Spirit guides are also known as doorkeepers, gatekeepers, guardian angels, higher self. They work with you on a psychic level but also on a mediumistic level by allowing the blend to take place.
Some guides will have lived a physical life and you might be able to find records of them and they will have incarnated through many lives (depending on your views on reincarnation) or have evolved spiritually putting them on a higher spiritual level.
Guides don't judge you or tell you what to do in your life, they're more subtle, when your gut instinct gives you that feeling of dread or a good feeling, thats your guide letting you know their thoughts and it's your choice whether to take notice or go against it. When we have old emotional baggage stored away, and now and again the memories flood through our minds, thats also your guides letting you know its ok to heal from emotional scars, you'll find a bit more comes through as you heal.
I believe curses or hexes can work if you believe in them, so can anything! If you believe the sky is green you're going to see it as green, the mind is a complex thing and we can manifest what we believe as it can also depend on our mindset, if your a positive person, well grounded, and think rationally then curses do not work, I personally do not believe in curses or hexes...
I often get asked how can normal people talk to their loved ones, it takes a lot of patience and practise and being able to stop your mind from getting in the way. Sometimes it's best to go into a meditation so you're relaxed. If you're stressed it won't happen as you won't be aware.
It won't happen overnight so don't give up. Spirit have to learn to communicate with us too, and they learn from the other side once healing has took place.
I advise people to find a quiet calm place, either in the garden, sitting on the sofa or where you feel most relaxed and won't be disturbed, if you have an item that was theirs sometimes it's easier to make a connection if you're holding it as their imprint will be there or a photo of them at a happy time.
Don't give up, know that they visit you in many ways.
Do you feel your loved ones in spirit are trying to contact with you?
Sometimes, it could be feeling a presence around you, at times it could be you see someone out the corner of your eye and when you turn, no one is there. These can be very subtle, experiences like these could mean your receiving signs from the spirit world.
Here are the 10 most common signs;
Very often a feather can appear from nowhere and can be in the most strangest of places. Recently just before a private reading, i was preparing myself and took 10 mins to clear my mind, i was aware of a lady making contact with me and a feather floated down onto my knee, i instinctively knew it was for my client and sure enough, she had been finding feathers for a couple of days and also was having a tattoo in memory of the lady and hadn't known whether to include a feather, her granma helped her make that decision. We were both blown away by the contact that had been made and she was happy to take the feather with her.
When spirit are around us we see a shadow very quickly, it can happen in a split second and dissappears as quick as it appears. Sometimes a clear shadow other times like a mist or a fog as spirits aren't solid. P|ets can also make their presence known in this way, one of my dog's, a collie named Blue, who was very special to me, i knew his time was coming but knew it wasn't quite yet. One day i let him in the garden, as i stood at the door watching him, he took a few steps then looked back at me not knowing whether to go further or not, at the gate i could clearly see Charlie my collie who had passed 18 months earlier and who Blue missed. For a few days i felt Charlie's presence and heard noises he would make, approx a week after seeing Charlie it was Blue's time. I was heartbroken as he'd been a gift from my husband for me and the kids to remember him by, but i knew he was back with Charlie. Amazing to see the love between animals carries on too.
There are quite a few people who still have loved ones numbers and maybe ring to listen to a vioicemail or just to see there name in a call record. I had heard of times when a phone would ring showing a loved ones name but when answered it was empty, My mom had an episode of phone calls to her home phone, which would be one ring then nothing at the end of the call, when she checked her last number called? it was her own home phone number.
A lot of people capture orbs on photo's or see orbs, orbs are spirit and their way of letting us know they are around us. A high percentage of the time they appear are on family photo's of weddings, family celebrations, christmas, birthdays etc. It's their way of saying "We're here and we havn't forgot" they are still part of your family but just in another world.
Butterflies can be so colourful and eyecatching, but they don't live very long. Sometimes seeing a butterfly can mean a transformation has happened, a loved one acknowledging they are around you and aware of the transition. I didn't witness it but i heard a medium i know had been giving a message at a public event when a butterfly had appeared from nowhere and flew around the room, an amazing sign for the person receiving that message.
