Meditation is a way of bringing clarity, focus and peace to your mind, but...clearing out your cupboards or home is just as effective!
Long lost belongings, clothes or keepsakes that you keep in boxes in an attic or tucked away in a drawer or cupboard can keep you attached to forgotten memories, people or times we don't want to think about for many reasons. Clearing these help to clear yourself of the attachments to these times, emotions or let go of people.
As we declutter we face our attachments with compassion we are driven by consuming emotions, these are emotions that we pour our energy into that don't give us anything back but, they consume and drain us....whether you realise it they also block you from energies such as love, joy, courage, grace, peace, generosity.
As you declutter you transform.
Time to tidy
When you decide it's time to tidy, when you feel ready to clear out the old take notice of your feelings, listen to your internal self and just sit with that feeling, have a conversation with yourself about the emotions or feelings that have been raised. When strong emotions and make you question do you have the strength to go ahead, it's time to take a break.
Decluttering is ultimately self-care and if you aren't practising self-care as you do it then it is not a self-care activity.
As you clear the clutter set your intention for each room, for example a bedroom you might intend that space for relaxation love or joy, a bathroom may be intended for rejuvenation, cleansing and purifying.
Clear the energy
In each space clear the items that don't resonate with the energies you intend for that space, for example old letters or gifts from an ex love might hold the energies of regret, resentment and a form of bitterness which will prevent the flow of love into your bedroom. Bills might make you feel anxious.
To spiritually cleanse a room we have to meet the things that are causing our spiritual energy to drain and instead intend the energy that allows our spiritual life to flourish.
So you've set the intention in your bedroom now how do you do that with clothes or your sock draw??
if you open your drawer and theres something there that makes you go urghh! it's stopping that full flow of love and balance in that room. if it's an item that is well past being well worn or well used, but you think 'i paid good money for that!' its creating a feeling of guilt which is again slowing down or stopping the flow of love and needs to be cleared.
There are items we keep like old photos, a gift a child has made or a gift from a deceased loved one like a parent, when we come across these we open up the feelings and emotions that can stop us in our tracks. These can still make us feel drained that just holding at it or looking at it makes us want to collapse, and you put it back in the drawer. This shows an attachment to that object, whether it's regret, sadness, worry or a fear. This is where compassion comes in, because its compassion as a spiritual energy that transforms suffering.
We have to learn to sit with compassion for ourselves, for the object and the story that brings those emotions forward.
Piles of regret
"That still needs doing" do you hear yourself saying this? paperwork can be a minefield to go through but can be sorted into 'guilt' 'regret' 'anxiety' piles. Old medical records from 10 years ago might bring up guilt or regret and isn't worthy of the space in your head it takes up.
You don't need to be carrying that physical, emotional and spiritual weight.
Sort the remaining papers out, this might not give you joy but it will give you access to what you need, not feeling afraid or anxious about looking into those files because you don't know if you'll find what your looking for (or what else you might find!?)
That's freedom and thats what you're aiming for. to be able to lay your hands on what we need as well as what we love.
Whether its candles, lipsticks, cookbooks or anything else, collections are likely to show your buying habits when your in psychic pain or in a difficult position emotionally.
Once you go through decluttering and see how your purchasing power has been driven by your pain, hopefully you can deals with those habits by recognising and they will change.
Spiritual decluttering is an opportunity to practise letting go of things that no longer serve us (or never did)
Letting go doesnt have to be painful, it can be an act of grace or gratitude.
Pick up an object as if it were an old friend, thank it, forgive it if it never served you then let it go.
Clutter will show up again but it will become easier to see and take care of quickly.
Like a gardener, you'll have learned the difference between weeds and cultivated plants.
Decluttering is less an activity with a start and a finish, more a way of life.
Tips for a pain-free clear out
Surrender what doesn't serve you and create more space in your heart and soul for what you need...
from bad habits to holding grudges to full blown addictions we all have burdens we could do with putting aside.
Letting go or loosening the grip on our negative emotions like fear, anger or even releasing attachment to certain people is often harder than it sounds.
We all stand in our pwn way at times by making excuses to hold on a little longer, sometimes conciously and unconciousnessly. Causing ourselves mental, physical suffering and distress not forgetting the emotional and spiritual pain.
How and why do we cling onto behaviours, feelings and people when they are holding us back? How do we release them?
The answers often lie in our early years, as our past influences us massively. Upbringing, betrayals, traumas, humiliations, neglect wounds all form our thought process which become a template in the mind. When triggered cause us to act and react .
One way offinding out what it actually is we need to let go of is recognising when we feel the need to react or act in a certain way. A way that doesn't feel right, a way that doesn't serve us in a good way, in other words a negative way maybe out of spite, jealousy, but it doesn't move us forward it only serves to hold us back. So we've caused ourselves to be stuck in the same pattern of actions and reactions.
