Elaine has a working class backround, and understands the trials of life. Here she shares some of her thoughts on many different topics
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Lately i've been thinking about crying, why do we cry? what is the difference in tears of laughter and tears of sadness? what does crying do for us? where do the tears come from? I've meditated on this and thought about this and came back to the same answer...crying is a release of emotions.
Grieving for a loved one causes us to hold emotions in, we try to be strong for others and ourselves. We still feel the need to emotionally collapse but usually we don't give in to it as much as we should.
Crying with grief is a release of the love we have inside for the person we lost. It can be a deep racking sobbing, coupled with a feeling of helplessness and a feeling of emptiness and its a natural process. To some it can release the feelings we have of, have we done enough, what if, if only...as we cry we're letting these feeling go, for some it takes time for others it can be a quick process. But it's a natural emotion. Sometimes it you can actually feel the release, as a lighter feeling grows in your chest or as a weight leaves you. This can happen if you've realised the loved one has had enough, it's best for them or you have accepted the ineviteable. It's the ones left behind who feel the loss most.
Crying over a relationship, is like a grief, its mourning a loss, an ending. It all depends on how much love was there at the time of the end or break up, some people know when it's over but sometimes stay in that relationship a little bit longer. When that happens you might find there's very few tears if any. Some feel a sense of relief even. Sometimes when a relationship is over, you might not be crying for that person, it could be the extended relationships which have built, the bonds and the ties that you feel you lose.
Crying in pain or when we hurt ourselves is really to soothe ourselves, feeling sorry for ourselves, and you'll find as the pain of hurting ourselves goes, so does the crying.
Emotional crying for seemingly no reason can happen when we feel out of balance, losing control, out of sync with life in general, and sometimes can have a domino effect, we look for the reasons why, we look to sometimes blame other things and sometimes it can be situations or others that can cause this crying, its the cause and effect reaction.
So crying in general when it's to do with any kind of pain, whether a loss, an ending or actual pain is for soothing ourselves emotionally. And emotions are all from within. Hopelessness, abondonment, loneliness can all be rolled together. It's our body's own natural painkiller
Crying with joy or happiness can happen out of the blue too, if we've really looked forward to an event, meeting someone we havn't seen for sometime, can cause feelings of excitement and it can be overwhelming and we cry. We cry at jokes when we laugh. If you think, when we go through bouts of crying with sadness, there's almost always something that will pick us up and make us smile or laugh and there'll be a tear or two that come with that. We can be sad or feeling tearful and someone will say "cheer up" or try in their way to make us laugh or at least smile. This is a form of "cleansing" a carthartic or purging of the emotions.
Crying is good for us as it cleanses the emotions. If you have had a bad day, emotionally and feel stressed, a good cry at the end of the day is one of the ways the body cleanses and purges itself to pick itself and emotions up again.
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People join in live sessions on social media receiving messages, but still don't understand they don't need to be in the same room as a medium.
Energy is energy, and over the past few weeks have you seen there is no difference? Whether for a psychic reading or mediumistic reading over the telephone or video, the connection is the same. In fact it can be a better connection.
It is a common misconception that the majority of people think this, but with the power of social media, zoom and many internet conferencing facilities now, hopefully it will help to break that myth, even angel and tarot cards can be read via video.
With the covid19 lockdown happening globally, it's helping to reunite more people than ever via the internet. Spiritual churches are now holding services, mediums are going live and readings are via telephone and video and hopefully more and more people are realising mediums and psychics do not need that face to face connection.
Energy is all around us, and how i connect is to the energy, it may be your voice vibration which could enable me to connect to your energy, it may be from the spirit side of life which attracts my attention. As a genuine psychic medium i can work both ways, so you do not need to be in the same room as me for readings or connectionsas energy is energy.
Energy is a wonderful thing in the ways it can connect us, not only by utilities ie;electric, gas, hydro, turbo, etc etc but by the power of spirit energy.
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A medium's role primarily, is to prove life exists after the physical death. Giving evidence of a loved one's existance by character, description, shared memories, hobbies and being the voice for spirit.
A medium's role is also to help with healing grief, which can be gained by the evidence and proving that life does, in fact go on. When a loved one passes over, we tend to focus on the passing, an illness or the reasons why someone has passed. In fact virtually everyone that passes has had a lifetime or their lifetime of more than illness or sadness, when a loved one makes contact, they like to recognise their life and maybe the happy times, taking you to happier times to remember them by.
Remembering loved ones at happier times can help with grief immensly.
A medium is essentially the voice for the spirit side, and as a medium i look at it this way...if i can try my best for the spirit side, to connect to them in the best way for them, to let their loved ones know they live on and are around them, then ive done my bit.
Personal responsibility is a large part of connections, as a medium moves their mind and allows spirits mind to come in, we have a responsibility to them to not distort or change their messages or evidence, this can happen if we, as mediums don't allow that shift to take place but allow our own judgements and opinions to cloud the connection. Every connection will be different and i believe it's a mediums reponsibility to allow a natural shift in energy to take place. Allowing this to take place takes dedication and development with the spiritual and personal growth.
How can we be the voice of spirit?
We can open as many ways as possible, abilities, recognising from the sensing, seeing and hearing, knowing what is our own thoughts and what is spirits.
