confidence, vitality and balance.
Carnelian ~ The crystal associated with fun, happiness and joy. Connecting you to your emotional self, enabling intimate feelings and ease in relationships. It can aid in removing inhibitions and strengthens your zest for life. Used widely in auric healing as it can help restore and broken links between the physical and spiritual body. Helping you enjoy and revitalise the power of now!
Citrine ~ Citrine helps you to connect to your "self", helping to improve clarity of thought, focus, learning, self-esteem, mental fatigue and memory. This crystal is also an ideal crystal to help people find their true path in life as it promotes the connection between the concious and sub-concious minds, optimism and life happiness. Citrine is also know for uplifting people's spirits and can be ideal for in the workplace or in front of a computer or home.
Aventurine ~ Aventurine connects you to unconditional love, helping to bring you good health, well being, harmony and balance. Also known for its properties which help with forgiveness, sincerity and compassion. It can be used to cleanse your energy giving you that feeling of peace, balance and renewal. Aventurine is said to purify and strengthen the body, mind and spirit. It also symbolizes prosperity, abundance and wealth and can help attract money and financial security.
Sodalite ~ A crystal with stress reducing properties. This crystal helps with throat problems, public speaking confidence or situations you need to speak up.  Sodalite connects us to the universal truth, wisdom, aiding communication, speech and healing. Ideal for reducing tension and aids the hormonal system. Sodalite is useful for nervous or anxiety as it's properties can help balance the mind. 
Amazonite ~ Amazonite is a crystal which assists in universal love, (what you give out you recieve back) It balances your male/feminine energies, the Yin/Yang and so helps you see both sides of a problem and different points of view. It can also soothe emotional trauma, worry, doubt and fear. This stone is often used to dispel negative energy protecting against electromagnetic pollution and absorbs microwaves
Hematite ~ Another grounding crystal, it also connects you to the earth balancing out your Yin/Yang energies for body, mind and spirit balance, uniting you to your true spirit self. Hematite is also noted for its protective shield lessening the absorption of negative energies.
Pink Rose Quartz ~ Pink Rose Quartz opens the heart to the beauty within and all around us. It's nurturing energy helps to reduce fear, anger, resentment by enhancing all forms of love, including self-love and forgiveness. Rose Quartz is a good crystal for dealing with issues on an emotional level and aids in releasing traumas. It also helps boost your esteem and self-worth. It is believed washing your face in water charged with Rose Quartz can help fade wrinkles and keeping a piece under the pillow can add more sparkle into a relationship.
Black Tourmaline ~ A very powerful crystal, as it releases negative energies and far infrared radiation - these are beneficial for health. This incredible stone is associated with protection, grounding, health, happiness, luck and positivity. Black Tourmaline has been used since ancient times by shamens and healers for protection, it is considered by many to be the most powerful protective stone and it is one of the only stones that protects and heals on all levels, physical, emotional, mental and spiritual. 
Some of it's many incredible benefits

1. protects from negative energies, including thoughts transmuting them into positive energies.
2. recieves the negative energy or psychic attack and transputes it back to sender
3. shields from harmful electromagnetic radiation, from tv's, computers and mobile/cell phones by emitting a small electric current
4. strengthens immunity
5. relieves stress and anxiety
6. promotes detoxification aiding with addictions
7. increases alertness
8. supports healing for internal organs
9. eliminates toxic heavy metals
10. helps circulation
11. improves metabolism
12. improves self confidence
13. grounding energies
14. balances and clears chakras and the aura