In Chinese legend, seeing a butterfly can mean a loved one has come to visit from the other side, so if a face or voice comes to mind, it's the soul of that person letting you know they are around you.
Have you heard a song or music that you've not heard for a long time that maybe reminds you of a loved one and memories of them, you put the car radio on or tv and the music or song plays. This is also a sign, a lady i did a reading for and who was so racked with grief, the person she wanted to hear from connected, he'd said he wanted her to know he was fine but wanted her to live life for both of them and he'd played their song for her to remember him, she confirmed she'd watched a film and the song had unexpectedly played, unfortunately she was so wrapped in grief she wouldn't accept it was him. Hopefully she's heard it more and realised he's around her.
Another way for loved ones to give you a sign is lights flickering or bulbs blowing, because spirit is energy they can sometimes cause a small surge. You might have been thinking of someone and a light dims for a second or flickers on and off.
At a demonstration i told a lady her husband was flickering the lights in the lamp by his chair to let her know he was happy she'd started sitting in it, she confirmed she'd not sat in his chair since he passed but had recently started to and yes the lamp was flickering since then. She was so happy to receive that confirmation he was still there and it goes to show spirit indeed do give us signs!
So when lights flicker or start to dim, don't be afraid just ask "who is this?" and trust the face you might see or the voice you might hear.
One of the most commonest signs, you've heard the saying "someone just walked over my grave" well it literally is a visit from beyond the grave! because spirit are pure energy it can be felt strongly by a lot of people, sometimes a shiver, breeze or the hair standing on end for no reason. A gentleman told me he stood at a certain spot in his home as it gave him the best view of his wife wherever she was in the home but not her proper home?, i told the lady and she was quite shocked! she confirmed at the spot i said there was always a freezing cold, what seemed to be a pocket of air. She was a romany gypsy and her caravan sat next to a bungalow on a purpose built lot, she spent days in the bungalow which is where she felt the cold air but the caravan was her home which she slept. She knew then her husband continued to be around her. When i visited the lady at a later date, i felt drawn to a spot and she confirmed it was the exact spot.
Numbers or clocks stopping at certain times
Seeing numbers repetatively can be a sign from loved ones as numbers also have meanings, if you're seeing 11.11, 111, 111.1 or number sequences with many different numbers, the number that stands out the most will be the one to take notice of. While doing my accounts last year, the number sequence 77 kept popping out, the microwave clock was flashing 7777, numbers were adding up but ending in 77, bank statement had 77 popping up. It stuck out that much i thought "hmm i'll have to take notice" the number sequences of 7's means too much thinking of finances..i had a giggle at that one as i'd spent hours going over and double checking accounts, finding mislaid receipts! So someone was having a laugh with me so spirit still show their humour bringing upliftment when needed!
Clocks might stop at a time of someone's passing bringing them to your mind, letting you know they're round you. Sometimes clocks will go back to normal once you notice and sometimes they need a new battery but it's a lovely sign.
How many times have you been sat in traffic looking at number plates and names of loved ones pop out? A few days after my dog Blue passed, i was feeling down that i'd not sensed him and thought he didn't want to come see me as he didnt want to go. Davy had told me the day before, he'd been in traffic thinking about Blue, when a car passed with the number plate Blu, the next day we were driving along and i was thinking "he doesn't want to come, but i wish he would give me a sign!" an extraordinary thing happened..7 bright shiny BLUE cars passed some over took and some were oncoming but it was as if they were in a line, no different coloured cars inbetween them, and i just felt his love, as i was counting i got to 7 then i heard 14, that was his age when he passed. Extraordinary how loved ones and pets can all give us signs!
So next time you have signs, say hello!
I never fully understood the chakras, only in churches people would say "ooh your chakras are out of line" or "you need to cleanse your chakras" and i'd go home and google everything on chakras and i became a little obsessed with wondering if "my chakras are clean!"
Basically your chakras are your body's own energy lines, similar to the earths lay lines and you have a LOT of chakras, and they're all colour coded! But the main ones are, Root chakra at the base of the spine (red), orange sacral chakra, yellow solar plexus chakra, green heart chakra, blue throat chakra, indigo/violet brow chakra (third eye) and cerise pink crown chakra. The bottom three (red, orange, yellow) are based in the material life and the top three (blue, indigo, pink) are based on your spiritual side. As i learnt more about them i learnt each chakra coincides with a part of the body and can affect health in certain areas.
