A medium's role primarily, is to prove life exists after the physical death. Giving evidence of a loved one's existance by character, description, shared memories, hobbies and being the voice for spirit.
A medium's role is also to help with healing grief, which can be gained by the evidence and proving that life does, in fact go on. When a loved one passes over, we tend to focus on the passing, an illness or the reasons why someone has passed. In fact virtually everyone that passes has had a lifetime or their lifetime of more than illness or sadness, when a loved one makes contact, they like to recognise their life and maybe the happy times, taking you to happier times to remember them by.
Remembering loved ones at happier times can help with grief immensly.
A medium is essentially the voice for the spirit side, and as a medium i look at it this way...if i can try my best for the spirit side, to connect to them in the best way for them, to let their loved ones know they live on and are around them, then ive done my bit.
Personal responsibility is a large part of connections, as a medium moves their mind and allows spirits mind to come in, we have a responsibility to them to not distort or change their messages or evidence, this can happen if we, as mediums don't allow that shift to take place but allow our own judgements and opinions to cloud the connection. Every connection will be different and i believe it's a mediums reponsibility to allow a natural shift in energy to take place. Allowing this to take place takes dedication and development with the spiritual and personal growth.
How can we be the voice of spirit?
We can open as many ways as possible, abilities, recognising from the sensing, seeing and hearing, knowing what is our own thoughts and what is spirits.
For a long time i'd wonder how you manifested things into your life? i'd hear people talk about it, i'd ask about it but didn't quite understand it! I'd always hoped for what i'd wanted or worked towards what i wanted but i didn't know you could ASK the universe for what you wanted! Once i understood it, i tried it and found it actually worked, there are a few things you have to remember though. The main thing is BE CAREFUL WHAT YOU ASK FOR! This made me chuckle a few times. I once asked for long hair...my daughter asked me if i wanted her hair extensions :-) i thought my hair would grow faster, another time i asked for help to lose weight..leaflets fell through my door for slimming clinics :-D I just didn't understand it! It took a few (quite a few) attempts, but once i understood it, i seen it worked!
To start with, practise connecting to the universal energy and building your awareness, we often miss the signs that are guidance. When manifesting, it's important to be clear and specific, try to give the universe a helping hand by taking action yourself. I knew someone who wanted to manifest a partner but they didn't go out or like the idea of using dating sites, how was the universe supposed to help? Talk to people, tell them your dreams, visualisation is important. Ask for what you want then spend 10 minutes visualising it daily. Don't tell the universe how it's supposed to deliver your request, because there could be something better than you were expecting coming in the way they choose to deliver. This is also called cosmic ordering.
I'm a big believer in God boxes or wish jars as they work in the same way. Just use a container, i use an old coffee jar which you can decorate if you choose to. W|rite on a piece of paper (big enough to fit what you want to ask for) now be careful with your wording as it matters. A friend of mine wanted her husband to make the bed and maybe wash the dishes before he went to work, so she didn't have to when she got home, I told her about the God box and sure enough it happened. She rang me laughing as she was so surprised. When you write out your note, I use one piece for each thing i ask for, some people make lists but it's each to their own. Pop your note inside, replace the lid and pop the jar or container in a kitchen cupboard, on a shelf, in the wardrobe or somewhere out of sight. You can add to it whenever you want.
It works on the universal law of attraction
Try it out and you will see it works!
Happy ordering guys, good luck!
We can feel powerless when someone we care for isn't in the best of health or going through a tough time. BUT you're not powerless, physical distance doesn't stop you from sending love and healing. Healing energies aren't limited by distance. With a little technique and lots of good intentions, you can help your loved ones, even from the other side of the world with remote healing.
Every one has the ability to bring solace to others, we are all connected by a cosmic network of divine love, we all have it. The lines are open for you to give and send good vibes, you just need to learn how to focus and have faith in yourself.
To heal a person, you don't need to focus on the illness or injury. Don't imagine tumors shrinking, bones mending etc as that would send some of the energy to the problem itself. Pure intentions will do the very best, keep it simple and visualise the person well, vibrant and smiling.