Truly a stone that will benefit everyone, as we are in constant contact with other people and their energies, especially in the workplace and the protective properties of Black Tourmaline does wonders in keeping you balanced, grounded and is so effective at absorbing negative energy therefore should be cleared more often than other crystals. Black Tourmaline should always be worn on the left side of the body, this is because energies enter the aura through the left side. 
Jade ~ A crystal symbolizing purity and serenity, signifying wisdom gathered within tranquility making an ideal crystal to meditate with. Associated with the heart chakra encourages an increase in love and nurturing. It is a protective stone believed to keep the wearer from harm, drawing in good luck and friendship. jade also releases negative thoughts as it soothes the mind. Jade removes toxins, can aid in healing stitches, promotes rebinding or the coming back together of the skeletol and cell systems, it also has properties which help with fertility and childbirth.
Green jade calms the nervous system and can be used to bring harmony into dysfunctional relationships.
Cacoxenite ~ a mineral stone of ascension, used by many during the myriad of planetary alignments, world meditations and during the full and new moons. Also used in order to increase spiritual awareness on all levels, to transfer healing to the earth and to provide a loving and ethereal connection between all of the universe. It can also help reawaken memories of a past life. 
Its properties are ideal also for use in holistic therapies as it allows you to recognise all of the relationships between each integral part of the body, mind, spirit and emotions.
Lepidocrocite ~ Grounding with intellectual stimulation, strengthening the structures of enhanced equilibrium between all energy centres in the body and auric bodies.  Used alongside quartz and amethyst it can enhance perception, intuition, and instinct. The crystal energy is integrated with healing, memory and storing information, communication and teaching or giving guidance to others.  It can also act as a bridge between the conciousness and the practical, bringing practicality to your insight and powers of manifestation. It has also been used to enhance communication with the angelic realm, to advance astral travel and to maintain the connection between the self and astral body.
Smoky Quartz ~  Smoky quartz helps to relieve barriers mentally, clear the channel in the mind which promotes problem solving. This crystal has prolonged energy, but intense and gentle on the higher levels such as meditation. It tends to refine your vibrations whilst in a meditative state of mind, allowing the clarity of thought and allowing the willfulness to ignore what is right for you to eleviate. It can be used for a powerful forcefield, which will absorb many forms of negativity, both from within and outside the mind. It is an excellent grounding stone with a calming effect.

There are many more crystals and stones that have properties that can hold a purpose at different times, whichever feels right for you.
When purchasing crystals, i've found what works for me is to hold each one seperately just for a moment, this helps to feel the energy in the crystal and if it "sits with me" 
When meditating with crystals i also, feel the different crystals to "feel" the energy i'm drawn to sit with, a different crystal usually every time and sometimes i find i will use one crystal with another.
Crystals have many properties, so try them and fell the difference 