I was also being told of friends i had to have crystals to cleanse each chakra, but ive since found this not necessarily true (i've got a good collection of crystals that i collected, but they are ornamental more than anything, tho i do use them with crystal healing at times).
I thought about it, are chakras real or has someone made them up at some point?
I rationalise it like this, when my thoughts are out of balance, maybe im being self centred too much or when im not in the best place mentally and im taking too much notice of negative thoughts etc the spiritual side of my chakras are out of line, when ive got £50 to my name and a phone bill, but instead fixate on wanting the latest tv because everyone else has it or i want to go somewhere that i can't really afford but i really want to because it looks or sounds good etc so my material side is kicking in. It's really all down to common sense and getting my thoughts in check, which is when i come down to earth with a bump and have to knuckle down and i sit back, think and reevaluate and put things into perspective, so that in my opinion is when my chakras are out of line or how i can tell my chakras are out of line and the reevaluation is the cleansing and restoring balance for me and my needs at that time. No one's balance will be the same though, whats important to you won't be of the same importance for someone else. Does that make sense?
So do chakras exist and are they serving a purpose to us? yes i believe they do.
What's your thoughts on chakras?
Not everyone can be read by every medium or psychic, basically if you want evidence of loved ones but your reading is about your life, it's usually because that's where the guidance is needed more than evidence and vice versa, or it could be that your only wanting to hear specific things or from specific people and no one can guarantee who will come through.
Peter Somerville, gone but not forgotten xx
23/9/55 - 02/08/2008
My thoughts on this have differed over the years. When our loved ones pass over to the spirit side they are able to contact us straight away IF the conditions are right. If there is so much grief that we think we want to only hear certain things, when we don't get to hear what we think we want to hear or we dismiss the evidence they give, then we normally think they havn't been in touch. I've realised this is just ourselves that's closed off a bit? it's usually because it's the actual physical person we are missing and probably not in the right frame of mind to accept the physical has gone. It's hard but when we are ready for someone to pass, either we don't want to see them in pain any longer or they don't have the energy to stay and we can see it's their time. It doesn't mean we don't grieve, it means we're ready to let them go and be in peace and pain free knowing it's out of love, it's putting that person first. When my husband Peter passed, i didn't want him to obviously, the same as anyone, but i was ready and prepared for his passing and accepted nothing, no amount of praying, sending out thoughts, new treatment, meds etc was going to make that difference. I rang at 9.30pm nightly to the hospice to speak to him, say goodnight from me and our kids and tell him how much we loved him. The night he passed 2/8/2008 i'd fell asleep and missed calling him, at 1.22am i felt as though i was shook by the shoulder and i woke up, reached for the phone and something instinctively told me i wasn't going to get an answer, i felt the love from him and heard him say "I love you and the kids, tell them and look after them" . He'd came to me as he took his transition, he passed at 1.25am..my kids obviously took it really hard and i had to be strong for them, the most heartbreaking thing in my life was to tell my kids their dad had passed and they wouldn't be able to see him, touch him or talk to him again, but he left signs all over for them. My daughter would wake up to find feathers on her pillow (not feather pillows) in her books, amongst toys and special songs would play, my son would get feathers or he'd want to go somewhere and miraculously he'd get opportunities and he'd smell his dad too. It's nearly 11 years and he still gives us signs he's about. Our loved ones are always drawn where there's love and there's lots here for him!
On the other side of things, i've known people lose someone and want them through so much,it's took a long time in some cases years for them to know they've been through but hadn't been ready to accept them as the grief has been so overwhelming and they've not been ready to let go.
Before you think letting go means forgetting someone, it definately doesn't, it simply means your ready to let go of the hurt. Grief is love with nowhere to go, it comes out in tears and many ways. And grief definately comes in stages, not many people like to admit but anger at the person that passed is one of the stages, and how you overcome it depends on yourself.
Elaine has a working class backround, and understands the trials of life. Here she shares some of her thoughts on many different topics