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For a long time i'd wonder how you manifested things into your life? i'd hear people talk about it, i'd ask about it but didn't quite understand it! I'd always hoped for what i'd wanted or worked towards what i wanted but i didn't know you could ASK the universe for what you wanted! Once i understood it, i tried it and found it actually worked, there are a few things you have to remember though. The main thing is BE CAREFUL WHAT YOU ASK FOR! This made me chuckle a few times. I once asked for long hair...my daughter asked me if i wanted her hair extensions :-) i thought my hair would grow faster, another time i asked for help to lose weight..leaflets fell through my door for slimming clinics :-D I just didn't understand it! It took a few (quite a few) attempts, but once i understood it, i seen it worked!
To start with, practise connecting to the universal energy and building your awareness, we often miss the signs that are guidance. When manifesting, it's important to be clear and specific, try to give the universe a helping hand by taking action yourself. I knew someone who wanted to manifest a partner but they didn't go out or like the idea of using dating sites, how was the universe supposed to help? Talk to people, tell them your dreams, visualisation is important. Ask for what you want then spend 10 minutes visualising it daily. Don't tell the universe how it's supposed to deliver your request, because there could be something better than you were expecting coming in the way they choose to deliver. This is also called cosmic ordering.
I'm a big believer in God boxes or wish jars as they work in the same way. Just use a container, i use an old coffee jar which you can decorate if you choose to. W|rite on a piece of paper (big enough to fit what you want to ask for) now be careful with your wording as it matters. A friend of mine wanted her husband to make the bed and maybe wash the dishes before he went to work, so she didn't have to when she got home, I told her about the God box and sure enough it happened. She rang me laughing as she was so surprised. When you write out your note, I use one piece for each thing i ask for, some people make lists but it's each to their own. Pop your note inside, replace the lid and pop the jar or container in a kitchen cupboard, on a shelf, in the wardrobe or somewhere out of sight. You can add to it whenever you want.
It works on the universal law of attraction
Try it out and you will see it works!
Happy ordering guys, good luck!
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We can feel powerless when someone we care for isn't in the best of health or going through a tough time. BUT you're not powerless, physical distance doesn't stop you from sending love and healing. Healing energies aren't limited by distance. With a little technique and lots of good intentions, you can help your loved ones, even from the other side of the world with remote healing.
Every one has the ability to bring solace to others, we are all connected by a cosmic network of divine love, we all have it. The lines are open for you to give and send good vibes, you just need to learn how to focus and have faith in yourself.
To heal a person, you don't need to focus on the illness or injury. Don't imagine tumors shrinking, bones mending etc as that would send some of the energy to the problem itself. Pure intentions will do the very best, keep it simple and visualise the person well, vibrant and smiling.
The power of serenity is a wonderful thing too, so it's important to stay calm before starting on a remote healing session.
A good way to do this is through meditation and by strengthening your contact with the natural world. Some find it helpful to go outside, breathe and fell any stress releasing into the earth. Consciously relax every muscle, so you are a conduit for healing.
Here are some techniques for healing...
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It can be the smallest word that's been said to you that's stuck with you, children who have been told they're stupid, worthless or worse can grow up believing it to be true, and because it's an adult that has usually told them they believe it's validated. As adults we can also believe words that's said by others, or we see someone who we deem to be better than us, due to looks or accomplishments and we judge ourselves.
Imagine being a child or adult and not having those words said to you? Imagine ignoring those words and how confident you would be feeling now?
Society has changed over the years, where we all know or have heard the benefits of being positive, giving positive affirmations and not validating the negative. I believe we are going through a phase of change in the world, which has been creeping up over quite a few years with a few more to go. I myself, made a conscious decision when i had my children that i would only give positive affirmations and not fall into the negative judgements. So when they would have, for example, spelling tests at school, and maybe the mark would be 8/10 or 9/10 and they would say "ah i only got this mark or that mark", i'd always tell them well it's left you room to improve your mark next time, or "it's better than less" but i'd always tell them they can only try their best and the important thing is the trying. If you don't try you will never know. If they ever say their stupid, i tell them "no you're not, you just havn't used your brain but you'll know better next time" I've carried out the positive affirmations throughout their life and they both have a "quiet confidence" about them that always surprises me.
Self confidence is a daily affirmation of "you can do this" "you are better than you think" " you got this" and more.
Daily affirmations of self love can be looking in the mirror once a day and, even in your mind telling yourself your a good person, you look lovely, you deserve success etc they really can change your outlook on yourself as the inner self in acknowledged and validated.
Here are a few ways you can show yourself love.
I truly hope some of these techniques work for you.
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I get asked a lot about crystals, which room to keep them in and which ones to keep etc here are a few with a suggestion of a place to keep them...
The bathroom, placed beside the bath is a good place, as you can focus without distraction as you soak. They're also decorative,very pretty to look at and also healing. A large statement piece goes well as does a clear glass bowl filled with a variety of crystals. On a windowsill can be ideal too, as the sunlight catches the crystals and reflects from the different facets.
Amethyst or citrine can energise the room, crystal quartz when paired with other crystal energies can amplify them.
As people relax in the bath, they think about problems, clear quartz helps with concentration and your memory. Blue calcite soothes anxiety and helps release negative emotions aiding communication too. Yellow calcite is uplifting, helps for deep relaxation and again helps to elimate negative influences, thoughts and emotions.
For meditation, moonstone is great for intuition, positive thinking, inner growth and insight. Using amethyst for meditation is purifying, balances hormones and/or moods. Joy and enthusiasm is stimulated with citrine.
Rose quartz is ideal for self love, self esteem and confidence.