Do you struggle with the term God? Think of an old man sitting behind the pearly gates? maybe it makes you think of religion and you had enough of that at school or maybe too much of the use of the word God? 
I know how you feel....I've spoke to a lot of people lately who have those thoughts and more. As i was growing up i associated the word God with religion and conformity, i'd hear people say "God is watching you" and i associated it with a "fear" which is what a lot of people do without realising. I also couldn't get my head around "him" watching but i could never see "him" 
At school and still, i enjoy religious studies, learning about different religions and how a faith can unite and reunite people, all diversities but seperate beliefs, only a slight difference in some cases but a difference all the same. All have spirituality running through them, but also a dogma which a lot of us hold onto and others push it away. Which is where usually, the reluctance to accept God or even understand God comes in. 
In my thoughts, i feel it's because some of us aren't ready to love ourselves or be open to our emotional side, the positive love side of us.
A man in a flowing gown has never sat with me, because how could it be a man or a human form if "God " had never been in physical form? So it didn't make sense to me, what does sit with me is this, God is an energy, a creative force that flows and as energy is never ending so is the flow of God. As energy has no boundaries unless harnessed so is God, an abundance of limitless boundaries. Because God is seen as a faith, hope and a trust, a creative force which is a positive, God is ultimately love which is the purest form of emotion. 
I went through periods of not liking myself for whatever reason, i let the negative thoughts in, saw my flaws or what percieved were my flaws based on what other people had to say went on  on the self sabotage and had a pity party..."why me?"  "things went wrong because of something i did" and i ended up doing the "falling out with God" if there was a God why would these things happen, if there was a God why would he give me more misery, if there was a gOd why would he take people out my life, I became a negative person and envious towards other's who i percieved to have what i'd had. I was thinking with my  lower self which is the jealousy, bitterness, envy  and all the negative traits that are in us all and and maybe even think religion doesn't fit right, which it might not but only when you don't realise that religion is simply a belief and it can all be changed.
Thinking of God as seperate to religion for those who religion doesn't sit right , God is love which is in us all. The creative driving force which propels us on a daily basis to strive for better, be good people, be nice to our loved ones, those closest to us, but also to smile at strangers we pass in the street, think good thoughts when we hear of good deeds. This is the higher self, the God spark that fills us with love, confidence, boosts our self esteem, happiness and all the positive traits.
God is hope.
Religion is the belief in a controlling power which God is or can be for many,  a trust, a way of life, a thought process. 
As a child at school i had a healthy attitude to religion, for me it was unlimiting, it was one religion covered all, i'd join clubs held by different religions and i loved the mix. I'm very much the same today, i'm a spiritualist as i believe and know we live on, death doesn't end us. But i freely accept each religions and love to learn more about many religions, the different gods in religions and culture in general. I'm all for a melting pot of people, backrounds and religions. What doesn't sit well with me is when a religion rules your life and changes you, so if God is love and basically an energy we all carry, religion is a man made organisation it can only be a human that puts the dogma there and it is a physical human being setting the rules and regulations that are thrust upon us. This for me, is where the confusion happens, its actually not God we go against, its the religious rules and regulations we go against. My thoughts have always varied on this but ultimately i always come back to God is love and kindness in ourselves and when we "fall out with God" or "God doesnt sit right with me" we're actually not liking parts of ourselves or our life isn't going how we think it should.
It used to make me cringe when i heard people say the word "God" back years ago when i'd "fell out" and went through a phase that God didn't exist, i'd still go to church but would keep my head up and eyes open, when someone said "let's bow our heads and pray" i'd have my phone inside a hymn book and play a game when it came to hymns or songs and i'd mouth blah, blah, blah or just move my mouth to make it look like i was singing. These were my acts of defiance against a God that i'd fell out with. When i look back at those times, i chuckle to myself and think i must have still believed in something to be in the church in the first place, and ive went to church all my life!
My Mom would have to take me as a child because i wanted to go, then a sunday school teacher would pick me up as i grew a little older until finally i was old enough to go along with different clubs i was in...The Girls Brigade, Brownies, Girl Guides. At church youth clubs i'd always be drawn to the people who were interested in the God side of things and we'd find we'd talk to those running the clubs about God etc. I'd attend a baptist church, pentecostal, united reformed, catholic, protestant, methodist, brethren (can't remember the denomination) and would take part in regular bible studies, scripture searches and once a week would go with a few friends,  to the home of one who would play guitar and his wife would sing and we'd all join in then enjoy pop and biscuits or cakes then chat about God, they were great times! One of my Sunday school teachers from my childhood, a lovely purely spiritual lady called Theresa, i visited her weekly until a few days before she passed in 2013, i'd help her in her home, i'd talk "god" and took my 2 children to visit her and she'd tell them bible stories, which they enjoyed and still remember her very fondly now. She hadn't believed in life eternal the way i do, but a week before she took ill, she told me she'd seen her beloved husband who was the pastor of the church and a lovely lovely man, she asked me if she had been dreaming but i'd assured her he was there to be with her through her illness and when the time came he would "take her home" this gave her great peace, and i was pleased she was happy to be reunited with her beloved Jimmy.
I enjoyed the coming together, the community spirit, even though i was a child and teenager but thats always carried forward with me, so GOD has always been in me which i do understand to be LOVE. 
I can also recognise i've always been a positive person but have had my times of negativity and when i look back on those, i recognise those are the times ive "fell out with God" basically fell out of love with myself, not liked myself. Instead of recognising that at the time i'd blame God, because i didn't want to take the blame myself! why would i! it wasn't my fault! In reality it was my thought process and understanding that God was an almighty being who watched and saw all, he would have seen the times i "did bad" or "sad bad things" or "wished bad to others" so of course he was going to fall out with me, BUT he couldn't if i fell out with him first!  
I'm not a "bible basher" nor a "religious freak" nor do i live my life by a religious rules or regulations, but i live my life as me, by me but with God by my side and within me, that is love. 
The universe is energy and a greater power, a cosmic power that has it's own universal laws which are natural laws, i prefer to live my life by natural laws and the universe.
So if it helps you to understand what God is and how you can build that relationship with God, think of love and letting love in, allow yourself to let love into your heart.
It genuinely gives you a lift and puts a smile on your heart.
So let God in and watch the changes for the better within and in your life. When you hear anyone say God bless, remember they are saying be blessed with love.
​God Bless