The first step is to have a concious awareness of ourselves and this is usually where we often fall down. We automatically push away what makes us feel uncomfortable and out of our conciousness.
become aware of your habits and what you push away, work out what triggers you or maybe brings up strong emotions. Really notice if you do things repeatedly, talk about yourself in a certain way.
In the beginning don't even ask why, just acknowledge your action or reaction and that you over reacted.
keep a diary so you can see repeated patterns which you may not have even noticed, but once you identify the negative behaviours or habits that are holding you back this gives you your intent for letting go. First just let the issue be for a little while, don't fight it, push it away or instantly try to change it as this can make it worse but just be with it. The acknowledgement will allow it to move naturally without forcing it.
Then you can meditate with intention, to visit the lower levels of your subconcious or conciousness as what holds you back, resides in the lower self. " My intention is to connect to the lower world of myself to find my power place and i ask spirit to help me"
In time you can then set your intention to pin down the specific cause of issues which you want to let go.
"My intention is to visit the lower world to find the cause of my anxiety and what would overcome it"
You will most likely see your inner child at a certain age or scenes from childhood. Acknowledge the scenes you see or scenes you witnessed and talk to your inner child explaining "time has passed and the child doesn't have to hang on to pain or humiliation anymore" bringing that child back to the present with you.
Write down any issue or write a letter to your inner child then burn the paper, this way you are dealing with it in the energy mind but also manifesting letting go in the real world.
Do you live to work or work to live?
We have to do it to pay our bills, put a roof over our heads, food on the table and have a luxury like new clothes, jewellry or a holiday!
On average we work approx 40 hours per week with some professionals doing more, we have mounting pressure to keep our jobs by increasing our efforts. Work can be very stressful and actually fills the majority of our waking time.
We live to work
But...how many of us work to live and actually achieve that work~life balance?
This can be a very difficult task to undertake and accomplish.
The stress of work can actually seriously contribute to mental health and physiological conditions.
It has long been recognised by the spiritual community that the mind influences the body.
Our lifestyles are slowly killing us with stress and we are truly out of balance. There is a need to rediscover the balance and bring harmony between mond, body and soul.
Medical science has caught up and have recognised the valuable concept of 'psyche and soma' which literally means mind and body.
Over the years some philosophers have interpreted the psyche to not only mean the mind or conciousness but also the soul.
In 1964 George Freeman Solomon wrote of the 'emotions, immunity and disease' and first made aware the medical link between the immune system and emotions which studies followed.
Ancient philosophers such as Plato and Hippocrates believed a good balance between the psyche and the soma resulted in good health whilst imbalance created ill health.
So that need for balance has always been there as a belief system to some.
Pressure that some women feel to become pregnant can result in phantom pregnancies, shell shocked soldiers have developed physical illnesses that have been linked to the horrors they witnessed in battle.
Modern medical research has discovered there is a two way communication between the mind and the body.
Our thoughts create a physical response in our bodies.
By altering our breathing we can actually change the feelings of pain. In the early 1990's it was found that cancer patients who controlled their anger or grief did not recover as well as those who expressed their emotions.
Those of us who are of the spiritual nature or working in the world of spiritualism, know how emotions, specially negative ones being kept in can affect us and our abilities.
We are a being of soul and mind encased in a physical body, it's important that we take care of every aspect of this divine trinity and treat them as 'the holy three'
It begins with finding that work-life balance in our life. If we are happy in our jobs we are healthier in ourselves. If we unhappy at work we take time off then feel guilty about it which then adds to our ill health.
It has been known that at the start of an annual holiday from work, you can become sick due to the mind and body relaxing and suddenly feeling tired and drained.
if working lives do not change there is a danger of autoimmune diseases and physical conditions creeping in to become the pague of the young and old as we bow down to stress. Why? Because we are out of balance and have created a society which ignores the soul.
Symptoms of autoimmune illnesses can range from fatigue, fever, joint pain and more. These diseases happen when the bodies own immune system attacks and destroys healthy body tissue, essentially we are killing ourselves.
In times of stress; bereavement, divorce, loss of a job, our immune defences are low and we develop all types of illnesses from depression, aches, breaking out in sores to many others. The psychosomatic effects on our lives can be phenomenal.
Finding that balance between work and life is important by seeking to unite mind and body with a healthy diet and lifestyle before the effects of imbalance take their toll.
if we are to be truly healthy and completely balanced then we must also have a balanced spiritual life too. When we have faith we are strong, as we feel and know we are not alone on our journey.
Bringing the balance into emotions by releasing what is no benefit or which is holding you back, actually boosts your psychic abilities and can move you over to the mediumistic from the psychic.
Elaine has a working class backround, and understands the trials of life. Here she shares some of her thoughts on many different topics