The power of serenity is a wonderful thing too, so it's important to stay calm before starting on a remote healing session.
A good way to do this is through meditation and by strengthening your contact with the natural world. Some find it helpful to go outside, breathe and fell any stress releasing into the earth. Consciously relax every muscle, so you are a conduit for healing.
Here are some techniques for healing...
It can be the smallest word that's been said to you that's stuck with you, children who have been told they're stupid, worthless or worse can grow up believing it to be true, and because it's an adult that has usually told them they believe it's validated. As adults we can also believe words that's said by others, or we see someone who we deem to be better than us, due to looks or accomplishments and we judge ourselves.
Imagine being a child or adult and not having those words said to you? Imagine ignoring those words and how confident you would be feeling now?
Society has changed over the years, where we all know or have heard the benefits of being positive, giving positive affirmations and not validating the negative. I believe we are going through a phase of change in the world, which has been creeping up over quite a few years with a few more to go. I myself, made a conscious decision when i had my children that i would only give positive affirmations and not fall into the negative judgements. So when they would have, for example, spelling tests at school, and maybe the mark would be 8/10 or 9/10 and they would say "ah i only got this mark or that mark", i'd always tell them well it's left you room to improve your mark next time, or "it's better than less" but i'd always tell them they can only try their best and the important thing is the trying. If you don't try you will never know. If they ever say their stupid, i tell them "no you're not, you just havn't used your brain but you'll know better next time" I've carried out the positive affirmations throughout their life and they both have a "quiet confidence" about them that always surprises me.
Self confidence is a daily affirmation of "you can do this" "you are better than you think" " you got this" and more.
Daily affirmations of self love can be looking in the mirror once a day and, even in your mind telling yourself your a good person, you look lovely, you deserve success etc they really can change your outlook on yourself as the inner self in acknowledged and validated.
Here are a few ways you can show yourself love.
I truly hope some of these techniques work for you.
I get asked a lot about crystals, which room to keep them in and which ones to keep etc here are a few with a suggestion of a place to keep them...
The bathroom, placed beside the bath is a good place, as you can focus without distraction as you soak. They're also decorative,very pretty to look at and also healing. A large statement piece goes well as does a clear glass bowl filled with a variety of crystals. On a windowsill can be ideal too, as the sunlight catches the crystals and reflects from the different facets.
Amethyst or citrine can energise the room, crystal quartz when paired with other crystal energies can amplify them.
As people relax in the bath, they think about problems, clear quartz helps with concentration and your memory. Blue calcite soothes anxiety and helps release negative emotions aiding communication too. Yellow calcite is uplifting, helps for deep relaxation and again helps to elimate negative influences, thoughts and emotions.
For meditation, moonstone is great for intuition, positive thinking, inner growth and insight. Using amethyst for meditation is purifying, balances hormones and/or moods. Joy and enthusiasm is stimulated with citrine.
Rose quartz is ideal for self love, self esteem and confidence.
No...everyone is different and depending what you have going on in your life or if you havn't accepted or the reality of the loss hasn't sunk in, they can have an effect.
Everyone we meet has an impact on us good and bad. When we lose someone who has been a constant in our lives or been a massive influence on us. Sometimes it can be someone who has been in our lives a short time, who can make that lasting impression that it may hurt the most.
For example...a parent or a sibling, who we've been close to for many years, then maybe a disagreement even moving away and just the distance becoming greater, where both sides don't make an effort. A friend or lover who you've been so close to, spent all your time with maybe married or had plans for the future, then a drifting apart..maybe years in some cases. Some of us hear of them passing and really struggle to get over the loss, but is it their loss we struggle with or is it our own feelings of a guilt? Guilt we feel for losing touch, not making an effort as we expected those to? Resentment towards that person for not making an effort as you had hoped or expected? Also the memories come flooding back, of the good times and how much of an impression they were on you. All of these are factors in grief. If you lose someone that you spent a lot of time with, very close to and who were a constant in your life, that hurt will seem to hurt more as they were part of your life there and then! And that is a hurt like no other as that loss is actually happening to you, whereas someone you've drifted apart from, whether by a fall out or just by these things happen, in a sense that loss has already happened and the moving on has taken place naturally.