A quick tip to finding your hearts desire.
Our busy lives mean we lose sight on our life's purpose at times, this exercise helps to bring that back.
​​1 ~ Find a quiet space and sit as comfortable as possible, with your back straight, uncrossed legs and hands in your lap
2 ~ Set an intention to relax deeply, remembering everything that happens during the visualisation, to truly benefit from it
3 ~ Close your eyes and take a deep breath, in through your nose and out through your mouth. Take a total of seven breaths and with each exhale, imagine your going deeper and deeper into relaxation, becoming calmer as your thoughts slow
4 ~ Now imagine you're walking in a town centre, along a busy street. Imagine the shops and buildings as you pass by. Notice if it is daytime or night-time. Walk with a spring in your step and watch yourself as though you were watching another person. As you walk, people jostle you as they pass by. You come to a street corner, turn left and ahead of you is a huge advertising billboard
5 ~ Stop and read the billboard, it's promoting and acknowledging what is great about you. Does it show a picture of you with someone else? Have you won an award? Is it a book you have written? What does the text say? Set your intention to recall all your first thoughts about it
6 ~ Now take a deep breath and slowly bring yourself back into the present, breathing normally
7 ~ Take a few moments to write down what came to mind in your visualisation and reflect on any insights. 
​This is a great way to remind yourself about yourself!

It's important to feed and nourish your inner self, to take time out, a breather, a rest and relaxation, to treat yourself.
​Food 
There's so many people who don't realise how easy it can be. Meals or cooking for yourself can be so rewarding when you take the time to prepare and present it with love. So often we just think of the actual act of "just eat" but if it's presented nicely and its appealing to the eye it actually tastes better and we enjoy more. 
As you prepare or even while shopping for your ingredients, you can visualise it nicely presented and how fulfilling and tasty it will be. It makes a difference to your dining experience. We aren't always in a position to have someone else cook for us, but it's nice when it happens!
Think of how you feel when visiting a restaurant and how mouthwateringly good your meal looks when served!
Noticing the "little" things
It doesn't have to be "big" things that make you happy, it could be making that call to a friend you've not spoke to for a while not realising how fast time flies. If you go to a park or sitting in the open air, notice how you feel. It can often make you feel "clearheaded" and lighter, you will also start to notice the colours around you starting to stand out more to you, for example sitting in a park, you'll notice the different shades in leaves and you will also notice the sounds as you sit. 
As you start noticing the small things and the joy they make you feel, you'll start to become aware of more and you'll notice more too. Doing these often will build a momentum and create more joy.
Facing your fears 
Take the time to sit in the quiet and call up your fears, in other words think about what you are afraid of. It may be loneliness, it may be emotional hurt or many fears. Choose to experience it fully. Cry, howl, whimper or whatever sound you want to make to allow it to come out. Ask your inner child what he/she needs, once you know..give in and allow your body to feel your own love.
Start your day in a wonderful way 
Each day we have a fresh start, a new opportunity. You choose which side of the bed to get out of. The positive way is to start your day with gratitude, start with "I'm grateful that i woke up today, i'm grateful for a supercomfy, warm bed, i'm grateful for the sun shining today" you'll notice a difference the more days you follow this through.
​​Create a "sacred space" or "your space"
Be more receptive to subtle energies by physically clearing away clutter, opening the windows and letting fresh air blow through, this allows old stagnant air to leave. Then you can sit and visualise the area filled with peace, love, harmony or use a sage stick to waft through. 
Tune in and connect to earth and source
In your cleared space, sit with your back straight so your chakras are aligned, take 3 deep breaths, set your intention to ground yourself. Visualise your own roots going down into and through the layers of the earth into the core, you can then ask Mother Earth to drain all energy that is not for your highest good and instead replace it with revitalising light and energy which will benefit your highest good to fill you.
Alternatively place your left hand on your heart, relaxing your shoulders and your arms, allowing your belly to soften. Take three slow deep breaths, each for a count of four and out for a count of four, bring your attention to your heart, noticing any physical or emotional sensations.
Its amazing how treating yourself in a kinder way can really bring peace, harmony and nourish your soul, if done regularly 

