A few years ago after my husband had passed, i wasn't feeling in the best of places, i realised i had turned into someone i didn't like.
I'd had a lot of negativity around me, people, gossip, rumours and influences, the activity leading upto and surrounding Peter's passing had finally pulled me down and turned me into a person who just didn't like or love themselves. Everything i seemed to do turned to mush, felt everything was karma coming back to me, though my intention was pure (or so i thought, not realising i was carrying the negative energies i had soaked up) I, like many, thought i needed love to make me feel "whole" or "better".
I was talking to a friend who is a white witch and asked her about spells or anything that could help bring love into my life. She told me a couple of ways, reciting daily affirmations (i didn't try it then, as i wanted FAST results!) and setting an altar, which i thought was a bit much or a bit too witchy but thought i'll try it...it worked in a way i definately didn't see coming!
It worked for me so i KNOW it CAN work for you!
I set it up in my bedroom on the windowsill, (i didn't want anyone to see it when they came to my home..)
I bought a pink candle with a pink holder (a glade one i think?? i set it up away from the curtains on top of a coaster, then i surrounded it with a few (quite a few) pink crystals, rose quartz - the stone for universal love, trust, harmony, unconditional love.
pink tourmaline - self love, compassion, emotional healing, and an ideal crystal to help with daily anxiety attacks.
pink howlite - reduces anxiety, tensions, stress, anger.
amethyst - to calm my mind, soothe my mind and stop the over-thinking which could quite easily turn to paranoia.
I had maybe 2 or 3 of each crystal, around and along the windowsill. I lit the candle and left it to burn, once it had went out, i'd place a tea light inside and light this one, i even went as far as looking and finding, pink tea lights.
I kept a candle burning for what seemed like weeks, every day dusting and wiping the crystals so they were always cleansed, then arranging them in a way that was pleasing to the eye.
It was amazing the transformation which happened....by switching my focus onto the candle and crystals and taking care of them. Without realising it, i was gradually beginning to switch the focus and caring to what was needed in my life, essentially for my inner higher self!
I became more positive and started to see things as blessings rather than curses, opportunities instead of blocks, solutions not problems. I found i had more energy and actually looked forward with excitement and not dread, i became happier from inside.
The love did come back into my life, my love for me which was what i had lacked and lost. At the end of the day, when it's yourself you don't like or love, how can you like or love other's or whats around you.
At that time my only focus was my children and not one bit of focus went on me, so i was pouring all my love into them to maintain normality for them while internally spinning out of control with myself.
The crystal and candle altar helped bring my focus back and balance was restored.
Give it a try and see how you go, but keep at it as it really does work!
Elaine has a working class backround, and understands the trials of life. Here she shares some of her thoughts on many different topics