Losing someone close, is heart wrenching and can take a long time to grieve, memories always come back in many ways.
For me, and for many others im sure, it can hit me when i'm walking along a street and it suddenly hits me that i'm walking along a street that a loved one walked down. Eating a particular food or cooking a certain dish and it hits me how i know how to cook that dish...i've watched a loved one cook it, then it hits me all over again that their influence is still there and ongoing. It hits me how much of an influence they've had on me which i've then passed on to my children. So the generations do cross and i really marvel at that.
It's the same when i hear about someone that i've maybe not seen for a long time for whatever reason, like i said previously, i do feel regret but i also feel the love that was once there and again memories come back, sometimes memories that have long been forgotten.
Rekindle old friendships, family ties and let go of the wounds that have kept you apart. Make the time as that's what we all have in common, we all want more time with those we love.
Well...would you really want to?? I certainly wouldn't!
I was recently told about someone, who had been told the age when they would die. I've heard this more and more lately and i'm horrified by the lack of human sympathy and empathy shown by mediums and psychics who do this. Another lady was given a date, and every year when that date comes round she worries and panics.
It's so wrong on so many levels, a medium wouldn't be made aware of it and a psychic would be reading your energy which also includes your fears, hopes and dreams good and bad. So if you have a fear of dying, have it in your mind to get past a certain age, maybe a few loved ones have passed around the same age and you have that in your thoughts, which is essentially in your aura, a psychic would be reading it in your energy, it's not to say it's correct!
Firstly, my thoughts would be to run a mile from anyone that tells you this, as mediums and psychics can't know. It would show to me that maybe that person hasn't understood fully what they were receiving, they could be transferring their own fears, shock tactics or some even have the thoughts that they can play God! There would be no reason except to feed fear that this is said. We wouldn't be told and we do not know when we are going to pass. It would rob us of good and bad times with everyone in our lives. Unfortunately we all have to go through sad and happy times, which includes the loss of a loved one, grief and grieving.
Imagine being told you were going to pass at say, 25, and you meet the love of your life at 22. You wouldn't get married, have children, make plans for the future and build your hopes and dreams. What would be the point of doing all that when you would only have 3 years!? Can you imagine? You'd be counting down the days and robbing yourself of all the happiness and joy in your life. You would in fact, be stopping the happiness and joy!
Yes some of us have longer lives than others, some seem to have happier lives, some even seem to do more with their lives! But we all have choices, and we can choose to strive for bettering ourselves, have better experiences and do more within our lifetime.
The length of your life all depends on yourself. Health for example, we can be diagnosed with an illness or condition and it's up to us how we handle it. Do we let it affect our enjoyment of life with worry, stress (sometimes any diagnosis or news we can't get our head round) as it can be an initial shock to the system essentially shortening our enjoyment or quality of life. Or we can choose to try to make the most of it, and help ourselves whether that means a lifestyle change, medications etc.
You might find yourself in a relationship that you've grown out of or it's maybe a toxic relationship that you've just accepted as "your lot in life" . Again the choice is, do i stay or do i go - staying would be putting up, not full happiness. Going or moving on may usually lead you to better relationships, or at least relationships which should be more fulfilling and rewarding for you. So again it's down to choice.
If you knew when you were going to "die" you wouldn't make choices and you might as well say the word "choice" just doesn't exist and is a stupid word even!
The reality is, none of us know when we will "die" so we can live each day to the fullest, enjoy each emotion or let each emotion touch us and experience the joys in our life.
Each person's joy will be different from someone else's. You will have heard the saying - one person's joy is another person's sorrow, and it's true.
So live your life to the fullest, love people when they're in your life and have hopes, dreams and aspirations.
Do you agree?
Elaine has a working class backround, and understands the trials of life. Here she shares some of her thoughts on many different topics