Thoughts are living thinds..we are all energy, thoughts included. It is so easy to think angry or unkind thought's about other's and ourself when things don't go the way we think they should but, you'll find when you do that..you'll go through a patch when everything seems to go wrong because you'll see everything through the same eyes, the negative eyes. It will seem that you are attracting negative energy and you are as thats all you see. When this happens, it's an ideal time to sit back and reflect on each occurence and see what they all have in common, that's usually what needs to be looked at and how you can look with a fresh perspective. This can be done by meditation when you meditate on yourself and your willing to look at your flaws openly and honestly and not "hiding" from them. It can be a revelation what you might see, as it also can show your good points and in turn it will help you to release and let go of negative thoughts and feelings about yourself and others. 
You will actually feel the weight of carrying negativity lift, as it takes a lot more effort to ;keep in a negative frame of mind. Generally a negative mindset can result in tiredness, loss of focus in areas that you feel "bore" you or thinking in general that you know better or your thoughts are better. This is the sign of a closed mind, one that isnt open to other's opinions or thoughts.
That being said, we all have life's stresses and worries and if we use them as an excuse or crutch that can also pull our thinking down. It's recognising that we do that as an excuse for behaviours and how we can correct that behaviour to a healthier way of thinking and behaving that will make a difference.
Walks in the fresh air whether on a beach, a forest or anywhere there is nature or the flora and the fauna is ideal, getting away from the humdrum of life can quieten the mind allowing us to lift and seperate the thoughts, prioritising what we need to and freshen our perspective. Basically shifting the focus from in our own minds. If you live in remote places or at the beach, then the mind may be too still and boredom sets in, in which case a visit into a city or crowded area would stimulate your mind which would have a beneficial effect. 
When looking at our own flaws, it can be a very revealing time. We will experience a range of emotions as we deal with what we see. It's healthy and if we're open to personal growth it won't be too bad feeling the emotions as we're able to let them go. We don't criticize our behaviours or flaws, we begin to analyze and learn from them thus helping the personal growth to happen.
When you conciously choose to expand your personal growth, you'll begin to experience a change of energy within, your demeanour changes, you actually carry yourself in a more confident way as you give off positive vibrations and energy, your self esteem is boosted which again boosts your confidence. In realty your creating a healthier circle and not a vicious circle. As you see the positive effects it becomes easier and less effort to actively remain positive. 
You'll find your friends begin to change as your vibrational frequency changes, you'll begin to question the important things in your life, where is your employment going in 5/10 years, where can you see yourself living in 5/10 years, how can you see yourself in 5/10 years etc in reality what you are doing is setting your goals, building your dreams and hopes. Your setting your intentions, forward thinking and building on the now. Your friends begin to change as your ideals change, its not to say you won't be friends but you'll find time spent together or socialising becomes less as your priorities change. Where your priorities go, you'll make friends there too, so not only are you changing friends your actually increasing your circle of friends. 
Work or employment can change, as you've set your dreams, hopes and goals, you'll start to see openings happening. job opportunities, doors opening, contacts being made, sometimes self employment or promotions will come in subtly though it must be noted that sometimes it can happen like a bolt from the blue! 
Finances can change, surroundings and in many many ways the changes can occur. It's even good to realise that recycling and an awareness of the environment can occur as your thoughts and mindsets are changed. 
Becoming more spiritually aware, doesnt mean your going to become a medium over night or even that you will suddenly have an awareness that you didn't have before. It means your becoming more aware of what feeds your soul, what nourishes the soul and more importantly, how joys and blessings can be manifested into your life.
There's a native American parable you might have heard...
which wolf do you feed?
The evil wolf who is hungry for anger, envy, sorrow, regret, arrogance, greed, guilt, self-pity, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority and ego? This wolf is also your inner critic
The good wolf, he is joy, peace, hope, compassion, love, humility, serenity, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth and faith. 
​Which one wins is the one you choose to feed... 

Next time you notice your thinking has become a bit clouded or judgemental, check your thoughts and think of which wolf is being fed
Hope you enjoyed this blog and hopefully it might have made sense to you and answered some questions that have been running in your mind. 
 

Elaine xx

Lately i've been thinking about crying, why do we cry? what is the difference in tears of laughter and tears of sadness? what does crying do for us? where do the tears come from? I've meditated on this and thought about this and came back to the same answer...crying is a release of emotions.
Grieving for a loved one causes us to hold emotions in, we try to be strong for others and ourselves. We still feel the need to emotionally collapse but usually we don't give in to it as much as we should.
Crying with grief is a release of the love we have inside for the person we lost. It can be a deep racking sobbing, coupled with a feeling of helplessness and a feeling of emptiness and its a natural process. To some it can release the feelings we have of, have we done enough, what if, if only...as we cry we're letting these feeling go, for some it takes time for others it can be a quick process. But it's a natural emotion. Sometimes it you can actually feel the release, as a lighter feeling grows in your chest or as a weight leaves you. This can happen if you've realised the loved one has had enough, it's best for them or you have accepted the ineviteable. It's the ones left behind who feel the loss most.
Crying over a relationship, is like a grief, its mourning a loss, an ending. It all depends on how much love was there at the time of the end or break up, some people know when it's over but sometimes stay in that relationship a little bit longer. When that happens you might find there's very few tears if any. Some feel a sense of relief even. Sometimes when a relationship is over, you might not be crying for that person, it could be the extended relationships which have built, the bonds and the ties that you feel you lose.
Crying in pain or when we hurt ourselves is really to soothe ourselves, feeling sorry for ourselves, and you'll find as the pain of hurting ourselves goes, so does the crying. 
Emotional crying for seemingly no reason can happen when we feel out of balance, losing control, out of sync with life in general, and sometimes can have a domino effect, we look for the reasons why, we look to sometimes blame other things and sometimes it can be situations or others that can cause this crying, its the cause and effect reaction. 
So crying in general when it's to do with any kind of pain, whether a loss, an ending or actual pain is for soothing ourselves emotionally. And emotions are all from within. Hopelessness, abondonment, loneliness can all be rolled together. It's our body's own natural painkiller

Crying with joy or happiness can happen out of the blue too, if we've really looked forward to an event, meeting someone we havn't seen for sometime, can cause feelings of excitement and it can be overwhelming and we cry. We cry at jokes when we laugh. If you think, when we go through bouts of crying with sadness, there's almost always something that will pick us up and make us smile or laugh and there'll be a tear or two that come with that. We can be sad or feeling tearful and someone will say "cheer up" or try in their way to make us laugh or at least smile. This is a form of "cleansing" a carthartic or purging of the emotions.
Crying is good for us as it cleanses the emotions. If you have had a bad day, emotionally and feel stressed, a good cry at the end of the day is one of the ways the body cleanses and purges itself to pick itself and emotions up again.